“I’d Rather Leave Than Communicate…” | This Episode Got HEATED

[00:00:24] Speaker A: Damn. Glee is that hard. Damn, man. Everybody say pee the first time. [00:00:37] Speaker B: Okay, so you too good for homicides, and you too good for spending time. That's why I'm trying to get you out of my way Even though you look real good from behind. I'm trying to see what's in your mind See, I'm gonna say the sheep these be thanking. I'm talking about them peas in the pot. Peas in the pot. Peas in the podcast. [00:01:03] Speaker A: Yo, yo, yo, yo, yo. What's happening? It's your boy Jay with the ink. You tune to another episode of Peas in the Pod live on this good old Sunday. I'm saying clap it up, know what I mean? I got my lovely co host on the side of me. Hey, that's all y' all gonna do. You know how to introduce yourself. Who are you? [00:01:35] Speaker C: Kaylin. [00:01:36] Speaker A: Y. You can hear Kaylin? [00:01:39] Speaker C: Yeah. [00:01:40] Speaker A: I got my accountability partners here with me today. [00:01:42] Speaker C: Yep. [00:01:44] Speaker A: Unfortunately, you know what I'm saying? Oh, how many views we got? Where we at? Anyways, listen, before we get started, right, I really want to apologize to my people for. Okay, so you excessive behavior, you know what I'm saying? Let myself get outside my body. But we ain't doing that no more. [00:02:25] Speaker D: Everybody take a shot today. [00:02:27] Speaker A: I ain't taking no more shots, bro. I'm done with the shot you own. [00:02:31] Speaker C: So you taking accountability? [00:02:33] Speaker A: Yeah, I did a little too much. [00:02:36] Speaker C: Yeah. [00:02:36] Speaker A: That's why I kind of, like, just fell back. I still ain't done falling back. I don't even know why we here today. The Lord just put it on me, okay? [00:02:45] Speaker C: Ain't nothing wrong with that. [00:02:46] Speaker A: Saying can have some little great conversation. You feel me? But, but, but, but. Shades back on. We won't be acting the no more. Want nobody to get me out my body, you know what I'm saying? And we just going to move forward. You feel me? But you said what? [00:03:07] Speaker C: Absolutely. [00:03:10] Speaker A: But I don't feel like I did a lot. [00:03:12] Speaker C: He who angers you controls you. You let people take control, right? You got to take control of your actions and your accountability for what you do. And there are some people that gonna do it just to trigger you. [00:03:24] Speaker A: I picked up some. Some good habits, though. You know what I'm saying? [00:03:28] Speaker C: What happens, Jeremy? [00:03:29] Speaker A: I start journaling. [00:03:31] Speaker C: Oh, okay. You read that book I gave you? [00:03:35] Speaker A: No, but I. Journal. [00:03:38] Speaker C: Yeah, That's a step. [00:03:41] Speaker A: Talk to me, Talk to me, talk to me. Y' all should try journaling, man. You know what I'm saying? I. I used to feel like me typing on Facebook. I'M trying to stop cursing my mama right here, but she cursed, too. [00:03:54] Speaker C: If you. [00:03:55] Speaker D: No, I don't. Oh, God. If you. [00:03:57] Speaker C: No, I don't. No. Thank you, K. Yes, you. [00:04:01] Speaker D: No, cuz. [00:04:02] Speaker A: Where you think I got it from? Where did I get it from? [00:04:06] Speaker C: You didn't get it from me. [00:04:09] Speaker A: Who you got it from? My mama used to, like, [00:04:13] Speaker C: no, like, [00:04:14] Speaker A: put hands on me, bro. Like a. Like a. Like a real. Like she. [00:04:20] Speaker C: Why? [00:04:21] Speaker A: For talking in class again? Talking in class makes you that angry [00:04:26] Speaker C: you still ain't owning up to your accountability? What was I getting in trouble for being Jeremy? Except no, you. I stayed on you for stuff you said to people. [00:04:41] Speaker A: You don't know what I said to nobody. [00:04:43] Speaker C: I knew two weeks into sixth grade. Yes, I do, Ma. [00:04:46] Speaker A: You got to let stuff go, okay? That was old. We talking about. I'm talking about 10th. 10th. 11th grade. You still talking about six. [00:04:54] Speaker C: Okay, 10th grade. 11th grade. [00:04:57] Speaker A: You should have been locked up. [00:04:59] Speaker C: 13th grade. [00:05:01] Speaker A: I ain't never went to 13th grade. We should have been locked up. How you put your hands on me? [00:05:07] Speaker C: Okay, well, you lived. [00:05:09] Speaker A: Barely. [00:05:10] Speaker C: And you. You where you are today because of them hands. [00:05:14] Speaker A: How is that real? You yelling. You ain't never got hit. [00:05:19] Speaker D: I ain't did nothing to get. [00:05:20] Speaker C: Yeah, [00:05:23] Speaker A: I guess I was supposed to be. [00:05:24] Speaker C: What that say? Get your mama. What? [00:05:27] Speaker A: Oh, we got comments. What? They say that pj. [00:05:32] Speaker C: What he say? [00:05:33] Speaker A: You can't. You got on real reading glasses. You can't see that. [00:05:37] Speaker D: Mama on the show. [00:05:39] Speaker C: Yeah. [00:05:40] Speaker D: He swear she a celebrity. [00:05:42] Speaker C: I am. [00:05:42] Speaker A: Yeah, y' all made my mom over [00:05:45] Speaker C: overnight. Celebrity. [00:05:48] Speaker A: Talk about get mama on the show. Got mama on the show. Yeah, yeah, yeah, for sure. What's up, pj? What's happening? What's happening? How y' all doing today? I appreciate y' all for tapping in on this good old Sunday, you know what I'm saying? I really don't even know what we talking about. [00:06:00] Speaker C: We talking about accountability. [00:06:01] Speaker A: Accountability? [00:06:02] Speaker C: Yeah. [00:06:03] Speaker A: Which women lack. [00:06:04] Speaker C: Which men lack. [00:06:06] Speaker D: It. [00:06:06] Speaker C: It just not just going to be just women, you know what I'm saying? [00:06:09] Speaker A: Cuz, my sister ain't like. My sister ain't got no accountability. My mama don't got no accounting. [00:06:15] Speaker E: Right? [00:06:16] Speaker A: You seen how I just said how Mama used to do me? And she talking about because I'm Jeremy. Who raised Jeremy. [00:06:21] Speaker C: We're talking about accountability. You still trying to defeat everybody. I'm accountable for my answers. Yeah, I will be sometimes. I'm accountable for my ex. [00:06:31] Speaker D: But honestly, though, he get that from you because y' all act alike. Y' all do echo like. [00:06:36] Speaker A: Like, thank you, Kaylin. Thank you, thank you, thank you, thank you. Because now she's sitting here acting like she don't know what nobody's talking about. [00:06:45] Speaker D: Y' all do act alike. Like, how? You be like, on 10, mommy get on 10. I'd be like, why are you yelling? Like, talking. I'm not yelling. So y' all do act alive. [00:06:58] Speaker C: So I'll take accountability if you say that. You see it. Okay, that's fine. [00:07:02] Speaker A: She could take it from you. But not for me, the nigga who got beat up. Let's talk about for the first 17 years of his life. [00:07:13] Speaker C: Yeah, he did. Really? [00:07:15] Speaker A: You know how many times I used to go in the room, bro? You know how, like, y' all mama used to do something to you, and you go in the room, close the door. [00:07:20] Speaker C: Like, motherfucking [00:07:24] Speaker A: word, boy. [00:07:26] Speaker D: Cussing in your head. [00:07:27] Speaker A: Cussing in your head. [00:07:28] Speaker C: Ain't that right? Ain't that right, Kayleen? [00:07:30] Speaker A: Say my mama say, Kayla, you be cussing at me. I cuss at you in my head. What you be saying? [00:07:40] Speaker C: Oh, motherfucking bitch. [00:07:42] Speaker A: I say, dog, [00:07:46] Speaker D: she caught me on a bad day. Must be. [00:07:48] Speaker A: Oh, boy. Kayla pull out some big words on you, too, boy. [00:07:53] Speaker C: Hey, Kayla. [00:07:55] Speaker A: So how you both of y' all in a relationship? Where germ at? He on here. [00:08:04] Speaker C: So listen, boy, don't do that. Hey, don't do that. [00:08:08] Speaker D: Don't start. [00:08:09] Speaker C: Don't start. [00:08:10] Speaker A: This one's still mine. [00:08:11] Speaker C: No, she's not yours. [00:08:13] Speaker A: What is she? [00:08:14] Speaker C: She belongs to me and the Lord. [00:08:16] Speaker A: So what? Where do I fall in? [00:08:17] Speaker C: You belong to me in the Lord. [00:08:19] Speaker A: Where does Kayla fall under me? [00:08:21] Speaker C: You're her baby, her big brother. [00:08:23] Speaker A: Okay? [00:08:24] Speaker C: She don't need no protection right now. [00:08:26] Speaker A: You don't know what she needs. She's never not gonna need my protection. [00:08:30] Speaker C: She don't need no protection. So let's talk about accountability, Jeremy. Like I said, though, you aggravated dating. [00:08:38] Speaker A: What you want to talk about accountability? [00:08:39] Speaker C: You said accountability. [00:08:40] Speaker A: So how you and daddy last so long? [00:08:43] Speaker C: I've always told you the biggest thing is communication. [00:08:47] Speaker A: Y' all don't be communicating, though. [00:08:48] Speaker C: Yes, we do. [00:08:49] Speaker A: Daddy got the. Daddy got to want to communicate with you because sometimes you go a little too far. [00:08:55] Speaker C: But, Jeremy, it ain't last this long. And I ain't gonna sit here and tell you it ain't gonna be a lot of yelling and fussing and cussing. I'm not. I'll be lying if I tell you that. I'll be lying if I tell you. There are times I'll be mad to be like, I'm more. I'm sick of this. But I'll be lying telling you that I don't always feel like that. But you got to work it out. [00:09:13] Speaker A: What you mean you sick of it? [00:09:14] Speaker C: When at that. In that moment you aggravated and you'll be ready to say, bump it. [00:09:19] Speaker A: You ain't gonna leave my daddy. [00:09:20] Speaker C: I'm not. I'm still there. I said. I never said that. It won't be moments like that you [00:09:26] Speaker A: gonna get hands put on you. [00:09:27] Speaker C: Soon as you walk through you. You just got to be able to say, okay, either we could do this or not. You got to be able to talk. Everybody ain't my readers and no, and everybody ain't born to read minds. There's nobody on this earth born to read minds. [00:09:43] Speaker A: Yeah, like you could read mine. What about you? [00:09:45] Speaker C: I read your actions. [00:09:48] Speaker A: You go, what about you? [00:09:52] Speaker D: I'm. I feel like I'm pretty good at holding myself. So one thing I realized, like, I [00:10:02] Speaker A: don't like how this. [00:10:03] Speaker C: This boy you ask, you rather have somebody that treating her like trash or somebody that going to be with her and respect her. Which one you want? You rather have somebody where you can't. You ain't got to worry about them. [00:10:17] Speaker A: Are that green? [00:10:18] Speaker C: Yeah. Hey, Michonne. [00:10:20] Speaker B: Hey. [00:10:21] Speaker D: But one thing I like, have learned, like, when you angry, like, it's best to just remove yourself because you know, when you anger, you say stuff that you. You know, you really feeling like that. But then it's like saying stuff that [00:10:36] Speaker A: people don't be liking. [00:10:37] Speaker C: That, though angry tongue is no different than a drunk tongue. It speak the truth. [00:10:41] Speaker A: Because I just be wanting to shut up. I don't be having nothing to say. You just catch. You just catch me at the point. But y' all be catching me at the point to where it's like, I didn't already shut up already. [00:10:54] Speaker C: But Jimmy, you let you. You'll go to a point, you'll go from 1 to 1000 in a millisecond. And once you at that point, there's no calming you down. You might as well just let you just ride it out. [00:11:05] Speaker A: One to 1,000 is kind of like [00:11:07] Speaker D: when I just walk away from you. I tend to just walk away from you. [00:11:11] Speaker A: When you like that, you walk away from who you. [00:11:15] Speaker D: I don't. [00:11:17] Speaker A: Girl, don't act like I be turning up on you. I don't like that. [00:11:19] Speaker D: You don't be turning. No, you don't be turning up on me. But I'm saying, like, when you get like that. Like it just be like just. [00:11:24] Speaker C: Yeah, just let him ride. [00:11:26] Speaker A: You ain't helping. Then you just get away from me. What the. That. I mean, what that means? [00:11:30] Speaker D: What you want me to do? [00:11:32] Speaker C: See? See? Reel in. Real in. We talking about the. Look. Look, what you. [00:11:35] Speaker A: I want you to do. [00:11:36] Speaker D: What you want me to do on this situation? [00:11:37] Speaker C: Give me a Situation. [00:11:38] Speaker D: Give me a hook. [00:11:38] Speaker C: Oh, God. [00:11:39] Speaker A: Right? [00:11:42] Speaker C: Do you want your mama to give you a hug? Why? [00:11:46] Speaker A: Tits too big. [00:11:48] Speaker C: You ain't had to say that. Okay. [00:11:51] Speaker A: My. You didn't scare. You didn't. You didn't. You didn't. You didn't scar me with them. Y' all don't know how my mama get. [00:11:57] Speaker C: You ain't gonna do that. What you not gonna do is do that. [00:12:00] Speaker D: Oh, okay. [00:12:01] Speaker C: You not gonna do that. [00:12:02] Speaker A: My mom used to have that moomoo on, bro. She want me to go in the room. Guess what she gonna do? Flip that, [00:12:11] Speaker C: Jeremy. [00:12:12] Speaker D: What? [00:12:14] Speaker C: What? [00:12:15] Speaker A: I used to have nightmares about you. Remember Auntie Trisha come around there like that. Oh, boy, I still ain't never go back at Auntie Trisha house. I ain't going back in there like that. She come around here like that. [00:12:24] Speaker C: Well, Trisha ain't here no more. [00:12:28] Speaker A: It don't matter. Look at Tyrone. Neat, though. What you did is not useful. [00:12:35] Speaker C: What do you. What do you consider being held accountable, Jeremy? [00:12:39] Speaker A: What you mean? [00:12:41] Speaker C: What do you consider this nigga just [00:12:43] Speaker A: going through my shit. Jeremy, I'm talking to Yoshi. I'm just talking trash. Cause you ain't engaging. [00:12:50] Speaker C: What do you consider being accountable? [00:12:53] Speaker A: As in what? [00:12:55] Speaker C: Okay, so accountability. And when you ask me what make me and Kevin where we are, what is the idea for you? Do you see yourself wanting to be like me and Kevin or me and your daddy? [00:13:10] Speaker A: I do. But I'm scared. [00:13:13] Speaker C: Scared of what? [00:13:13] Speaker D: Scared of. [00:13:17] Speaker A: It's just like. [00:13:18] Speaker C: Life is just you, okay? Life is what it is. You ain't scared to do whatever you want to do when you want to do it. [00:13:27] Speaker A: What does that mean? Like. What are you talking about? [00:13:31] Speaker C: Like, okay, like, last night, you. You went. What is this girl talking about? I'm trying to find it. You. First of all, you need to let me finish. [00:13:41] Speaker A: Yo, she got to click on the actual page. No, hit the Facebook button. That what you get for clicking stuff. Now go and click that little circle right there. My profile picture? No, the other side. On top of the story. Look, y. Well, you can post the status at Yusuf. Click that. Click the c. Click the picture. [00:14:04] Speaker C: Why is you yelling? [00:14:06] Speaker A: Cause I done told Yoshi. [00:14:07] Speaker C: Don't talk to Yoshi like that. [00:14:09] Speaker A: I love Yoshi. Yoshi. I. I ain't even going to lie. You ain't even my friend if you can't like accept my tone sometime. Cuz I don't even be having to, you know, I don't have the time to sit here and explain to people like, oh, I don't mean it like this. I don't mean it like this. Listen to what I'm saying. [00:14:25] Speaker C: I don't. [00:14:25] Speaker A: If I got to keep doing that with you, we ain't gonna be cool. That's just that because people be sensitive as hell. I don't have time for all that. [00:14:32] Speaker C: Okay, you still ain't answering my question about accountability and what, what kind of, what would you want? [00:14:39] Speaker A: I don't know what I want. Honestly and truthfully. And sometimes, sometimes like. As a man, bro, when you kind of been through something, like on some, on some like relationship stuff, it kind of set you back. [00:14:56] Speaker C: But you can't carry that baggage into the next one. [00:14:58] Speaker A: Okay, so how am I gonna be a better person for you if I didn't handle my baggage? [00:15:03] Speaker D: You have to handle it first. [00:15:04] Speaker A: Okay, go ahead. [00:15:08] Speaker D: I'm just saying, like, you have to handle it first before the next person. [00:15:12] Speaker A: Come on now, he confused. [00:15:14] Speaker C: Yeah. [00:15:15] Speaker D: Or you get yourself in with, with the next person. And that's just from experience, you know, you'll end up hurting the person. [00:15:25] Speaker A: Yeah. And that's. And that's another thing too though. I. I got, I'm trying to start looking at it from like maybe I'm not always right and maybe I'm not. Maybe my way really ain't. I could have did this better. I could have did. You know what I'm saying? So I ain't really trying to like. And like I said, I feel like it just set me back because it like. [00:15:46] Speaker C: And that's part of being, holding yourself accountable right there. That part, that part right there. [00:15:50] Speaker A: You give me an 8 out of 10. I think I'm a 10 out of 10. [00:15:53] Speaker C: But you say one sentence and you going to 10. [00:15:56] Speaker A: So how many sentences I had to say to get eight right? But anyways, like I'm saying though, my thing is some people can kind of like, then I ain't like no rebound person. You know how like a, a person kind of just like you need to bounce from situation to situation, you know what I'm saying? Then somebody can be treating me right and it'd be scary. It'd be scary. [00:16:25] Speaker C: People get stuck in situations because they choose the same person and a different person. That's the truth. That's the truth. [00:16:32] Speaker A: What'd she say? [00:16:33] Speaker C: People pick the same. They stuck in the situation because they choose the same person and the different person every time. [00:16:38] Speaker A: I don't know about y', all, but I'm a lever. I'll leave, [00:16:44] Speaker C: but if you go ahead. Okay. [00:16:48] Speaker D: I was just saying with that, like, I feel like some people do it subconsciously, like they just accustomed something, and then, you know, it's just like looking back, they like, dang, I keep going for this same pattern. [00:17:04] Speaker C: Yep. [00:17:06] Speaker A: Mama said my pattern be big, but. [00:17:12] Speaker C: It is. [00:17:14] Speaker A: No, I just like what I like. [00:17:16] Speaker C: But, you know, you. You look at the outside, and. And then when you realize the inside, it can't. [00:17:21] Speaker A: So can't nobody be a good person because they got a big butt. [00:17:24] Speaker C: No, I'm not saying that. I said. You said that. I said you have a type, which you do. And. And it end up with what you picked outside. And ain't nothing wrong with the outside. Outside appearance is good. But then when you get to know the person, you be like, oh, this ain't what I like. And then what you do? [00:17:46] Speaker A: Cause that's what I be doing. I pick you for the. So everybody that I, I. I pick, I just pick for the outside and, like, looks. Because is that the case, we don't have no conversations to the point where [00:17:58] Speaker C: it's like, you do you have conversations, though? [00:18:01] Speaker A: What you mean? [00:18:05] Speaker C: Okay, [00:18:08] Speaker A: everybody deserve a conversation. [00:18:10] Speaker C: Everybody deserve a conversation. But let you tell it. I say you lift the ponytail up and look at the back. [00:18:14] Speaker A: That what you be thinking. I could do you. You like. Y' all got a barcode on y' all so I could just scan. Oh, that's the type of women you choose? How many deadbeat baby daddies out here? [00:18:24] Speaker C: We ain't doing that. [00:18:25] Speaker A: No, I'm just saying, though. I'm just saying. So it's not like people are waking up to choose somebody that's wrong for them. That ain't fair. You can't keep telling me that. It's the women you choose. It's what your type is. It's. You like big butts. I don't want no little ass walk around my house all day. [00:18:41] Speaker D: But what if they're a good person? [00:18:42] Speaker C: Right? [00:18:42] Speaker A: They just ain't for me. [00:18:44] Speaker C: So you again? [00:18:45] Speaker D: A little bit. They just going like, they could be Kayla. [00:18:49] Speaker A: I. I like what I like. [00:18:51] Speaker C: So that's what. That's the point I was making about Big buzz. [00:18:55] Speaker A: What? [00:18:56] Speaker C: So she. [00:18:57] Speaker D: You got a. But you Find somebody with a big butt and then they still not checking off. [00:19:02] Speaker A: So let's just say I go get a flat ass. Or am I guaranteed to to get married and have the love of my life? [00:19:08] Speaker D: I'm not saying you're guaranteed, but I mean that's just something that. I just think that's something minuscule feel like you saying they got like, you don't want no small butt. Like what does that have to do with pancakes? [00:19:19] Speaker A: Oh my God. It ain't got nothing to do with personality. This is just what my preference is. Like it's you, you like you. [00:19:28] Speaker D: I mean, I'm just asking. [00:19:29] Speaker A: I can't help that. That's just like me not liking white girls. It's probably a white girl out here that'll treat me the way I want to be treated. Because how these people be making the scene. Or Bridges, go try a white girl. [00:19:39] Speaker C: Callie says so. Cousin, what's wrong with flag Man? [00:19:45] Speaker A: Ain't nothing wrong with that. Okay, [00:19:51] Speaker E: everything. [00:19:51] Speaker A: You've got my back. [00:19:52] Speaker D: But what if they're a good person like you? [00:19:55] Speaker A: They could be a great person. [00:19:56] Speaker E: Well, let me say this. You have to be attractive. You have to be attracted to the person that you're with. [00:20:04] Speaker A: Because love. [00:20:04] Speaker E: Ain't people gonna say. People say whatever they want to. But at the end of the day, what gets you to what gets. I'm not saying, I'm just joking in aspect and that aspect. I'm joking because everybody has their own preference, right? [00:20:17] Speaker A: Right. [00:20:17] Speaker E: And so whatever is attractive to them. I don't think we could fault them for what's attractive to them. Now you can't because you can't see a person's personality. So that's when. When people be like, man, they got a good person. I said, well, I gotta like what I'm with physically as much as I like it mentally because I gotta look at you. I don't. First time you see somebody in the grocery store, at the bar, at the club, you don't see their personality. You don't see. [00:20:44] Speaker A: I'm trying to get to know your person. [00:20:45] Speaker E: I'm trying to get to know after the attraction, right after the initial attraction. [00:20:50] Speaker C: So what do like Callie. So what do you want? [00:20:54] Speaker A: Oh no, What am I supposed to say to that? Everybody knew. I wanna get married. Gabby. [00:21:04] Speaker C: Hey, what if the personality is attractive? [00:21:08] Speaker E: I have to get to your personality. [00:21:10] Speaker A: Right. [00:21:10] Speaker E: Like if I'm not attracted to you sight wise. Now if we work together and. Or we're friends and we've somehow gotten to. Yeah. And we somehow kind of got to that point, then yeah. But if we like initial contact, initial person seeing. [00:21:28] Speaker A: What are you laughing at, Cal? [00:21:29] Speaker C: Look at that girl, Kelly. [00:21:30] Speaker E: That man sound like, [00:21:33] Speaker C: okay, Cali. [00:21:34] Speaker E: How is that dumb? Like, so. So women are with. [00:21:38] Speaker A: She just a hurt. [00:21:39] Speaker E: I'm just saying. [00:21:40] Speaker C: I'm just saying. [00:21:41] Speaker E: So women are with. No, so. So y' all see a man personality first. You're not attractive to it. You're not attracted to him. [00:21:47] Speaker A: You said what I'm saying, so. [00:21:48] Speaker E: No, she said we sound like a man. So what I'm saying is, like, you have to be attracted initially meeting somebody, aren't you? Don't you have to be attracted to them to want to pursue something? [00:22:01] Speaker A: Right, because that's the point I'm making. [00:22:03] Speaker E: I'm not saying. Not after. After we start talking if your personality is trash. I mean, I'm not gonna be around for that. Yeah, okay, but initially, like, you can't tell me if a man walk up to you and tries to holl at you and you single, but he not attractive and you in a space where you looking for somebody, you're not attracted to him. You're not gonna give him your number. Can nobody tell? [00:22:23] Speaker A: Because he might be got a great personality. [00:22:25] Speaker E: You don't see the personality when he woke up. [00:22:27] Speaker C: Okay, so I' ma say this then. So what about if not so much as a big butt, what about like a pancake ish butt? [00:22:33] Speaker A: Like, what does she want me to do, bro? She want me to have a flat ass so bad. That flat ass. Girl, look, look, I ain't go. It's, you know, booty flat and get into arguments and get the hitting on. But I guess you a good person because you don't turn heads because you're monkey for that. It's not making no sense. You act like just the flat asses of America means savior. [00:23:03] Speaker C: Now you say that. [00:23:04] Speaker A: Yes, it is. [00:23:04] Speaker C: Cause you. You act like big butts mean savior. It do. [00:23:07] Speaker A: Cause when I see you in that little sundress. See, see, see, I love me a boom. I love me a big butt. I ain't gonna lie. [00:23:14] Speaker C: So big butt. So I ain't gonna say pancake ish. Then. So what about aver? [00:23:20] Speaker A: We just had people on here talking about the size dick that they got. We can't control that. [00:23:25] Speaker C: She can't control her butt. [00:23:26] Speaker A: It's some girls that don't want to deal with because you got this, you shrimping. Oh, so I can't prefer a big ass. [00:23:33] Speaker C: Gabby said pancake is just crazy. [00:23:36] Speaker A: Goodness gracious. I'm I've never seen people like this. I've been getting ridiculed for this for so long. Bro, you always picking a big butt in a smile. What the hell am I supposed to face? [00:23:47] Speaker D: But where has that got you? [00:23:48] Speaker A: Where is a. Where is a flat booty gonna get me? [00:23:50] Speaker C: You ain't never tried. You don't know I did. [00:23:53] Speaker A: That girl that was kicking my tattoo, she all the way across. All across urban street. You had to come pick me up? No, she had the flattest ass in America. Did she treat me good? Let's talk about it, huh? [00:24:08] Speaker C: Somebody said bring. [00:24:09] Speaker A: I ain't talking about. I'm talking to you. [00:24:10] Speaker C: What? Did she treat me good? [00:24:14] Speaker D: So a pancake didn't do you good? A big butt didn't do you good. [00:24:17] Speaker A: I just get done wrong by a big ass. Everybody gonna do you wrong. It don't matter what. [00:24:24] Speaker C: Oh, right. Exactly. [00:24:26] Speaker A: Tables didn't turn, huh? [00:24:27] Speaker C: Exactly. [00:24:28] Speaker A: Females be the ones. [00:24:29] Speaker C: So females one of the ones doing you wrong. Meaning flat. Pancake. Ish. [00:24:33] Speaker A: None. So you just want me to be with a flat ass just to say I. [00:24:37] Speaker C: You keep going to what I say about being him with a flat. But I ain't saying you got to be with a flat butt. I say you look at the person on their butt. [00:24:46] Speaker A: What else? So when you. When you. When you see a man, you already got your man. But what do you look at first? [00:24:54] Speaker D: Probably they shoes. [00:24:57] Speaker C: Shoes have no dirty shoes. [00:24:59] Speaker A: Okay, talk to me. And what else? [00:25:01] Speaker D: Haircut. [00:25:02] Speaker A: Okay, talk to me. [00:25:04] Speaker C: Your teeth. [00:25:06] Speaker A: Okay. And what else? That's it. So I can't walk up to a woman and want to see you with a big ass? Cause would you talk to a nigga who wear rainbow slides? He walk up on you with rainbow slides on them? Nah. Cause we talking about personality and shit now. [00:25:22] Speaker C: Maybe he going to the beach or something. [00:25:23] Speaker A: He ain't going to no beach in Magnolia Mall. Hoes just crusty, too. But he gonna treat you good. Fingers nasty. You ain't even want this nigga to touch you. [00:25:35] Speaker C: Well, you missing my point. [00:25:38] Speaker A: No, I'm not missing your point. Cause you missing mine. [00:25:40] Speaker C: No, I'm not missing your point, Jimmy. [00:25:42] Speaker A: You might as well get used to the big brunch. We ain't doing all that talking about. He the problem. Cali. [00:25:49] Speaker C: Leave Cali alone. Cali's entitled to her opinion. [00:25:53] Speaker A: Hey, man, I'll be the problem. I've been the problem my whole life. [00:25:57] Speaker C: My shoes. My shoes. Aggravated. [00:26:02] Speaker A: Let me tell you something, buddy. [00:26:04] Speaker C: Don't. That's. Don't do that. Jeremy, I hate a man in Sanders. Gabby, you know what? [00:26:15] Speaker A: You hate a man that Sanders, right? Come on. That what I'm saying. Like that ain't looking like no provider or no protector. He walking up on you with rainbow slides on, trying to talk to you. Slide his toes out in public too. [00:26:30] Speaker C: He wiggling them. [00:26:31] Speaker A: John. Where John? John just got over. [00:26:39] Speaker E: John literally got on talking about what I missed. [00:26:41] Speaker C: Callie said she look at what's what. Your. Your teeth? [00:26:45] Speaker A: No, she said what? When I meet a man, the first thing I look at, the first thing I looked at is what you say at your mouth. What the is you talking about? [00:26:56] Speaker D: I think she meant what you say. Stay out your mouth, cuz. [00:26:58] Speaker A: You call people dumb and you just on here typing some dumb stuff. [00:27:01] Speaker C: Leave Cali alone. [00:27:06] Speaker A: Here I go. Hey, Jeremy. What? [00:27:08] Speaker D: His name is Jamari. [00:27:09] Speaker A: Jamari. [00:27:10] Speaker C: Leave Jamari alone. Hey, boy, you done went way left. Let's go back to let real back in. You saw him and you. [00:27:17] Speaker A: I don't like the fact my sister got a boyfriend. [00:27:21] Speaker C: Child, if you don't have to wait and sit down. [00:27:23] Speaker A: Hey, Jamar boy. I mean what I say, boy. [00:27:25] Speaker C: John said he catch a stray and he just logged in. [00:27:32] Speaker A: Feet, man. [00:27:35] Speaker C: So you. So you. [00:27:37] Speaker D: You. [00:27:37] Speaker A: That's rainbow slides, though. He wear Nike slides. [00:27:39] Speaker C: Oh, God. That's just your preference, right? [00:27:41] Speaker A: What? Be what? Not necessarily. I've done seen like some attractive women that don't got like a, you know, big butt. Yeah, but I. [00:27:51] Speaker C: That what you like? You like what? [00:27:53] Speaker A: You like short with a big ass? [00:27:54] Speaker C: Oh, God. [00:27:56] Speaker A: Got me [00:27:58] Speaker C: not pancake. Ish. [00:28:00] Speaker A: No Pancakes, we ain't doing that. I don't feel like I'm the type of man that deserve a pancake booty. [00:28:05] Speaker C: What? You deserve a woman that's gonna treat you right. That's what you deserve. With respect. [00:28:14] Speaker A: With a boy with a body. [00:28:16] Speaker C: Oh God. Like a bit. [00:28:21] Speaker A: Cuz. You think I'mma be like you talking about? You think I could be like a good man to somebody I'm not attracted to? [00:28:28] Speaker C: No, I'm not saying that. I ain't saying that. You could be. Jeremy, let me hush. [00:28:35] Speaker A: I mean, I like. I like. I like petite stuff too, but like. [00:28:38] Speaker C: It's okay, Brody. I got her from here. Yeah, Germ. That why I'm talking about. Germ? Yes, Germ. [00:28:45] Speaker A: Well, you need to delete that comment, boy. [00:28:47] Speaker C: No, he don't. You got it, Jaren. [00:28:51] Speaker A: No, the hell you don't. [00:28:52] Speaker C: Why he don't. He got it. [00:28:55] Speaker A: What you mean? What you mean you love this more than you love me? [00:29:00] Speaker D: That's a different type of them. [00:29:01] Speaker C: Two different kind of loves my boyfriend. [00:29:03] Speaker D: I love my brother. [00:29:04] Speaker C: Yeah. [00:29:05] Speaker A: You know what I would have said if she asked me that. Hell no. Nah, it's two different type of love. [00:29:10] Speaker C: But Jeremy, she can't love you like how she loved Germ. You can't. You can't expect her to love. [00:29:14] Speaker A: Yes, you can. [00:29:15] Speaker C: No, she can't. [00:29:16] Speaker A: That's different. [00:29:17] Speaker C: She can't kiss on you and love on you like she do. Germ. Come on now. Okay then. But I love you like I love your daddy. [00:29:25] Speaker A: Ever since she been dealing with your big headed ass, it'd be hard for me to get some affection. Like she didn't gave out all the hugs and she before I came over there. [00:29:33] Speaker C: I'm gonna pinch you. [00:29:35] Speaker A: Well, Jeremy boy. [00:29:38] Speaker D: No. [00:29:39] Speaker A: Yeah. No. [00:29:40] Speaker C: John. [00:29:41] Speaker A: Yeah. John. [00:29:41] Speaker C: John, John. [00:29:42] Speaker A: We gonna catch his ass too. [00:29:44] Speaker C: John. [00:29:44] Speaker A: We gonna catch him, bro. [00:29:46] Speaker C: John, we gonna catch him, bro. [00:29:48] Speaker A: We gonna catch him, bro. And I owe you one back. [00:29:50] Speaker C: Leave Jamari alone. [00:29:51] Speaker A: We gonna catch his ass. You got to know get physical over here. [00:29:55] Speaker C: No, it don't. Anyway, you. You got Jeremy come over here. You done lost all training. [00:30:03] Speaker A: Damn. [00:30:04] Speaker C: Leave him alone. [00:30:05] Speaker A: Why you. Why, why you like my sister anyway? You could have picked anybody else sister, but you want mine? [00:30:12] Speaker C: Because that what God said. No, John. John. [00:30:20] Speaker A: And he right. He from Darlington, bro. [00:30:22] Speaker C: John, you. I'm about to unfriend you. You ain't my friend, but I'm about to unfriend you. [00:30:26] Speaker A: You say, what about a petite girl with a cute little booty? See, that's what I mean. I like those too. That bookie ain't flat, it ain't pancake. You come standing in front of me looking like this. [00:30:39] Speaker C: Jeremy, really? [00:30:42] Speaker A: You just wide. [00:30:43] Speaker C: Really? So when you. When you meet her and she like what you. She's everything you check off at the box. The booty, the conversation, everything. You can see yourself with that one. [00:31:00] Speaker A: I'm not understanding the question. Like what you asking me. [00:31:08] Speaker C: What about what, what. What do you look for in a woman other than the butt? I don't want to hit nothing about the butt. [00:31:17] Speaker A: Tell me to go. Hey, man, I appreciate it. Again, you say what? I don't. What do I look for in a woman? [00:31:28] Speaker C: Yep. [00:31:30] Speaker A: Cause see, you always find you have [00:31:32] Speaker C: an issue with a woman. So what is it about a woman that you. [00:31:35] Speaker A: Well, don't do that. What issue? I got by with the woman. [00:31:37] Speaker C: Well, now I ain't gonna say an issue for you. They got to have the big butt. So now that she's got the big butt. What else that she got to have? [00:31:45] Speaker A: Why she stuck on that? [00:31:47] Speaker C: I said, now that she got the big butt, what else she got to have? [00:31:53] Speaker A: Not a lot of chilling, a job, a car, and a place to stay. [00:32:04] Speaker C: Okay, what about conversation? [00:32:06] Speaker A: Yeah, that's a must, or I ain't gonna, like, want to be around you. [00:32:11] Speaker C: And she got to have. She got to be able to. [00:32:12] Speaker D: What about her personality? [00:32:14] Speaker A: Yeah, she got to be able to cook, too. [00:32:16] Speaker C: What about her personality? She can sit and listen to Mary J. Blige with you. Tater Pendergrass with you. [00:32:24] Speaker A: Talk to me. Talk to me. But that's still scary, though. Crazy. Crazy as it sound, I know somebody who do all that, and she be scaring me. Cause she like to disappear like a superhero. Oh, shit. You know what I'm saying? Like, sometimes she'll just, like, go hit the booth and be gone for three hours. Hit the booth, the little phone. [00:32:45] Speaker C: She got to save. She got to save America. [00:32:47] Speaker A: She got to save Gotham City like the Joker and stuff. Then pop up, baby. [00:32:55] Speaker C: Then guess what? Hey, baby, Gabby said not too much on us. [00:32:58] Speaker A: She'd be trying to manipulate me. [00:32:59] Speaker C: Okay, so then if that's the case, and if that's an issue with you, address it. [00:33:03] Speaker A: I do not. [00:33:05] Speaker C: In an argument. You got to say it in a way. [00:33:07] Speaker A: She told me she was proud of me for how I addressed the last situation. She was like, oh, you ain't. You ain't got angry. You ain't. You talking right? [00:33:18] Speaker C: You know what I'm saying, right? [00:33:19] Speaker A: Cuz. Cuz you bought out of here. [00:33:20] Speaker C: But a Jesus. But a woman is a woman is going to receive as long as you talk like you got sense. [00:33:31] Speaker A: No, you going to receive anyway. [00:33:34] Speaker C: You can't expect a woman to receive. If I'm coming at you and I'm saying, well, Jimmy, you so and so and so and so and so. [00:33:39] Speaker A: Look at Gabby, the. You mean it, friend. What you talking about? [00:33:42] Speaker C: You want immediately tune me out because [00:33:45] Speaker A: you don't want not too much on us with the kids. [00:33:49] Speaker C: Did he not just hear me say that? He hear me say that. I said that just now. [00:33:53] Speaker A: No, I mean, she'll be all right. You got all them kids, girl. I love your kids, though. Boys just mixing up. Superheroes. Hey, man, all of them saved the world, bro. Peter Parker, Bruce Wayne. She might be Wonder Woman. [00:34:08] Speaker C: Oh, God. [00:34:10] Speaker A: Because she just be like. [00:34:11] Speaker C: But. But if you coming at her and you talk to her like somebody and not yelling, lord have mercy. [00:34:17] Speaker A: What did I just say? Because you said, I ain't heard you. So what did I just say? [00:34:21] Speaker D: So like when mommy start yelling like [00:34:23] Speaker A: oh wait, you automatically shut down. [00:34:26] Speaker D: You should be like, I don't really want to hear all that. [00:34:28] Speaker C: Oh, you, you listen just to respond to what I'm saying. You ain't listening to what I'm saying. You just listening so you can say something back. [00:34:34] Speaker A: Look at the pot calling killer black. [00:34:35] Speaker C: You, you. I'm talking about you with a relationship. Why are you talking about me? [00:34:39] Speaker D: Y' all act too much alike. That's all it is. [00:34:42] Speaker A: Who you getting? Who you getting hyped with? The. [00:34:44] Speaker C: The person looking to my right with [00:34:47] Speaker A: all that hand moving boy by. [00:34:50] Speaker C: Anyway, so when you get that and, and, and you come at her like that, she going to do the same thing and the energy just going to match. And y' all ain't gonna never get nothing accomplished. You asked me what I do to make it survive and that's what I'm gonna do. [00:35:06] Speaker A: John Wonder Woman for sure wondering where the. I'm telling you big bro John, you [00:35:10] Speaker C: come on here, you ain't been on here five minutes and you already causing cancer. [00:35:14] Speaker A: Make you feel so good. Then boom, here you go. [00:35:19] Speaker D: Exactly. Mom and son, that too much alike. [00:35:22] Speaker C: No, we don't. [00:35:23] Speaker D: We don't even realize it. [00:35:24] Speaker A: Like boom, there you go. [00:35:27] Speaker C: No we don't. [00:35:31] Speaker A: I'll be having to keep this one in check, bro. [00:35:32] Speaker C: Boy, go ahead on. Let's go move around. [00:35:35] Speaker A: You think I'm your man too? [00:35:36] Speaker C: Maybe she go missing. Cuz you haven't set those expectations. You might go. You might go missing for her too. [00:35:44] Speaker A: No, cuz see this is where accountability comes in that. Cuz this is a Gabby story. Cuz Gabby. Gabby goes missing. [00:35:50] Speaker C: Oh, don't do. Gabby is not here. Do. Uhuh. We not going to do Gabby. [00:35:54] Speaker A: You know what I'm saying? Like what's she talking about? But what like what expectations do you have to sit at this grown age of 25 plus to where you feel as though it's okay to disappear? That's what, that's what be. [00:36:09] Speaker D: But is it like energy? Like is it like you go missing? [00:36:13] Speaker A: If I'm missing, I'm working. I can't. I can't. It's not the same. No, it's not the same. [00:36:18] Speaker D: But do you communicate? Hey, X, Y, Z. [00:36:20] Speaker A: Why should I? [00:36:21] Speaker D: So why should they? [00:36:22] Speaker C: Again, there's communication. [00:36:25] Speaker A: Where am I? Like what does the communication come in at? If. If. What do you mean if you. If. If you want me to take you serious. You. You saying you want me to take you serious. This, that and the third, you switch up your pattern and disappear. You don't want me to take you serious. What am I gonna do? Like what you want me to do? Oh, you got down switching up your patterns. [00:36:46] Speaker C: Wait, why should I be a be? [00:36:48] Speaker A: Okay, but what, what, what, what am I supposed to do? Like I'm all right, bet I'm a shooter. Text. Hey, I don't like how you moving. This, this, this, this, this, this, that, and the third, whatever the case may be. And you keep moving. What am I supposed to do? Because now I'm setting myself up for a failure. Because I feel like I could talk to you about it. If this is what you do, this is what you do. I don't really have to keep going through that. [00:37:13] Speaker C: It got to be a two way street and it got to be communication. I'm not saying what you're saying is wrong. I'm just saying it's just got to be communication. [00:37:20] Speaker A: What you mean by disappear, all that? You know what disappear mean, y'? [00:37:24] Speaker C: All? [00:37:24] Speaker A: 8:30. Go to sleepers. You godly. [00:37:28] Speaker D: Yeah, some people really just go to sleep. [00:37:30] Speaker A: Yeah, some people. Hey, listen, but you don't go to sleep at 8:30 and I wake up before you. [00:37:37] Speaker C: Everybody's sleep pattern ain't the same, man. [00:37:39] Speaker A: Child, see, that's why I just be by myself. I don't got time for that. Your ass get your ass getting you getting clout through the floor. That's what's going on. [00:37:48] Speaker C: And that's how you feel. [00:37:52] Speaker A: Got a little time to get some. [00:37:53] Speaker C: If. If they really just might be just really sleeping. You just going to put it in your head. [00:37:59] Speaker A: I ain't going to tell you that. I'm. I ain't going to let you. The first time I might just. This thinks she sleep in my mind. I'll leave it alone. Keep doing it though. [00:38:09] Speaker D: But why do you automatically go to that? [00:38:11] Speaker A: What? Why do you automatically go to that, Kaylin, Everybody. I'm sorry, Kaylin, that you are a respectable young woman growing up in 20, 26. Everybody, ain't you? You got some whore friends too. Well, not friends. You got some, you know. You know, some people who get on. So you know exactly what. What point I'm coming from. [00:38:30] Speaker C: But you can't compare. [00:38:31] Speaker A: I'm coming from. Stop looking at it from y' all point of view all the time. [00:38:34] Speaker C: But you can't compare everybody to what some other people may do. [00:38:37] Speaker A: Man, stop disappearing. That's how you do it. Talking about some people go to sleep that early, they really do not my bitch. Yep. I go, you got. You got to go get a new. You like to go to sleep at 8 o'. [00:38:50] Speaker D: Clock. [00:38:50] Speaker A: Go get a new nigga. Sorry, my day just getting started. I might just just done finished doing tattoos then. You know what be so crazy you. It'd be girls that like, go to sleep at 8 o' clock and get around you and don't go to sleep at 8 o'. Clock. You're not tired. [00:39:09] Speaker C: They get around you and don't go to sleep at 8:00'. [00:39:11] Speaker A: Clock. [00:39:11] Speaker C: Yeah, they so they get wrong. They man and don't go to sleep [00:39:14] Speaker A: at 8 o' clock after your long [00:39:17] Speaker C: day and all day round their man and don't go to sleep. [00:39:20] Speaker A: But you shouldn't be able to stay up. [00:39:21] Speaker C: But if I ain't around my man, what else I'm gonna do but go to sleep? [00:39:24] Speaker A: Girl, I don't care about being around my my girl or whatever. If I'm sleepy, I'm sleepy. [00:39:33] Speaker D: What I'm saying Ty said, damn, she can't have a long day at work. [00:39:35] Speaker C: No, no, [00:39:38] Speaker A: no word bro. Like bro and and bro. Then they be trying to like bro, [00:39:44] Speaker C: you know, John, I can't stand you, John. [00:39:46] Speaker A: You know, like if enough women if enough women come together and say something or say the same, it. It's unbelievable regardless of whether or not it right or wrong. [00:39:54] Speaker C: Anyway, so what if a man do it? [00:39:56] Speaker A: Y'. All, y' all tell us we sassy [00:40:00] Speaker C: if you go to sleep at 8:00'. [00:40:01] Speaker D: Clock. [00:40:01] Speaker A: Oh, yeah, you. We can't even get lemonade. We can't tap the pee. All right. [00:40:11] Speaker C: No, Jeremy, I, I Dad, I just told my. [00:40:13] Speaker A: Oh, you run the tight ship. I sure do, buddy. [00:40:16] Speaker C: Some people are bored and go to sleep, but around that is definitely don't go to sleep. Right, man. Girl. And that's the truth. So if you in a pattern of [00:40:27] Speaker A: going to sleep, why you ain't coming to my house after your long day at work and get just go hop in the bed like I'm here when you done doing. [00:40:35] Speaker C: But then if she come over there and just hop into bed, then you could be like, well, dog, I mean, you don't want. [00:40:39] Speaker A: You ain't got time no be naked. [00:40:42] Speaker C: Some, some women will get that energy just enough to be able to speak, to be with their man. [00:40:47] Speaker A: Be naked. [00:40:47] Speaker C: Jeremy, please. [00:40:49] Speaker A: It ain't hard. It's not hard. I'm not hard to please. But you're not gonna sit here and act like you're definitely hard. [00:40:54] Speaker C: Please. [00:40:55] Speaker A: Well, you hard to please. Two women. I've been your son for 33 years now. [00:40:58] Speaker C: You've not been my man, though. [00:41:00] Speaker A: You, I can't tell. No, I can't tell. I can't tell. [00:41:04] Speaker C: You've been my son. [00:41:05] Speaker A: I can't tell. [00:41:05] Speaker C: You've been my man. You've been my son. [00:41:07] Speaker A: There it is. [00:41:08] Speaker C: Nope. [00:41:09] Speaker A: Because apparently you got two mans. [00:41:12] Speaker D: Two what? [00:41:13] Speaker A: Two mans. [00:41:14] Speaker C: Two men. No, I don't. Yeah, I do. [00:41:16] Speaker A: I know how to say it, Riri. [00:41:17] Speaker C: I know. [00:41:18] Speaker A: I'm being sarcastic. [00:41:19] Speaker C: I know who my other man is. [00:41:20] Speaker A: Who? Jeremy Marquez Wilson Jr. Well, now you got three. [00:41:24] Speaker C: Nope. [00:41:25] Speaker A: I got two that only that live for free with. [00:41:28] Speaker C: He sure can. All day, [00:41:32] Speaker A: whatever. [00:41:34] Speaker C: But most women, if they run their man. No, they ain't gonna be. Yoshi, you ain't got nothing to say? I need your comment. What you got to say about what Jeremy just said. So if your woman come over to you, if she sleep, if she Monday [00:41:44] Speaker A: through Friday, then say you rather her be over there then if she sleep. [00:41:48] Speaker C: You know that if she sleep Monday through Friday and she work and then she come to you. [00:41:55] Speaker A: Thank you, bro. Thank you, bro. And thank you, bro. [00:41:57] Speaker C: You don't expect her to go to sleep at that. No way. [00:41:59] Speaker A: You going to sleep at 8 and I'm up before you the next day. That's all I'm saying, bro. That's literally all I'm saying, bro. Broker, go to sleep at 8 o', clock, bro. [00:42:08] Speaker C: You. [00:42:08] Speaker A: And don't text you till 10, 11 o' clock in the morning. We ain't going to talk about superhero either, cuz Superhero text you at 11:30 and call you back at 5:00pm [00:42:22] Speaker C: and [00:42:22] Speaker A: you keep allowing that she only did it one time. Oh, you know what I'm saying, John? [00:42:27] Speaker C: Bye, John. Gets on my knees, nerve. [00:42:32] Speaker A: I mean, you're not asking for a lot, but you got to communicate that, bro. All right, so this is how I feel, right? This is how I feel. This is how I feel. I'm not gonna do something and maybe I got to stop thinking like that. I'm not gonna do something that I wouldn't want you to do to me, right? I'm not gonna behave in a way that I don't want you to behave with me. I'm not gonna leave questions in your mind that I. You got the answer for me. Like, it's just. It's simple, bro. Then we. We're. We're 20. We're 20 plus going on 30 and we still be having these conversations we didn't had. Boy, boyfriend, girlfriend says 9th, 8th, grade you. We still. You still can't get it right. [00:43:17] Speaker C: What you mean they can't get it right? [00:43:18] Speaker A: It just can't get right. A Got to keep telling you how to be a girlfriend again. [00:43:24] Speaker C: Every man ain't the same. You can't compare. You can't. You can't sit and say, she got to be this certain way with you, but she might be a different way with her other man. You can't. You can't compare the two, man. Bro, that's. That. [00:43:36] Speaker A: That's why I just be like. That's why I just, like. Rather just like. [00:43:40] Speaker C: But that's. [00:43:40] Speaker A: Get my mind together and be by myself, bro. Cause, like, it's like. It's like the stuff that y' all are requiring, bro. Like, it's like. It's. It's. It's. It's. It's aggravating as fuck. Why do somebody even have to do if you don't. If you don't have to do it to me, why do I got to do it to you? [00:43:57] Speaker C: Do what? All this explaining you, Jeremy, again, I keep saying to you, communication. You ain't got to have that same communication all the time. But after a while, it should come into a rhythm where you'll be like, okay, I know what works him and I know what works her. We. We kind of know boundaries of not to do that, to be respectful to each other. [00:44:18] Speaker A: Thank you. That's all me. Me personally, I don't like nothing who can't communicate. A text takes two minutes. They only take two minutes. [00:44:25] Speaker E: And you can see me take two seconds. [00:44:27] Speaker A: Well, you can send me an emoji, bro, but, yeah, I have to communicate with you that I don't like your formal community. I don't. I don't feel the need to do that. You just gonna, like, you're just gonna. You just. We just gonna lose some energy, bro. I don't feel the need. [00:44:40] Speaker C: Everybody different. [00:44:41] Speaker A: Did you set boundaries at the beginning? Did y' all discuss. I'm not even gonna respond to that question. [00:44:48] Speaker C: But everybody is different, and not everybody [00:44:53] Speaker A: has had healthy, mature relationships, though. Then you don't need to be over here. [00:44:57] Speaker E: You don't need to be over here. [00:44:58] Speaker A: You need to go heal, and you need to go. You need to go do that shit on your time, and we handle it when you get yourself together, bro. Because me, personally, I'm coming to you healed. I'm not coming to you punishing you for last person. I'm not coming to you. We ain't doing all that, bro. I just don't feel the need. [00:45:16] Speaker E: Your healing ain't my responsibility, [00:45:20] Speaker C: and your healing ain't her responsibility. [00:45:22] Speaker E: But I'm. If I'm. If I'm open to a relationship and being in a relationship, then I'm. Then that means I'm coming to you in that way. I know. I know what I expect of other people. So I'm trying to. I want to be that outwardly. [00:45:36] Speaker C: I don't in it. When it comes to relationship. I don't think nobody can ever say they'll be fully healed because they may be something that. Even though it's in the past, it may be something that you might do or say or act a certain way that might trigger something that doesn't happen with you from a previous relationship years ago. So I ain't gonna say you gonna always be fully healed, but you can be healed enough to where you can tolerate and it don't affect you. [00:46:03] Speaker E: But that's. But that's being healed then. But that's being. Because you've dealt with it. You've dealt with trauma. So if something triggers you. You're aware enough of yourself, what you had been through, to communicate that trigger with that person. [00:46:17] Speaker C: Exactly. [00:46:17] Speaker E: That's a part that. [00:46:18] Speaker A: That's. [00:46:18] Speaker E: That's being healed, right? That's being healed. Because now I can communicate with you. [00:46:22] Speaker C: Back in the day, if I hit [00:46:24] Speaker E: that trigger, if that would have happened, I'd have been out. [00:46:26] Speaker C: But now she. And not shut down when that trigger come either. And maybe at that moment, you may not want to speak on it because it may, you know, flare up more than what it should, but at a point, you got to be able to address it without feeling like you feeling being attacked. [00:46:43] Speaker A: And then Tara just said she not gonna know everything about you. She got to learn you. How long it take you to learn? Because now you not, not, not, not. Education comes in, and I not, like, comprehension comes in. How long do it take you? [00:46:57] Speaker C: So, Jeremy. Yeah. That what I want to ask. [00:46:59] Speaker D: How long you think it take you to learn your partner? [00:47:01] Speaker C: Right? [00:47:03] Speaker A: I don't know. [00:47:03] Speaker E: It takes months. It takes months, maybe. [00:47:06] Speaker C: It could take months. [00:47:07] Speaker E: Months. [00:47:08] Speaker A: All right. But these. These ain't conversations that's stimulating from, like, us getting to know each other either. Because I ain't checking if I'm just getting to know you. It's nothing to check. I don't have. I don't have that power in those sit in that situation to be checking nothing. So this will be months down the line that we got to keep doing that. I'm not Doing that? [00:47:27] Speaker E: No, I mean, I think it's a never ending thing. [00:47:28] Speaker A: All right, I'm not doing that. [00:47:29] Speaker C: No, I'm not going. [00:47:31] Speaker E: No, you're. But you're talking about the communication of how to deal with you, correct? [00:47:36] Speaker A: Yes. [00:47:36] Speaker E: And you believe that the things that you require are common sense things, correct? I'm asking. [00:47:44] Speaker C: He asking. [00:47:44] Speaker A: He asking you. [00:47:45] Speaker E: No, I'm asking you what you believe the things that you're. That you require of people are common sense things. You don't think. [00:47:51] Speaker A: Not necessarily. Not necessarily common sense things, bro. [00:47:53] Speaker E: But like on some things, that's not unreasonable, right? [00:47:57] Speaker A: Like, you know, that's disrespectful. Why do I have to let you know that's disrespect to what we got going on? Like, it's. It's like. And then a lot of women, bro, they don't be realizing, bro, but you was just somebody on the side. That's why that was acting like that with you. That's why he didn't care. That's why he didn't check you wasn't his only girlfriend. He ain't feeling needed to. You do what you do. I'm gonna do what I do. It's literally be that simple. [00:48:26] Speaker C: So if she find you and if you saying that she's been a side woman for how many. Whatever whoever the man is that she was allowing to do her like that, and she find you, and she might find everything in you that she want to be with you, and you might do something to make her feel some kind of way, but unintentionally, no. [00:48:44] Speaker A: I'm about to get on Tyra right quick. Tara said you're not asking for a lot. You just go about it the wrong way. What is the wrong way about me leaving you the alone? Like, what is the wrong way about that, bro? What's wrong about it? [00:48:57] Speaker C: She could be your woman. Well, she could be your. Well, so it sounds like you got triggers. So what are your triggers? [00:49:05] Speaker A: I don't got no triggers. Like, when people act like they slow, you got to have everything explained to you. Like every word got to come with that little dot. Like closed captions. Like you. You just can't understand. Oh, you didn't say that. You didn't say that. So I didn't know. [00:49:18] Speaker C: Yes, you do know, Jeremy. You have got. And again, this all go back to where me and you talked with the first thing I said to you. You, you, you. You can't be fussing. You got to be able to talk and everybody don't know what you expect? [00:49:33] Speaker A: Just. That's why I just shut up and leave. Literally, mom. Cuz then we sit here and say, you can't fuss. You can't do this. Your tone. This, bro. I'm telling you, bro, when I start communicating, bro, they find something wrong with it. Your tone. Oh, you didn't have to say that. So I just shut the up. I don't got nothing to say now. Now I'm wrong again. Lord have mercy. Like, I don't know. I just don't know. I. I just don't know. Yeah, because that's why I just shut up. [00:50:01] Speaker C: Yeah, because it's. It's like in your world, what will be considered perfect in your world? [00:50:08] Speaker A: I don't want perfect. That's. That. That's the problem. Like, I don't know. I don't. I don't require perfectness. [00:50:13] Speaker C: Okay, so what would you require? Average and ain't got to be perfect. What would you require? [00:50:20] Speaker A: I'm not giving nobody no list. Just be you. Be you for me. But I don't have no list, mom. [00:50:25] Speaker C: But if they're being them for you [00:50:27] Speaker A: and I don't like it, then that's cool. [00:50:29] Speaker C: Okay? [00:50:29] Speaker A: It's cool to experience people, bro, and realize this is not the experience for you. It's literally that simple. [00:50:39] Speaker C: I don't like Gabby, and that's the part that hasn't healed. That's true. [00:50:47] Speaker A: Well, Gabby, why I'm supposed to do just sit around reading the same book expecting a different ending, like certain people do. We could talk about that too. Because a lot of y' all just sit around just hoping the change. He didn't. He didn't showed you 65 times. He don't with you. But because you're so healed, you're gonna wait, right? [00:51:06] Speaker C: I don't know where this comes from. [00:51:07] Speaker A: You gonna communicate and wait? I'm just asking. No, this. This me and Gabby talking right now. You don't got to know where the kind. It's a lot of stuff you say on here, man. I don't know where it came from. Hence, flat booty. Do you see me over there? [00:51:23] Speaker C: I say pancake. Ish. [00:51:24] Speaker A: Whatever. [00:51:26] Speaker C: I didn't say flat. I said pancake. Well, you. You know what? I want you to be honest with yourself. Just be honest with yourself. [00:51:40] Speaker A: What? Be honest with myself about what? [00:51:45] Speaker C: Everything. [00:51:46] Speaker A: I'm not. What, man, what is you talking about? What random honesty? [00:51:50] Speaker C: Do you. Just saying. Rashawn said be transparent and intentional. [00:52:03] Speaker A: What did you just say? I'm be honest with myself about what? [00:52:07] Speaker C: Everything. With life, relationship. [00:52:11] Speaker A: See how. See how she ain't like. I don't know where this conversation just came. [00:52:15] Speaker C: I don't know where that came from either, because you. You. You. When it comes to relationship, you. You rather just leave than to try to work it out. [00:52:23] Speaker A: What is it to work out? [00:52:25] Speaker C: Whatever it is, you got to figure it out. Especially if you know this woman is for you. You can't be like every little tidbit, thing. Oh, I'm gone. Oh, I'm gone. I just told you that. I just told you at the beginning when it came to me. I've been married 26 years, and. But I've been with him since you were nine months old, so there were plenty of. Oh, I'm sick of this. Oh, I'm tired. But you got to figure it out. [00:52:50] Speaker A: Hey, listen, when. All right, car. Car. Just said no. You just gotta talk to your partner, gang. Every disagreement don't have to be an argument. Where did you get. We. We arguing from? And I just said I leave. [00:53:02] Speaker C: But that's. [00:53:03] Speaker A: You know what I'm saying? Like, [00:53:07] Speaker C: but that's not helping. [00:53:10] Speaker A: So I don't know. I really don't care. I understand, truthfully, like, my life ain't meant for everybody else to live. This is how I get peace. I don't do what everybody else do. I don't know. I don't know what you want me to do. [00:53:21] Speaker D: You might just be by yourself. [00:53:23] Speaker A: I didn't say that the first five minutes we had. [00:53:25] Speaker C: Minute 53. [00:53:27] Speaker D: But. But you say like, you like, mommy asked, do you want eventually to have something like her and Daddy? You say, yeah. So you don't want to be by yourself eventually. You want to find a partner. So it's kind of like, [00:53:45] Speaker A: what do [00:53:45] Speaker C: you want from that part, man? [00:53:46] Speaker A: This ain't supposed to be this type of goddamn, like, show. I mean, this supposed to be everybody point of view. We just talk about me like, y' all gonna make me love somebody tonight. [00:53:55] Speaker D: Nobody said that. But, I mean, we talking you. We talking about you, your situation, about [00:54:00] Speaker C: how you feel, or. [00:54:01] Speaker A: Every situation isn't meant to be fixed. Auntie. Sometimes there isn't even enough foundation to be. Thank you. Thank you, bro. [00:54:10] Speaker C: So what did you get out of the conversation that person just said to you? [00:54:12] Speaker A: What? [00:54:13] Speaker C: What? That you comment and saying thank you about. What did you get out of what she said? [00:54:17] Speaker A: That. That was Rashawn. [00:54:18] Speaker C: Oh, okay. So what did you get out of the conversation? [00:54:21] Speaker A: I'm just saying, though, like, what if it ain't like I'm trying To get to know you. Trying to like you or whatever the case may be. You doing weird. Like, what am I like? Me talking to you and telling you gonna make me like you some more. You just weird. [00:54:36] Speaker C: So Rashawn said. What did he say? Every foundation. [00:54:40] Speaker A: It's not a foundation. If we just started talking. What am I trying to fix? I don't love you. I don't know if I see myself with you forever. So if you're just doing weird, dumb stuff, well, I ain't got time for that. [00:54:51] Speaker C: But okay. So what you saying? They doing weird dumb stuff? How do you know if that's what. [00:54:56] Speaker A: You got to be specific again. [00:54:58] Speaker C: How do you know if that's not who you want? If you don't give a chance? How many chances do you give? [00:55:04] Speaker D: No. [00:55:04] Speaker C: One? Sound like no. [00:55:10] Speaker A: Hold on. What? What? Man, India changed her name so much, bro. Word. Well, she said also, when you do argue with your partner, it's best to picture them as a child, because that's who you're actually arguing with. Their inner child. We all walk around with it on display. Okay, that's some. It's a different perspective. You're not wrong for how you feel. It's just different ways to go about different situations. I mean, it is, but at the end of the day, bro, a lot of people are willing to take a lot of. To say they're in love or, this is my partner and I'm fixing this. And I don't feel like this is worth leaving. I'm not willing to do that. [00:55:54] Speaker C: So. [00:55:54] Speaker A: I'm sorry. I'm sorry. I'm sorry. I can't just keep taking on the chin. I can't. [00:55:58] Speaker D: What are things that you consider minuscule [00:56:00] Speaker C: that you feel like. [00:56:01] Speaker D: Okay, like communication. [00:56:02] Speaker A: Don't use them nurse words. [00:56:04] Speaker C: Oh, God. [00:56:04] Speaker D: Still is small. [00:56:06] Speaker A: Okay. It sounded like it. You know what I'm saying? So she had to put on her report. [00:56:11] Speaker C: What are some things that you consider that's that you can get past or [00:56:16] Speaker D: that you can be like, there she [00:56:17] Speaker A: go, here come her hurting ass. Unless they got a big butt, they get a thousand chances. How many big butts? I didn't kick it to the curve [00:56:24] Speaker C: too, but answer Kaylin question. [00:56:27] Speaker D: What are some things that you feel a communication. You feel like that's just something like you talk like that's. If they can't get that right. That's just it. So what are some things that you feel like you can work with. With somebody that you can kind of communicate and be like, okay, we can kind of. [00:56:41] Speaker C: I Can get past that. Yeah. [00:56:43] Speaker D: Or I can work with you on that. I can. Because a relationship is about learning and teaching. Like, you teach your partner things. So what is something that y' all can be like? I can teach you. [00:56:53] Speaker C: You know, what is a teaching. [00:56:55] Speaker A: Thank you. Love, Ms. Quinn. What'd she say? How to know what's worth fighting for and what is it? [00:57:02] Speaker C: That's what. That's kind of what Kaylin just. [00:57:04] Speaker A: I mean, I just don't be knowing sometimes. Like, bro, when I. When I love somebody, my. My shit gonna be natural. Like, I ain't really. Like, you ain't. I ain't got you checking off no boxes. I don't have a list of things that I want somebody to do for me. I don't. I don't. That's when you start putting. How can I say this? Putting people in categories. Bro, everybody's not going to check off the boxes that you got set for you. [00:57:31] Speaker C: Absolutely. [00:57:32] Speaker A: So the box is going to change with every person. [00:57:35] Speaker C: Yes, it is. [00:57:36] Speaker A: What did you sit here doing all that for? [00:57:40] Speaker D: Come on. [00:57:41] Speaker C: Come on. [00:57:41] Speaker D: For real? [00:57:42] Speaker A: Like. [00:57:42] Speaker E: Like. [00:57:42] Speaker A: Like I said something like. Eureka. Yeah, finally. [00:57:45] Speaker C: You did what? [00:57:47] Speaker A: Because I've been saying it the whole time. [00:57:48] Speaker C: No, all that. You was just saying, I'd rather leave. I ain't gonna do this. I ain't gonna do this because you [00:57:52] Speaker A: asking me different, man. Whatever. Ask a question. You want me to answer it, then don't be. If I got to answer it in my way, that's how it's gonna get answered. What is that, a P comment? [00:58:07] Speaker C: You got to teach each other. [00:58:08] Speaker D: Exactly. [00:58:09] Speaker A: I ain't teaching you. [00:58:11] Speaker C: Okay? You just. The comment you just made, and then you turn around and go to, dad, [00:58:16] Speaker A: I ain't teaching nobody nothing, though. I don't feel the need. But it a. [00:58:19] Speaker C: Don't consider it teaching, Jeremy. Just teach it. Just take as a learning. [00:58:23] Speaker D: With Jamari, there's some things that he had to teach me, and there's some. And not in a bad way, but it's just some things I wasn't accustomed to, that we had to both come together and be like, okay, this is how it is. And, you know, we working towards, you know, our relationship. It's nothing bad that your. If your partner has to teach you something, that's nothing bad. That's part of a relationship. [00:58:46] Speaker C: That's part of growing together. Yep, that's true. [00:58:51] Speaker A: Hey, man, if you got a good partner, bro, congratulations. Congratulations. If you got somebody who you communicate with, congratulations. You got somebody you can communicate with, congratulations. I fucking don't okay? That's literally all it is, bro. I don't. And you just feel like. You just feel like I can go pick up, like, a pack of sprites and get me a good woman, and I just got to. Listen, Jim, you got to be more receptive. This is not nothing to receive. [00:59:25] Speaker C: John, go log off. John. John, get on my nerve. Log off. [00:59:32] Speaker A: Hey, word. Cause I get on germ right now, boy. [00:59:35] Speaker C: But guess what Germ is like. She said she went into that with different. [00:59:40] Speaker A: No bs, no paying bills, no bullshit. The first year is about. [00:59:44] Speaker C: She went into that. [00:59:45] Speaker A: Getting to know each other. [00:59:46] Speaker C: Like, she said they both had to learn each other. [00:59:48] Speaker A: Who? [00:59:49] Speaker C: Kaylin just said her and Germ had to learn each other. So it's a learning thing. [00:59:56] Speaker A: So, like, when I get into a relationship, bro. [01:00:01] Speaker C: Bye, Rashawn. [01:00:02] Speaker A: What? Rashawn said, let's go to Africa. You go, hey, that's how they gonna. They're gonna treat you right over there. I ain't gonna lie. [01:00:09] Speaker C: No, go ahead and finish what you was just getting ready. [01:00:11] Speaker A: Give me a white girl in a minute. [01:00:13] Speaker C: You just said you wouldn't do. [01:00:15] Speaker D: Oh, God. [01:00:16] Speaker A: Hell, I ain't never. I ain't never had no white girl. [01:00:18] Speaker C: Go ahead. [01:00:21] Speaker A: I ain't gonna tell you who told me to do that. [01:00:23] Speaker C: I don't want to know. And I already told you what I said. [01:00:27] Speaker A: What? Don't be racist. [01:00:30] Speaker C: I'm not racist. [01:00:31] Speaker A: You want somebody to love me or not? [01:00:33] Speaker C: You won't get nobody time to love you. [01:00:35] Speaker A: So if it be a white girl, you gonna feel some type of way. [01:00:38] Speaker C: No. [01:00:39] Speaker A: Yes, you is. [01:00:40] Speaker C: No, I'm not. [01:00:40] Speaker A: Yes, you is. [01:00:43] Speaker C: Don't go in expecting anything. Let people be themselves, but show them how to treat you gently. If they don't want to, then, oh, well. [01:00:51] Speaker A: So. So I guess Mary Jane. [01:00:53] Speaker C: Mary Jane. Wrong. [01:00:56] Speaker A: I guess the tone that I presented in, like, people didn't hear me say some like this. [01:01:02] Speaker D: Yes, that's exactly what it is. That's exactly what it is. [01:01:07] Speaker A: Well, you know what? I swear to God, that pisses me off. That pisses me off. Are you listening to what I'm saying? Are you listening to my tone? [01:01:13] Speaker D: Okay. Yes. That's just how you are. That's your time. [01:01:16] Speaker A: You got a different tone right now, but I'm listening to you. [01:01:18] Speaker C: No, you're not. [01:01:19] Speaker D: Okay, but some people aren't. I'm just telling you that. Yes, it's your to. [01:01:23] Speaker A: Okay, well, you. Some people need to go to emotional school because I ain't got. I ain't got to talk to you soft spoken like your daddy. Every day like, bro, that shit's stupid. Oh, that's why. That's why everybody ain't meant to deal with me. And I'll just be willing to leave over be like, oh, your tone, your tone, your tone, your tone. Y' all ain't grew up around Kim. [01:01:43] Speaker C: Don't do. [01:01:43] Speaker A: All I know is tone don't do that. [01:01:45] Speaker D: But I grew up around her, and I don't know tone. [01:01:48] Speaker A: Yes, you do, Kalen. Yes, you do. Yes, you do. Yes, you do. Talk about. You can't be yelling at the ladies. I ain't yelling. It's a tone. I never even get loud. People just say my tone. [01:02:03] Speaker C: But you don't see how when your tone, you talk, it go up and it yell and it makes their anxiety go up. You don't see that? [01:02:10] Speaker A: I got an anxiety reader now. [01:02:12] Speaker C: Oh, Lord, I give up. I promise I ain't. [01:02:15] Speaker A: I. I got anxiety readers now. [01:02:17] Speaker C: Oh, God. [01:02:19] Speaker A: You know, you. You just made my anxiety go up. Did you know that? [01:02:22] Speaker C: You can't be rude either. Be gentle. [01:02:24] Speaker A: Who said that? [01:02:25] Speaker C: Nene, You. Let's say this. [01:02:30] Speaker A: We about to go anyway. [01:02:32] Speaker C: Let's say this. And I'm. I'm real quick. Would you want a man to talk, Kaylin, how you want to yelling at. [01:02:37] Speaker A: Sometimes you probably got to talk to Kaylin like that. [01:02:39] Speaker C: Oh, please, boy. [01:02:40] Speaker A: You just as long as you ain't putting your damn hands on. [01:02:42] Speaker C: Threaten Jamari tomorrow. She love her more than me. [01:02:45] Speaker A: And I'm pretty sure it's gonna come a point in Jamari life where Jamari got to tell Caitlin. Caitlyn. All right, now you doing a little too damn much. If it ain't came already, it didn't. [01:02:56] Speaker D: Don't talk to me like that. [01:02:57] Speaker C: Okay, well, he's gentle. He's very gentle. I mean, you, on the other hand, my friend, and y' all was raising the same house. [01:03:08] Speaker A: We ain't doing all that. Yeah, you too much talk. You like a man. Yeah, like me being married woman. [01:03:16] Speaker C: He do. [01:03:17] Speaker A: Who say that? [01:03:18] Speaker C: Mary say you want to. [01:03:19] Speaker A: Well, Jesus Christ. I will never have a hard woman. [01:03:27] Speaker C: Ain't going in their favor picking how long we got? [01:03:31] Speaker A: Are we done? Oh, we can finish up these last comments we about of here. People pick and choose when tone is an issue, especially when the AI conversation ain't going in their favor. [01:03:45] Speaker C: Sick of John, bruh. [01:03:47] Speaker A: You sick of John. But is John saying anything wrong? [01:03:50] Speaker C: John is saying something wrong since he signed on. [01:03:52] Speaker A: John just been. You know what it is on Yoshi. John on my side. Yeah, and it kills her. [01:03:58] Speaker C: I don't. I don't care about him being on your side. I want him to be biased. [01:04:03] Speaker D: Unbiased. [01:04:03] Speaker C: Unbiased. I'm sorry. Excuse me. [01:04:07] Speaker A: See, man, we out, bro. Keep my theme song. Hey, man, it's a peas in the pie, man. Peace. I got to deal with this every day, too. [01:04:16] Speaker C: I love you every day, man. [01:04:17] Speaker A: Every day. [01:04:18] Speaker C: I love you. [01:04:19] Speaker A: Talk in class. I'm the worst person at Ocean. Please don't go to isa. Okay. [01:04:28] Speaker B: Good for spending time. That's why I'm trying to get you out of my way? Even though you look real good from behind? I'm trying to see what's in your mind See, I'm gonna say the sheep these be thanking? I'm talking about them peas in the pie? Peas in the pie? Peas in the podcast? I'm talking about them peas in the pot? Peas in the pie? This here came from Jay with the ink. Peas in the pie Peas in the pie? Peas in the pie? I'm talking about them peace, [01:05:01] Speaker A: J.