If You Ain’t Popping That, I’m Not Spending a That

[00:00:00] Speaker A: Okay. [00:00:42] Speaker B: Yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah. Good evening. Good evening. What's happening? It's your boy Jay with Ink tuning to another episode of Peas in the Pie podcast, man. Yoshi did that kind of quick. I ain't. You need a countdown on that. Hey, every. [00:01:02] Speaker C: Every episode, we gotta elevate. You know? [00:01:05] Speaker B: How y' all doing today, man? Good old Tuesday, man. We're gonna call Tuesdays P Day, you know, Peas in the pod. You feed me, okay? Yeah, you know, I got my lovely co host. I guess. [00:01:23] Speaker A: It is, man. You ready to chat, ready to talk, ready to look at these comments, see what y' all saying. [00:01:28] Speaker B: Hello, shots. Look, first of all, why y' all. [00:01:31] Speaker A: Ain'T let me put my shot? Did you sit here running? [00:01:36] Speaker C: I know ain't got the label shown. [00:01:40] Speaker A: Oh, okay. No, no. [00:01:41] Speaker B: Free promo. [00:01:41] Speaker A: Like Jay say, they're gonna have to. [00:01:43] Speaker B: Send me some free liqueur. You feel me? Like, I ain't. Ain't nothing for free, boy. [00:01:49] Speaker A: You know what we drinking? [00:01:50] Speaker B: I'll tell you, Yoshi, you showing my legs and all. Okay, my bad, G. You know, we good. You know, whatever you feel is best. You know what I'm saying? Hey, we already up in the chat. [00:02:06] Speaker A: Damn Big as I swear to God did that. Okay, that makes sense. [00:02:11] Speaker B: Okay, word. What's up? What's happening? What's happening? Who is that right there? No, I can't see. [00:02:17] Speaker C: Lanisha. [00:02:18] Speaker B: Lanisha. Good evening. Welcome to the show. Man, make sure y' all drop some comments, man. Let us know y' all in. Tonight we're gonna be talking about toxicness. [00:02:31] Speaker A: Okay? [00:02:32] Speaker B: You know, due to our girl, you know, wanting to talk about toxicness, I'm assuming she's toxic, you know what I'm saying? [00:02:40] Speaker A: Why she got to be toxic, though? Why? She just can't have seen, have known she looked toxic, have heard somebody. Why she got to be toxic? Why can't be like somebody that she know? [00:02:49] Speaker B: Are you toxic? [00:02:53] Speaker A: Oh, never mind. I can't take up for her. I didn't even say it took you too long. [00:03:05] Speaker B: PJ was happy. Appreciate y'. All. [00:03:10] Speaker A: Yeah, I know. I love to see the returning viewers. I always shout y' all out. Shout out to the returning viewers. [00:03:14] Speaker B: Oh, my boy Brandon be on there. We PJB on there. We period. Kj, I don't think he'd be on there. [00:03:22] Speaker A: It's okay. Welcome. Welcome in. [00:03:23] Speaker B: Welcome. Welcome in. But for real, my boy Ellis was having a twin. Yeah, okay. [00:03:30] Speaker A: Thank you so much. We appreciate that. For real, for real. [00:03:32] Speaker B: What is it? [00:03:33] Speaker A: Hey, ladies. [00:03:36] Speaker B: Hey. Get your ass out of here, man. [00:03:47] Speaker A: Looking great, Actually, that would have been better or great. [00:03:50] Speaker B: Is you. Is y' all drunk? No. Are you ready? [00:03:52] Speaker A: Honestly, though, I've been drinking all day. I had took a bartending class earlier, y'. All. That's why I just got up. If you got to defend being toxic in black people mouth, I feel like, though, toxic is what is different for everybody. Like, what's. What's your like for me, you toxic. If we always fighting, you talk to me. We always arguing, you talk to me. If you can't get your behaviors together that you know you need to work on, you toxic if you don't recognize that you toxic. [00:04:25] Speaker B: Okay. I mean, that was very valid, though. [00:04:27] Speaker A: You know what I'm saying, too. Like, yes. [00:04:31] Speaker B: You know, he said, what's y'? All? What's our definition of toxic? I mean, I ain't gonna lie, bro. Be knowing what toxic energy is and what toxic is. Toxic does. [00:04:41] Speaker A: You ain't supposed to be doing that's already just like, if you're reacting out. [00:04:45] Speaker B: Of emotion, nine times out of 10, that gonna be tossed. [00:04:49] Speaker A: Okay? How do y' all know when it's time to leave a toxic relationship? [00:04:52] Speaker B: See, as soon as that get it. When you be crashing, I don't know about y'. All. I don't do all that. [00:04:56] Speaker A: You gotta crash out. You probably should not be talking to that person. Okay, what's crashing out? Like, am I crying in the bed? Just doing that. You don't usually do. Like, you might be a. A calm person. [00:05:07] Speaker B: Now, you going in that like a telephone. That is not a cell phone that got a telephone. [00:05:17] Speaker C: Hey, man, my ring disrespect you like. [00:05:21] Speaker B: I pay J no mind, man. [00:05:23] Speaker C: Every week, me and J. [00:05:24] Speaker B: It got to be something with J. Y, boy. You can pick something else, boy. Anyway, hell, that ranking like, with your. [00:05:32] Speaker A: Definition, definition is of toxic. It says manipulation is toxic. [00:05:37] Speaker B: My definition is, you know, you say. [00:05:40] Speaker A: Your chest hurt or you out of character. [00:05:43] Speaker B: And listen, I ain't gonna lie, y', all. Okay. Cause y' all about to run out with that chest hurt. [00:05:48] Speaker A: My chest hurt. Wait, why you say what I miss? That was on the live. [00:05:55] Speaker C: Yeah, yeah. She was sleep. She just died. [00:05:57] Speaker B: My chest ain't hurting no more, though. [00:05:59] Speaker C: It was the live after the live. [00:06:00] Speaker B: Yeah, My chest don't hurt no more. You know it don't hurt no more. It only take me by the good week. [00:06:05] Speaker A: Yeah, I know, but for real. For real, I don't stay in toxic situations long. Like, I recognize them. I'm not saying. And then too We. We had a certain age now, like, I'm 25 now. I'm not 18. No. More to the point where you shouldn't even want to be dealing with no toxic. Like, we too grown for that. Like, once I see that you toxic and I tell you you toxic, because I'm gonna tell you, you know, I'm a. I'm a believer in giving chances. You know, I give you a chance to fix the ch, but after that, you gotta go. But that's not even with just relationships. That's what family members say. Like, family can be toxic. As you can do everything for your family, and they just don't even show you no type of appreciations. Like, you know what I'm saying? That's. You don't give a. A chance to get their act together. [00:06:42] Speaker B: See, why, though? Nobody's perfect. What you mean, nobody's perfect? [00:06:47] Speaker A: Yeah, for sure. [00:06:48] Speaker B: If we grown as hell, why is it hard for you to understand what's bothering? Like, what's. What's some behavior that bothers people? Like, this ain't your first rodeo with a boyfriend, friend, best friend, cousin. None of that. Y' all be knowing what the y' all doing. Y' all be. Know what the y' all saying. Me personally. [00:07:10] Speaker A: But it don't gotta necessarily be a relationship. Like you said, it can be a friendship. And then your previous relationship might not have been toxic. You could have had an okay relationship. You leave, now you with somebody. Like, you don't experience the same thing when you dating people. You get what I'm saying? And just because we grown don't mean we automatically got this life figured out. Like, you still figuring out. So I do believe, right? And giving people like, okay, it depends on what toxic is. Like, if you done curse my mama and you killing my animals and you didn't bust my window out, then you a little too much for me killing my animals. Crazy. Like, what, you gonna kill my dog? [00:07:39] Speaker B: I ain't gonna lie. Anything that just, like, disturbed my peace, bro. Like, I didn't work so hard for the little bit of peace I got, doggy. Like, I'm not. I'm. I'm. I'm just not. I'm not. I'm not doing it. [00:07:51] Speaker A: One chance. Y' all strict as around this mother. [00:07:54] Speaker B: One chance, bro. For sure. [00:07:55] Speaker C: Like, when it comes to toxic, I don't think you can give more than a chance than one chance, right? [00:08:00] Speaker B: You feel me? [00:08:01] Speaker C: Like, and then you can't get more than one. [00:08:02] Speaker B: It can be top. Listen, it's so many levels to that Toxic, bro. It's disrespect. It's. You know what I'm saying? Like, it ain't always just like. [00:08:12] Speaker A: Doing some wild. Exactly, Angel. Like a few changes. You get what I'm saying? Like, sometimes you. You got to bring out the better in that other person. They might not know no better. You get what I'. Sometimes you a healer. You might not have to be for everybody, but just because that person come to you toxic if you love them. I feel like, you know, it's. I just. Like I said, it depends on the level of toxicity, but it can come down once people. Sometimes people don't get caught out on their. Sometimes people don't. They don't be like, hey, yo, you need to check yourself about that. People be okay with the way they be with. [00:08:39] Speaker B: Okay. [00:08:39] Speaker C: Well, nobody say, let me ask you this. [00:08:41] Speaker B: Who's. [00:08:41] Speaker C: Whose responsibility is your happiness? [00:08:44] Speaker A: I feel like it's yours. [00:08:45] Speaker C: It's my own responsibility. So if it's my responsibility, my happiness. Your toxicity is your responsibility. My job ain't to change what you. [00:08:53] Speaker B: Do and see and see that be problem. Like, can't even teach their kids how to potty train but be swearing they can goddamn change somebody. Yeah, bro, you got to accept people for what the they is, but people is what they be and love potential. But that potential. Hell, bro, y' all be acting like recruiters. [00:09:15] Speaker C: Potential just mean you ain't did yet. [00:09:17] Speaker B: Like, like you NBA scout, he has hella potential. You know what I'm saying? Like, bro, you tripping. [00:09:22] Speaker A: I just know I ain't perfect. And I would have been so mad if a gave up on me the first time instead of giving me, you know, time to fix the job. [00:09:33] Speaker B: See, listen, though, a lot of times, A lot of times, people used to that, though people used to being able to cry their way out of. People used to being able to, like, you know, you about to do some bullshit to bother me, and you still going. You know, you just think you gonna talk your way out of it. You know what I'm saying? Bro, that don't be going like that all the time. Then it just like, Brian, nobody who you gonna take advantage of? You know what I'm saying? Like, you ain't gonna take advantage of my feelings. [00:09:55] Speaker C: Yeah. Like just said, if you toxic seek help. I ain't no psychiatrist. And I can't heal because every time I, I. Every time I try to heal, it becomes my burden. And when my cup runs empty, who's gonna fill it back up? Like, I'm. I'm Running behind you to fix your shit. I ain't got it. [00:10:11] Speaker B: And then all of that, you know, like you say, you pouring into other people cups, bro. You empty your cup into some, and then you finally leave, bro. You know how long gonna take to refill your cup for you to be comfortable with somebody else? You know what I'm saying? Like, it ain't just gonna be. Well, I ain't gonna lie. That's toxic too. Because some people is weird like that, and they could just jump from situation to situation, you know what I'm saying? [00:10:32] Speaker A: That's called living. [00:10:33] Speaker C: I mean, what. Jumping from situation to situation? [00:10:36] Speaker A: Yeah, some people do be like. [00:10:38] Speaker B: I mean, you call it living, but you ain't even. You ain't even healed from your situation that you just came from. So you bringing your baggage that you didn't dealt with over here with this. So now I trigger you, and I ain't even doing. You know what I'm saying? So who is that fair to? It's fair to you. So now I got the ultra reassure. I got the ultra go all. All out my way and do this, that, and the third. Because you're not healed from the situation that you just left from, because you living that. Living a. All right. [00:11:06] Speaker A: She said, I guarantee you, if you give another chance, they still gonna do the same thing. And. And I get that, but y' all can't. I mean, well, y' all can do what y' all want to do. You know what I'm saying? But I just think it's kind of. I feel. I also feel like it's a toxic behavior. Just immediately cut people off, like what happened. Yeah. [00:11:24] Speaker C: Well, put it like this. I think it also depends on where you are in your life, you know. [00:11:30] Speaker A: And it's a level of toxic, too. But I do agree on where you're at. [00:11:33] Speaker C: Like, because if I'm at a point like. Like, I got kids, and I think everybody here got kids. I put it with my kids stuff. You an adult, you grown, you haven't been through all this stuff before. Somebody you know, and you can't tell me you don't know you toxic. You know what you're doing in some. [00:11:51] Speaker B: I just. [00:11:52] Speaker C: They know. They know. [00:11:53] Speaker B: They just posted that. I said, listen, boy, why you by. [00:11:55] Speaker C: Yourself if you don't know I'm. [00:11:57] Speaker B: Oh. [00:12:00] Speaker C: If you don't know everybody that. [00:12:01] Speaker A: By themselves ain't toxic. And then some people in relationships are still toxic. So just cause you by yourself or. [00:12:06] Speaker C: Just because I know I'm making some. [00:12:08] Speaker B: People toxic relationships because they just Used to the same. [00:12:12] Speaker C: I'm saying it like I was saying the people. Some people are single by choice. Yes. I'm talking about in the sense of those that are toxic, that know they toxic. You know what I'm saying? Because you can't tell me you don't know something is wrong. Because if you're not trying. If you're not trying to get in a relationship, that's different than if you trying to date and trying to do stuff and you can't even. Those are the people I'm talking to. I ain't talking to those that's like, yo, I' ma chill. I'm gonna get myself together. Like Jay say, sometime I'mma stay down. I'm gonna keep my head down. I'm gonna work my ass off, get to where I want to be. Then I'm gonna start dating those people I ain't talking to, right? I'm talking to the people that be out of the club, trying to pick people up, trying to get people to buy them drinks, and they know they crazy. They gonna bust your windows out next week because you're talking to somebody else. [00:12:50] Speaker B: And you ain't. And you ain't even. [00:12:51] Speaker C: And you ain't even together. [00:12:52] Speaker B: We can go out on little dates and shit. Yeah, we can. We can't be. I can't give you that right now. I can be honest and tell somebody. [00:13:01] Speaker A: Okay, that's good, though. [00:13:02] Speaker B: You know what I'm saying? [00:13:02] Speaker A: Is it because you're toxic? [00:13:04] Speaker B: No, it's because, like, never been the toxic. So it's just like, I might just got. I might just got. I need to work on that. I ain't recognizing myself, you know what I'm saying? Versus, like, just trying to, like. Because y' all are just. [00:13:20] Speaker A: Okay, so I do have this one question. Why is it so easy to cut off your friends versus a. That you've been talking to or a female that you've been talking to, and they doing the same toxic that your friends are doing. How do y' all feel? [00:13:30] Speaker B: Everybody? [00:13:31] Speaker A: I don't have no. I don't have that problem. Too toxic. You get cut. If a friend getting too toxic, you get cut. Like, friends be draining as hell. Like, they don't think that they're draining, especially if y' all haven't been friends for so long, right? Yeah, y' all start growing apart, and they just feel like, you know, you're being different or you. You treating them funny. Like. [00:13:50] Speaker B: I worked on this little bit of piece. You feel me? So it's like, boy, it Be some people you talk to, but every time you talk to them, they're going through something. Well, I can't deal with them type of people, you know what I'm saying? Like, you just always got some issues or somebody always doing something to you, bro, I can't deal with that. I can't do it, though. [00:14:06] Speaker A: I can. Because I'm the type of friend that gonna also tell you, you can. You can come to me with your issues, but I'm let you know when it's you. Like, I'm gonna tell you when you part of the issue, right? So when you come to me, make sure you ready for that. You got. I'm gonna be the shoulder to lean on. But if you're a part of the problem that you healing. [00:14:20] Speaker B: Did I not know? I didn't say that. Yeah, now, she was agreeing with you. [00:14:23] Speaker C: She agreed with you. [00:14:24] Speaker B: I was just saying, you know, crazy from Timmonsville, you know, y' all don'. It counts me on a little too tight over that or something, man. You feel me? But hell yeah, boy, I ain't. I ain't around right now. I ain't really got time for this. [00:14:42] Speaker A: I'm in the business of figuring out, like, you know, what's for me. And I ain't worried about no other. No toxic person. No, not toxic person. Because I got a goal right now that I'm focused on. And if you fit in that vision, you fit. And if you don't, I'm not gonna try to make you fit. You get what I'm saying? Maybe when you work on your ways and I work on my ways, then we can reunite together. But other than that, like you said, I'm not like, if it's just too toxic, if you too toxic, if the environment is too toxic, if the friendship, the family member. I know how to remove myself. But I also. I do give people chances, though. Like, I'm a communicate. Well, I haven't always been like, before I cut your ass off with a split second, but I also learned to communicate. Like. Like I said, sometimes people just don't know. So I communicated to you the same afterwards. Then it's just like, all right, at. [00:15:28] Speaker B: The same time, just don't be the first. Don't be. Don't be that. Who always accessible, though. You, You. You clarifying it as I'm. I'm giving you chances or I'm. I'm. I'm trying to. I'm trying to see you grow, whatever that other might be on the other side. Just like, oh, you a Dumbass. You know, like it. Only thing I got to do is cry, threaten to kill myself. You know what I'm saying? Say I'm gonna run this car off the road, whatever, and she gonna say, boy, come over here. Well, it literally be that though, you know what I'm saying? Like, you're not giving that. Oh, you're not giving that woman a chance. [00:16:01] Speaker A: You just like you can give a, A engine. They gonna take a gun. You gotta just know. [00:16:07] Speaker B: Will do good for two weeks and be right back to their. [00:16:10] Speaker A: Yes, Quinn, I'm a communicator. Like, with the age I am now, I don't believe in burning bridges unless you really have to. But before, when I was younger, I burned that to the ground. But now I do try to save my relationships with my friends, family and whoever. So I do communicate first. But if you don't change, I did my part. I can't feel bad about letting the, the friendship or relationship go because I did what I was supposed to do versus just cutting you the off and sending you on about your way. I tried. All you can do is try. [00:16:36] Speaker B: I'm the total opposite. I'mma cut your ass the off. [00:16:40] Speaker A: So do you feel like you ever would miss out on some good friendships because you just like y' all didn't communicate and friendships, no relationships, you feel like you miss. Okay, maybe. [00:16:50] Speaker B: Okay, that's a reasonable answer, you know what I'm saying? But like, I could never miss a loss. Yeah, feed me. So it's just like what I'm gonna do. One thing I ain't gonna lie, bro. That, that prison. I ain't gonna say it me, but it just taught me a lot my life, bro. Like people, I know you was in prison. Oh, yes. Okay. But people gonna move on. They're gonna do what they want to do, you know what I'm saying? Like not saying nobody entitled to like give you anything or you feel me like, it just like, it just showed me just like a lot of people don't like, you know, like leave boy. [00:17:23] Speaker A: You know what? [00:17:24] Speaker B: It don't matter how much you love them. It don't matter how much you you want them to, you know what I'm saying? Or you telling them, hey, I' ma do good, I'm gonna do this, whatever the case may be, bro, will leave you and low key. That was sometimes I had needed some people, bro. So I just don't never, I never let myself get back into that a retired crash out. [00:17:44] Speaker A: I, I, I don't, I don't know. I just Feel like I'm calmer now, like back in my days. Now I'm a little more understanding. I'm older, so I don't. I. I understand. I give people a little bit more grace. But back, like I said, I'm not the person I was when I was 18. I'm jumping from 18. I'm 25 now. Because that's like a kind of difference. But back then I didn't give you. It's. You're not the same person. You. You're not how 32. You're not even the same person you was when you was 27. [00:18:13] Speaker B: You for some red bu. I'm scared. [00:18:15] Speaker A: You're not even the same person you was when you was 27. [00:18:18] Speaker B: Okay, I'm cool. I'm a pass on Netflix. I should have said. [00:18:35] Speaker A: I should have said no and let your ass get. Look, poor God made dirt. Dirt don't hurt. [00:18:39] Speaker B: We'll never be the same. Not that kind of dirt. Not that kind of dirt. [00:18:52] Speaker A: Okay, what is long ass comment say? You want to read that comment says. [00:18:57] Speaker B: I love people like this though. [00:18:58] Speaker C: No, that's just like really being. That's like a. That beat on women. He might say he feel bad for hitting you or knocking you and buy you flowers, but let you make him mad again. And you head between the washer and dryer again and toxic will drain you. And sometimes it make you stay. They make you stay around longer than you should because you try to heal them, but you can't. [00:19:19] Speaker B: Nah, bro. Cause a lot of times, bro, people got to realize like just because you love somebody, that don't mean they're the one for you. You feel me? Like, that don't mean you can't love somebody else. And that don't mean like life just stop. You feel what I'm saying? Like, like, like that. That real though? Like you telling me like a keeps showing you that they don't love you or they don't love you the way that you love them or they'll do something to you that you wouldn't do to them and you gonna keep like. [00:19:48] Speaker A: Letting them do it. [00:19:49] Speaker B: It's like, no, that's not necessarily letting them do it. [00:19:51] Speaker A: But you don't yourself go through it, right? [00:19:56] Speaker B: I love. I love this enough to kind of like see if they gonna change you setting yourself up for that. [00:20:01] Speaker A: I think it's to a point. And you got to know your limits. Everybody has their own limits. And you have to know when you being helpful or when you loving somebody and when you're just being Dumb. Because I have seen people get in relationships and change because they have the better partner. You're supposed to bring out the best in your partner. So I have seen it happen. But sometimes you got to know when it's not going to happen. [00:20:19] Speaker B: You know, that. That should be real, bro. You can't, like, tell me, but you keep reading the same book expecting a different ending. [00:20:26] Speaker A: Yeah, I just told somebody. That's crazy. You were stuck on the same page in the same book. [00:20:30] Speaker B: That. That. It just. That's the divine way. You know what I'm saying? That's up to you. That's up to y' all to kind of, like, see that why I'm kind of. I. I'm glad I am high. Am, bro. Because I'm not gonna let nobody do me any kind of way, especially if you put me in the position to feel a certain type of way that I wouldn't do to you. Oh, I'm cool. [00:20:48] Speaker A: It's okay. You ain't gotta tell us that. We know. [00:20:49] Speaker B: We just snap on your ass and you get to telling everybody how I curse you up. I'm just leave. Yeah. [00:20:56] Speaker A: Because they will flip that on you. Yeah. And try to make it seem like you. You just crashing out for no reason. Yeah. What happened to this part? Yeah, that. [00:21:06] Speaker B: How that had been there since, you know, I Around the spaz on sh. On. On live hot bed. [00:21:12] Speaker A: Okay, okay. [00:21:13] Speaker B: I don't know what he said, but. [00:21:16] Speaker A: Cut you off. [00:21:17] Speaker B: I didn't swipe up on. I. [00:21:18] Speaker A: She cut you off. [00:21:19] Speaker B: I. I mean, we ain't doing that. [00:21:20] Speaker A: No, I'm just saying what you. You said what. What you said that happened. I don't. I didn't watch. Like, separation. Right. Okay. I think so. Like, she spaz on you, and then you spaz on her, and then y' all just went. Y' all separate ways, right? Oh, it's only been like a week, though. It's only been like a week or two weeks, bro. [00:21:37] Speaker C: Y' all had split before she tried to go on. [00:21:40] Speaker A: I don't know. [00:21:44] Speaker B: But anyways. Anyway, cool. But, like, what I'm saying is you gotta respect yourself. A be a be late trying to, you know, swipe up on Be like, ain't you just crashing on the face? What the that got to do with you? [00:21:58] Speaker A: But no, I did that today. [00:22:07] Speaker B: Did you listen to what I. Did you listen to what I said or did you just, like, know it was by the woman? [00:22:12] Speaker A: It don't matter. [00:22:12] Speaker B: So now you kind of like. Now you kind of like. Cause I ain't Gonna lie. It's some women who in my like, oh, you. She knew how to appreciate you. This, that and the third and yeah. Come over here to be. [00:22:22] Speaker A: They want to be so valid though. Like, if somebody. You know what I'm saying? I'm the type of woman. [00:22:29] Speaker B: I ain't looking for love. [00:22:29] Speaker A: If you just was on live crashing out about another woman, what can I possibly do or want with you? Obviously your heart somewhere el feel like I'm not she just. [00:22:41] Speaker B: Myself. What the me swiping up on your story got to do with me giving you my heart? [00:22:45] Speaker A: You want me. [00:22:45] Speaker B: I. [00:22:46] Speaker A: Okay, so what Okay. I don't want because you be vulnerable. Like you'll be vulnerable because you just did what you did. [00:22:50] Speaker B: I'm a man. [00:22:53] Speaker A: You and her cuz you still with her because you were just crashing out about that after I with her. [00:22:58] Speaker B: And that's what I'm saying. You ain't listen. You ain't listen to it. You're not listening to that. I say it don't matter when you just. [00:23:09] Speaker A: You don't sit there and go live about nobody you done with. I my ex call me right now. I say some. I be like, get out my phone. [00:23:15] Speaker B: So if your ass go live on you. [00:23:16] Speaker A: You. You ain't get no call my name. [00:23:18] Speaker B: Okay, well, get. Well, I don't know who you talking about. [00:23:25] Speaker A: What the you talking about. [00:23:32] Speaker B: Be on that? Like, oh, ain't you was just crashing. What do it matter? [00:23:36] Speaker A: It matters. [00:23:36] Speaker B: No, no. It ain't like you're about to meet my son. It ain't like we about to go out on no date. None of the. I'm just trying to see what. [00:23:49] Speaker A: You. [00:23:49] Speaker B: Didn'T ruin your chat. [00:23:50] Speaker A: And then we. [00:23:50] Speaker B: I be knowing who the we dealing with. You know what I'm saying? Like, well, you know I gonna take your ass back over there. [00:23:56] Speaker A: Everybody business. I don't understand. I don't know how. I don't understand how he. [00:24:00] Speaker B: I don't know this come through here. You feel me? But I just don't be. I don't be running my mom. [00:24:05] Speaker A: Ladies. I agree. I'm sorry. Once if and I go back to being the side I can't be. What's up, bro? I can't be no side. Because once I see you got that strings attached to another female or something, once I see y' all got that type of like, connection, I'm not gonna be with that. [00:24:21] Speaker B: Instead of realizing that, oh, this got feelings and can deal with a woman on that type of level, you gonna deal with the who want 60? [00:24:31] Speaker A: 60 wrong. [00:24:35] Speaker B: But you see a judging me off of what I had to say about my first of all. First of all, it was a relationship. I would. We wasn't just. [00:24:46] Speaker A: Why you think she judging? That was a long time. That is a long time, y'. All. Nine months is a long time judging you. Just because they say they don't want no attachments with that because you was crashing out. That don't mean they probably want to with you. But they don't want with me now though, I'm sure they responding right. [00:25:01] Speaker B: But what the was that to say? I don't say nothing when y' all get on here. And I notice that you keep with the same dumb ass. That's not my business. [00:25:09] Speaker A: We're not sliding up. [00:25:11] Speaker B: Yes, you do. Yes, yes, you do. [00:25:13] Speaker A: She has every right. [00:25:14] Speaker B: Yes, you do. Well, guess what. Say what you want to say. And you missed out on. On your chance on happiness. You know what I'm saying? That that ain't you nothing all year. That ain't about you nothing all year. And he got ops. This, this, this, this ain't. This ain't that, you know. [00:25:46] Speaker A: Okay, we talking about toxicity, right? [00:25:48] Speaker B: Yeah. [00:25:49] Speaker A: What if she felt like you crashed out on live was toxic and she protected her piece from being into a toxic situation? Why you can't see it from her point of view? [00:25:56] Speaker B: Because you be up here shaking your ass. So it like, what type of self. [00:26:04] Speaker A: Respect you. [00:26:07] Speaker B: For you to even come at me like that? [00:26:09] Speaker A: What did you say? She been shaking her ass before you slid up. [00:26:12] Speaker B: I don't even remember was it like. [00:26:13] Speaker A: A heart or you just like, oh, you like. [00:26:14] Speaker B: You cute. [00:26:24] Speaker A: They dead ass do though. And will write every day. Every day. No response and keep. Oh, hey, how you doing? What you doing? Like, they will do that. Hey, you didn't respond. You see, they'll call you and they'll call you on social media. Somebody will call. [00:26:43] Speaker B: Y' all young men. Listen, brothers, stop doing that. You feel me? Because it like it like this. It like this right here, right? So you see how like I'm talking about how like I might swipe. I swipe up and you might. You know, like, I might not be everybody cup of tea, you know, like whatever your case may be. [00:27:02] Speaker A: Okay, Cool. [00:27:05] Speaker B: That's all it is, cool. Like, but I thought baddies. I don't want nothing regular. You know, I might depending on how drunk it is. You feel me? The badges go to sleep early, so sometimes you got claps of regular. You feel me? Like, that's just the way that's just the way life. That's just the way life goes sometimes. [00:27:25] Speaker A: I think but reserves to a male ego because who the clap clapping regular. Just like. Is there. Is there a list a check off like, what is it? [00:27:33] Speaker B: Why do you know if you're regular? [00:27:35] Speaker A: What? What the fast regular. Like she ain't got no. Don't be known. They regular. Yeah, yeah. Everybody famous. A lot of be thinking just because they got a fat ass that they bad. And. And followers on Facebook. A lot of will gas up a with a fat ass and it don't matter how she looks. [00:27:53] Speaker B: And it'd be a with some money too. Mama then died and left him like 300,000. That out here Trigger. [00:28:03] Speaker A: What is the battery to you? I don't even like he described it last time. [00:28:06] Speaker B: But what's my definition? Okay, so baddies be like baddie or baddies be different from me for like. So like you can't just have a cute face in the fat ass with me. I need you to have it going on too. Because if you just got a cute face and fat ass and your ass broke with no car and a lot of kids, you're not bad that you feel me. Like, in my opinion, you're a bill. You looking for a savior. So what's regular with the ink Ain't no daddy. That's regular. [00:28:30] Speaker A: Oh, that's regular. [00:28:30] Speaker B: Okay. You know what I'm saying? You might just hit some like, you know you ain't got no business here. [00:28:36] Speaker A: Can't cook clean or photo fitted sheep. [00:28:42] Speaker B: Listen, listen, listen. [00:28:43] Speaker A: Yeah, let's touch on that. Why it's always a female cook. Can cut the grass. [00:28:52] Speaker B: Do even have grass to cut the brake. Changing place. [00:29:12] Speaker A: Don'T mean that good. But can cut grass. Y' all change breaks. [00:29:18] Speaker B: She talking about change breaks. That's how I know she never dealt with the who with cars. Cause ain't changing them brakes. Ain't with them brakes. That's really like a livelihood. [00:29:29] Speaker A: They change though. [00:29:30] Speaker B: No, they don't. You will find more who can work. [00:29:33] Speaker A: So why is it okay for A to not change? [00:29:37] Speaker B: I could change oil, change tire. I can get. I don't. Whatever it is I could do. But I'm not with them brakes in the brake line, bro. Because that's you stopping. You can that and just knowing about cars. You can that up. That's why don't do it. It ain't the fact that you can't do it, but you should do it. [00:29:55] Speaker A: Because you're a man. Y' all should know how to change. Just like women should know how to cook. A man should know how to change breaks, period. It's no why the woman got. [00:30:03] Speaker B: Period. Why the. When you go to all the oil changes, place everybody in. They ain't changed. It ain't even one baby. [00:30:10] Speaker A: You take my car for me, baby, take it for me. Bring it back. [00:30:13] Speaker B: But you're supposed to have a. Who get up underneath that they do though. [00:30:17] Speaker A: That's what I'm saying. They do. [00:30:18] Speaker B: Oh, how they do. [00:30:20] Speaker A: He can get up underneath. I don't know what you. But I know when you dump my car, it better. Whatever issue I told you had, it better be fixed when you done. [00:30:26] Speaker B: Girl, please, man, stop. [00:30:28] Speaker A: Girl, please. Period. I don't know who the Jake that he with over here, but. [00:30:32] Speaker B: I'm do. I'mma tell. I'mma tell you like this right here. And I do too talk about like. [00:30:48] Speaker A: You can change a brake pad. [00:30:50] Speaker B: You can change a brake pad. But she ain't even know. She didn't even know. That's two separate things. I don't have a woman, period. Like a The whole brake line and all. [00:30:59] Speaker A: You should a man. You're a man. A man should though. [00:31:01] Speaker B: But you're a woman. You're a woman and you can't flip a goddamn pancake. [00:31:05] Speaker A: I can cook in my food. Always the best. But the thing. That's what I'm saying. Why women got. [00:31:10] Speaker B: That's not can cook then. [00:31:11] Speaker A: Yes, it is. [00:31:12] Speaker B: That's just heating up. [00:31:13] Speaker A: No, it ain't. [00:31:14] Speaker B: That's kind of what you do. [00:31:16] Speaker A: Have to always know what to do. But man get the tool. [00:31:18] Speaker B: What the fuck they can do. [00:31:20] Speaker A: No, that ain't wait. That's what you. [00:31:28] Speaker B: To nurture and take care of the house, right? So you think just take care of the house is sweeping. [00:31:33] Speaker A: So why y' all can't do that? [00:31:35] Speaker B: You're just sweeping on me. Soon as caring on me. If you think. If you think I'm about to be over this paying 100 of bills and your ass ain't open this shaking ass every night. Shaking parts every night. Every night show my right when I come in this. I'm 10 minutes away. I need my hot take your black ass to work. [00:32:04] Speaker A: What if it's a 12 hour shift? Okay, okay. [00:32:08] Speaker B: She ain't been listening. [00:32:10] Speaker A: I hear you say that. Maybe if y' all will stop yelling so goddamn much I can hear a little better. [00:32:16] Speaker B: That ain't got nothing to do with it. [00:32:21] Speaker A: I gotta explain. [00:32:22] Speaker B: I'm gonna break. [00:32:23] Speaker A: I'm gonna bring him a plate and I'm gonna Make sure he smiles. He gonna swallow every. I' ma make sure he swallow every thing. There gonna be no problem. I'm gonna watch him. I'm gonna watch like this. [00:32:38] Speaker B: And listen. You know, girls only have that type of power over you when they slamming that cooch on you like a bag of ice. This one ain't so I' ma just. Hey, hey, Rad, we cool, dog. [00:32:54] Speaker A: I'mma bring Jay a plate. [00:32:55] Speaker B: All right? I'll tell y'. [00:32:56] Speaker A: All. Tell me what? [00:32:59] Speaker B: Y' all want me to make you bring me this. You don't know what you doing. This gonna be worse than keep le wor. [00:33:07] Speaker A: Yo, I'm gonna switch my lip. I'm gonna crush my. [00:33:09] Speaker B: I'm saying I don't even trust eating from RA Stick her finger in her ass and just. [00:33:26] Speaker A: In my house. I'm a plumber. A gardener. Hello. [00:33:29] Speaker B: Exactly, bro. [00:33:30] Speaker A: Hello, King. [00:33:31] Speaker B: And me too. But guess what, Guess what, bro. Guess what. Guess what. [00:33:36] Speaker A: My gonna cook and shake ass every night, apparently. [00:33:38] Speaker B: Yeah, right? [00:33:40] Speaker A: Every night. Every night. Please don't change it. Or you can get the out and. [00:33:44] Speaker B: Go to work or come in with. [00:33:46] Speaker A: A career and we could just do this together, period. Okay? You know what I'm saying? [00:33:50] Speaker B: Like, but don't come in here here thinking the just about to take care of you. You gonna do what I tell you to do. If you're not, then guess what? I'm gonna just go get a new. [00:34:01] Speaker A: Time to do what you tell her to do. If y' all taking care of her though, like when women work too. Like, because back in the day, women weren't working like that. Now we all work for real. So that like when you coming home from a 12 hour shift or when you up on your feet working all day, it's not as easy to do that every day. [00:34:16] Speaker B: I just said if they don't work. [00:34:20] Speaker A: If a woman does work, it's not as easy to do that back to back to back. [00:34:24] Speaker B: Like if you don't work on Sundays. [00:34:25] Speaker A: Yeah. [00:34:28] Speaker B: What you're talking about, bro? I'm not scared to leave nobody. If you're not for me, I don't give a. I'm about this, bro. If you're. If you're not doing what I need you to do, you're not making me feel how I need to be, you know, whatever the case may be, you ain't making me feel like how I supposed to be feeling. A gone. And you can take whatever it is that you feel like, okay? Your great. Your great personality some is gonna appreciate it. It's just not gonna be me. You feel what I'm saying? Like, it. It's just that simple for me, bro. Like, I don't really give a. Like, I ain't. I ain't for everybody either. [00:35:02] Speaker A: Do you feel like you're. Do you feel like your standards are a little unreasonable sometimes, though? Or do you feel like. [00:35:08] Speaker B: I mean, like, what's the best. [00:35:09] Speaker A: Come and meet them? Like, so far, like, some of the things you say, you know, you must require out of a female. Do you feel like you're gonna meet a female that meet 100 of that? Or if she lacks somewhere, you okay with that? Or they gotta meet the. You said. [00:35:19] Speaker B: I mean, get left for doing 8 out of the 10 things. Because I feel like. I feel like I did in my last situation. I did 8 out of 10, but my 2 was just so loud that, you know, that it could have been. [00:35:29] Speaker A: Her main one, it could have been. [00:35:30] Speaker B: Number two, but for me, it was three out of ten, but I was. I was cool with the three. [00:35:36] Speaker A: Was that on top of your list, though? That two could have been on top of her? You know what I'm saying? She might have 10 things you gotta check off the main two that you. [00:35:42] Speaker B: Say you did you not understand the math, though? Which one is greater? Is 8 greater than 3? [00:35:47] Speaker A: No. [00:35:47] Speaker B: It doesn't matter if I'm willing to negotiate with you while you're doing three out of ten. 30 while I'm doing 80. Meanwhile, in school. Let's take it back to school. Since you can't understand. Let's take it back to school. If I made 80 on the test and you made the 30, where the are we? [00:36:04] Speaker A: Let's take it to reality. [00:36:06] Speaker B: And you. [00:36:06] Speaker A: Let's bring it back to reality. If I got a list and the main. The top two are the main things I want a. To meet. You say you met 8 out of 10. You don't know what level that two things that you did. It could have been most important for her. Like her thing that she didn't meet for you, if that was most important, you get what I'm saying? Cool. But if it was least important, y' all could work on that. But if I got a list and you mean eight out of the ten things, but you're not meeting my top two things. That doesn't. That you're not. [00:36:29] Speaker B: So you think your top two is better than my top seven? [00:36:32] Speaker A: Everybody got different lists. [00:36:34] Speaker B: That's. That's ridiculous. No, it's. You understand what I'm saying? [00:36:36] Speaker A: You should have a list. [00:36:37] Speaker B: Ridiculous as hell. [00:36:38] Speaker A: You should have a list. [00:36:39] Speaker B: Really can sit here and argue that if a nigga say, I don't like, like, seven things about you, for the sake of the argument, you could say, well, your 2 was so over the top. You don't think 7 weighs more than 2, no matter how much weight. Okay. [00:36:53] Speaker A: You want your woman to cook, and you want to have a fat ass, right? [00:36:55] Speaker B: You said, I need all that. [00:36:56] Speaker A: Okay. The women that you talk about be, like, broke women. Like, women who don't have going. I want you to be doing this, this, not doing. [00:37:09] Speaker B: But if you want to provided that, then what are you doing? [00:37:12] Speaker A: That's what I'm saying. [00:37:12] Speaker B: Okay, then. [00:37:13] Speaker A: So I just don't have nothing going on. She's just at home with the kids, and she. [00:37:16] Speaker B: It's the general. It's the general statement that we talk about. [00:37:18] Speaker A: What's up with this fitted sheet? Like, why is that? Why they keep coming up in the comments? What's up with this? Like, what's up? [00:37:27] Speaker C: A lot of people don't know how to fold the fittest sheet. [00:37:29] Speaker A: But why is that? [00:37:35] Speaker C: Do you know how to fold the fittest sheet? [00:37:37] Speaker A: Yes. [00:37:38] Speaker C: There's a lot of people who don't know how to fold. [00:37:40] Speaker A: But why the that matter, though, for real? [00:37:42] Speaker C: Because two people's little things matter. Details matter. It's a representation of just the things that when you pile them up, like, the not knowing how to fold a fitter sheet is just one of the many other things. [00:37:57] Speaker B: Right. She's talking about. She trying to say it to me, but what she's still like. That's just like everything I say. She kind of missed miss. She'll miss it now. But what I'm saying is, if I can love you, you. I ain't telling you how much your 7 outweighing anything. I just know you ain't doing. You doing seven. It ain't got no weight to it, but if I'm doing two, you gonna put some weight on it. I'm telling you, if I put some weight on it, you ain't got no competition in it. You feel what I'm saying? Like, it ain't nothing. It ain't nothing to compare. [00:38:29] Speaker A: I think Jay missing my point, y'. [00:38:30] Speaker B: All. [00:38:30] Speaker A: Let me tell ladies this. When y' all are dating, you should have a list, and you're gonna put your in order from most important, the least important based off of you, not what nobody else want. If you want a. Who got a car, got a house, or that's most important to you, you put that at the Top of your list. And that. Gotta check that off. You get what I'm saying? If he's not checking off your must haves, ain't no reason to continue the relationship. Whether he get. Whether you got 10, 11, 12 damn things on checklist. If he's not checking out the top your priorities. [00:38:55] Speaker C: No, the issue. The issue with that is as you go through life, the list changes. [00:39:01] Speaker A: We're not talking about that. [00:39:03] Speaker C: No, you. Yeah, you got a list, but that's going to change with each situation. That's going to change with each experience. [00:39:09] Speaker A: I don't have a list. I don't have a list. [00:39:14] Speaker B: No, I don't. [00:39:15] Speaker A: You just say your must have a fat ass. She must like. Them are requirements. [00:39:18] Speaker B: Them ain't requirements. That's just what I like. That's your list. [00:39:22] Speaker C: No, but sometimes. [00:39:23] Speaker B: But that's not. You don't need a fat ass. And, and, and this to be with me though. [00:39:28] Speaker A: You do. [00:39:29] Speaker B: That's what I prefer since I have to be so specific. [00:39:34] Speaker A: You do have to be specific, though. [00:39:36] Speaker B: Prefer and need is two different things. You know what I'm saying? Like. [00:39:42] Speaker A: But she just like, she treat me. [00:39:44] Speaker B: Exactly what I want to be it. She ain't got a fat ass. I buy one it. You feel what I'm saying? Cause I. I'll meet you in the middle of bookie. If that how I really want. If that. I'm really coming to y'. [00:39:56] Speaker A: All. Everything should not be on a woman. How you require me to do something for you that you can't do for yourself. [00:40:01] Speaker B: You. You can't cook. You ain't never had that feeling of bringing your a plate. And he just light up because there's no way in hell you just. That was your. [00:40:09] Speaker A: And see me, that was like, like, cooking is my life. [00:40:13] Speaker B: Why can't cook? Like, girl, what do cook. But I'm saying what I want you to do. You know how many of your peers don't cook? [00:40:19] Speaker A: Okay, let me say that to my. As far as money, I get what you're saying. I don't. I think that when you date and though like in a relationship, I do think the man has his roles and a woman has their roles. Should a man know how to cook? Yes. But when he has a woman, should that be like a requirement for him? I don't think so. I think that he should require be required to do the things that a man should do, and then the woman should be required to do the things that a woman should do. But is it a plus to have a man who Knows how to cook also. That can help you out. Yeah, it's that. Because you're taking them big ass shots. [00:40:49] Speaker B: Yeah. [00:40:51] Speaker A: Hey, me personally, if my man can cook, that's cool. But I'd rather cook for man. [00:40:56] Speaker B: I could cook man. But guess what? [00:40:58] Speaker A: Because I do, like, like to see somebody that's just not even with whoever I'm dealing with. And when I see somebody enjoying something that I made like that, that makes me happy, because that's literally like my love. [00:41:08] Speaker B: But you know. But you know what that is? That's the nurturing part of you. [00:41:12] Speaker A: Yeah. And that's my. I'm such a nurturer. I feel like I'm not meant for people in this. In this right here. [00:41:27] Speaker B: And scammers. [00:41:29] Speaker A: What about the building that. That must have to. What about the building that must have together when you find the right person. All right, so that's what I say. When you dating, you should have a list. Once your person meets you, in my opinion, Jay say you should have one, but in my opinion, you should have a list of checkoffs. Once that person meet that. Okay, y' all moving to the next level. Then y' all can discuss what y' all checkoffs are together. Like, okay, we gonna work together. This what we must have together? Or this what I like, you know, that's when y' all kind of interwind together after y' all done past the first stage. [00:42:00] Speaker C: What you're saying is a list. I think the. The better word might be expectation. [00:42:05] Speaker A: No, I think it's a list, though. My list. This is what I want out of a man, or this is what I want my husband to have. Like, that's a. [00:42:12] Speaker C: That's going to change. That's going. [00:42:14] Speaker A: It could change for the future. I'm thinking for right now. And when I meet a person right now, this is my current no. So that's what I want you to have. [00:42:21] Speaker C: But the reason why I'm saying that is, let's say you meet a person right now, right? And for your husband to marry you, for you to say yes to somebod, they have to be these things. And then you get married at this point, due to that list. Y' all married five years. Now you're 30 or seven years, and now you're 32. [00:42:37] Speaker A: I like PJ's comment. [00:42:39] Speaker C: And I'm 32. And now your list has changed. And the. What you thought was important on this list, you're married to that list now, but your. It has changed. So now you're gonna be unhappy in that marriage. Because for you, things have changed. [00:42:54] Speaker A: I disagree. [00:42:55] Speaker C: That person is the list that you made at 25, you gotta know how to ride. [00:42:59] Speaker A: Been in a relationship for seven years, kind of been the same. [00:43:02] Speaker B: Can't ride. [00:43:03] Speaker A: It don't change drastically. Maybe minor things, but it should not change. Like, oh, I want a. With no car. And then all of a sudden, you date a with no car. Like, it should. [00:43:12] Speaker C: I think. But I think that type of stuff. [00:43:16] Speaker A: Like, you being dead ass right now, not superficially. I think it's a car. You know, no kids, whatever your preference is like that. I. I feel like your list is your personal preference. This. Don't know what to say. Who? Jay. You never know what the. Y' all heard what he said. Y' all write it in the chat if y' all heard what he said. [00:43:32] Speaker B: Hey, you got. No. [00:43:42] Speaker C: No, no. I caught that. [00:43:44] Speaker B: That is the truth. [00:43:46] Speaker A: You agree with it. [00:43:47] Speaker C: That should be a. [00:43:49] Speaker A: Never dated a With no car. [00:43:51] Speaker C: No good sex should be a part of. How are you gonna marry somebody without good. [00:43:54] Speaker A: Yeah, you can't. Yeah. I mean, seriously, it's people cheating on. [00:43:58] Speaker C: People with good sex. You gonna have bad sex at that, too? [00:44:00] Speaker A: Yes. And he ended up getting a car like, three months later. [00:44:02] Speaker B: You 25, though. So you ain't never dated a with no car. [00:44:05] Speaker A: I have. Not really. I'm always in relationships, if you get what I'm saying. I have. Not really. [00:44:09] Speaker B: Okay. [00:44:09] Speaker A: You know what I'm saying? And no, you got to come with a car because I always had a car since I was 17. So what am I dating a. With no car? I mean, I feel like some people go through stuff like, you might have just met this person. He might have just totaled his car or something like a week ago, and you just going off of him saying, oh, I ain't got no car. You know what I'm saying? But some people don't even tell you why they don't have a car. But straight up, no car car at all. [00:44:29] Speaker B: You need to use that as motivation, bro. [00:44:31] Speaker A: You need a car. [00:44:32] Speaker B: Like, well, okay, yeah, because let's say necessarily, you don't need my car. [00:44:38] Speaker A: Years now. [00:44:39] Speaker B: Come on. You don't need to be that. That's driving that girl car. If you is, bro, it shouldn't be for long. You use that. You use that as a stepping stool. You feel what I'm saying? Like, but at the same time, bro, it's like, see, but then I also think. [00:44:51] Speaker C: I also think that is. That is the car thing is more so into location. Yeah, it's more so Tied to location. I don't need no car. [00:45:02] Speaker B: You don't need no car? [00:45:04] Speaker C: I'm not buying a car if I'm in there. [00:45:06] Speaker A: I get what he's saying, y'. [00:45:07] Speaker B: All. [00:45:07] Speaker A: We in Sacramento. You need to call me Step. [00:45:08] Speaker C: But that's South Carolina. [00:45:09] Speaker B: Like, you know, hey, listen, this is what I'm saying, right? That's why I be telling y' all about loving yourself and understanding your. Your personal situations, right? Because says you can run across, like, the perfect person that you was just scrolling across on Facebook. You've been loving this girl for a couple years now. Everything she posts, you got to get on it. You feel me? Like, you get to know her, and she say some out her mind. You don't, like, leave that. Just chalk that up, right, Y'. [00:45:35] Speaker A: All. [00:45:36] Speaker B: Hey, listen, life ain't. Life ain't fair, bro. [00:45:41] Speaker A: You said a was in love with. Love with you for how many years? Years. [00:45:44] Speaker B: A couple years. [00:45:45] Speaker A: You know, following you on social media. Them always. [00:45:47] Speaker B: Finally got. Finally got. Finally got the ball. [00:45:50] Speaker A: Stalking you for years and years and years. [00:45:52] Speaker B: Don't be stalking. [00:45:53] Speaker A: Don't have a car. [00:45:54] Speaker B: Some. Some, like, question if a. Like me. Like, if I'm broke. I ain't got no motion or nothing going on. Well, what. [00:46:01] Speaker A: I ain't trying to get no. [00:46:02] Speaker B: I ain't about to holler at nobody right now. [00:46:06] Speaker A: Now, bro. [00:46:09] Speaker B: I got you hot and horned through these texts and go say. [00:46:11] Speaker A: Yeah, you got me drop you off. Oh, he say, life too short. First couple of red flags out. And that goes back to dating to see who's for you and who's not for you. The first couple of red flags you should be out just because somebody is good for somebody else. Like, how I'm saying, you got to have a car. Some females may be okay with a. With no car. [00:46:28] Speaker B: I need some within that first 21 days for me to even, like, take the situation serious. [00:46:37] Speaker A: 21 days? [00:46:38] Speaker B: Like, what you want me to, like, be committed to? Okay, let's just say me and you fall in love, right? We fall in love the natural way. We ain't been having no physical nothing. I'm in love with you, and we get to this physical part, and you ain't. Compared to what? Like, I really need and used to. You feel me? Like, bro, it's a whole different situation. You feel me? Like, ain't no ain't there. [00:47:02] Speaker A: There's. [00:47:02] Speaker B: I'm not gonna say there's no. But 85 of men nowadays is not walking around here like, oh, bro, she gave me some on the first date, he's a hoe. Well, this is my hoe. This mine. I ain't telling nobody else. She did that for me. You feel me? Like, boy, we ain't going around doing that no more. Boy. That's it for us. So all that, you acting like a gonna respect you. Cause I've been waiting on some pussy. You give me some that ain't worth waiting on. Baby, we got a whole nother problem now. We just, you know. [00:47:35] Speaker A: 21 days is fast, though. Is it easy for you? [00:47:38] Speaker B: 21 days is fast. [00:47:39] Speaker A: 21 days is fast. That's three. That's fast. Well, how many. [00:47:42] Speaker B: How old are you? [00:47:43] Speaker A: I'm. No, that's a month. [00:47:46] Speaker B: How old are you? [00:47:47] Speaker A: No, but let me say this. I don't. I don't answer that question or who on the first day, because that doesn't make a difference. Y might fall in love that same day and y' all together for 20 years later. [00:47:57] Speaker B: Cuz, I want some more. And I done got to know he got. [00:47:59] Speaker A: He got this. He got it set already. 21 days for me. You get what I'm saying? [00:48:06] Speaker B: That was just me being funny. But no, I'm not waiting forever because we. [00:48:09] Speaker A: 21 days. [00:48:11] Speaker B: In 21 days, we didn't went on a lot of dates. If I'm pursuing you for real, 21 days. Every. Every little bit of quality. Hey, can we. You want to go get something to eat? Okay, you can go straight home, but we're going to get something eat. [00:48:22] Speaker A: Okay. [00:48:22] Speaker B: Eventually one of these going to get something to eat is going to lead to me, though. [00:48:25] Speaker A: Yeah, but you feel me? [00:48:26] Speaker B: And if it ain't. And I didn't spent so and so because you ain't paying. [00:48:30] Speaker A: Are you keeping tab on that? [00:48:31] Speaker B: No, I'm not. But I'm saying. [00:48:34] Speaker A: Do keep tabs on there. Like, however much money. [00:48:39] Speaker C: It ain't keeping tabs. It's just like it. When you're putting it. Not. Not about getting the. [00:48:43] Speaker A: But okay, if I'm. [00:48:45] Speaker C: If I'm putting it, you know that I'm interested in you. And if we're physically attracted to each other, right? And we're continuously spending this time together, innately, it should be your desire. [00:48:55] Speaker A: Okay, I'm talking to the. I'm talking like, do y' all do that? Like, oh, I just spent 50 here. I just spent. I just spe. [00:49:06] Speaker B: What woman do you know that? 50. What. What can I do for you? [00:49:09] Speaker A: I mean, like, you just send her $50 for lunch or some shit. What would I do with $50? I just went to the lowest thing high as nowadays when I went to that. [00:49:32] Speaker B: Three times and Longhorn three times and I just spent 80 like a adding it up. [00:49:40] Speaker A: Why? [00:49:41] Speaker B: Come on now, yo, 50. [00:49:43] Speaker A: I go to Longhorn, get us a long pour margarita, get some parmesan crusted chicken with a steak. You know, my two sides or whatever. Maybe get a little dessert that can cover a girl lunch. Like 50 is not extreme for lunch. [00:49:58] Speaker B: And parmesan crust hour. You only get an hour. You can't bust all that down and enjoy that. [00:50:13] Speaker A: She can eat though. [00:50:16] Speaker C: I'mma send you 20. You could put the other 30 if you need to go to laundry. [00:50:19] Speaker A: Like, what am I gonna do with 50? I mean, yeah, lunch could be 25 because you can't spend 50 on lunch. [00:50:30] Speaker B: But you only doing that because a sent you $50. It's not like you on your lunch break and say, I'm going to get a $50 lunch. No, you're not, man. [00:50:37] Speaker A: Me and my. Me and my co workers used to bust it dawn at lunch at them serving R. You never know. Get drunk on lunch, come back, get a smoke session. Man, I was working at that. Okay, like me, you, you have a blast on lunch. [00:50:50] Speaker C: Talking about something. They going crazy. Going crazy for lunch. [00:50:53] Speaker A: That's not crazy. Oh, my God. [00:50:55] Speaker B: Thank you. $25 for day. [00:51:00] Speaker C: Better take your ass to goddamn Jersey. [00:51:06] Speaker B: For lunch. [00:51:07] Speaker A: It's nothing to eat. 50. [00:51:08] Speaker B: You know who deserve 50 for lunch? Them big old asses with them goddamn, you know, scrumptious looking. You, you, you just scrumptious. Okay, A ain't just. Come on now. Come on. Everybody gonna feel like they entitled to a 50 lunch or not. [00:51:25] Speaker A: If she be like, can you send me somebody for. Or you just want to even show as. You just want to send. Send it. What is the amount that y' all are sending, man, answer this too. If a lady says she want lunch or you just want to send her some money for lunch, what is the average amount that a man is saying? [00:51:37] Speaker B: 25. I might. I might send like 30. [00:51:40] Speaker A: That's reasonable. [00:51:41] Speaker B: I might send like 34. [00:51:42] Speaker A: Okay. [00:51:44] Speaker B: Just on some, like, just get some little gas. Get some gas. [00:51:47] Speaker A: But we're not talking about that though. We're talking about, you know, he pay. [00:51:49] Speaker B: For you, you know, five more dollars. I mean, it could be 30. [00:51:54] Speaker A: No, no, 25. But I would like 30 is more like, okay, medium for lunch. [00:52:00] Speaker B: That's what I really don't want to send you. [00:52:02] Speaker A: That why you don't want to start? [00:52:03] Speaker B: Because like, if you ain't My. Why am I sending you money? [00:52:06] Speaker A: Because you want to talk to her. I got a question. With you being so busy running your business and all that stuff, how do you. 30, 40. Okay. Like, how do you. [00:52:13] Speaker B: I really don't, bro. Cause, like, I didn't. I didn't got turned off so much, bro. Now that I'm back in the day and field, I got to, like, explain you that I'm busy. I don't like doing that. [00:52:21] Speaker A: Oh, my God. [00:52:21] Speaker B: You feel what I'm saying? Like, baby girl, I'm not wrong. I'm not sitting in the trap with a scale and made three sales today. You feel what I'm saying? [00:52:29] Speaker A: You always use that. [00:52:32] Speaker B: A. A working for real. Because that's what y' all be used. [00:52:34] Speaker A: To, but yes much. Okay. If you ask her what she say? [00:52:38] Speaker B: Stay working for real. You feel what I'm saying? And see that what I'm saying? So like, a get to send you $50 for lunch. A get to buying you flowers. A get the. You know what I'm saying? [00:52:49] Speaker A: I feel like flowers are essential, right? So, like, a don't want to buy you flowers. [00:52:53] Speaker B: A really pursuing you. Right. [00:52:56] Speaker A: She should be sending it back. I feel like as long as. [00:53:06] Speaker B: You know, it's so crazy every time we have this conversation, a be like, they do this, that, and the third. I ain't had the yet. [00:53:12] Speaker C: Hey, hold on, pj. Greg said lunch for his wife cost. Lunch for his wife cost 60, 65. And that's what. [00:53:23] Speaker A: Were you doing that when she was your girlfriend? When she was your girlfriend, were you also doing that? Like, they say that's your wife. Girlfriend. [00:53:30] Speaker B: Girlfriend, too, but she talking about having fun and being friends. So a lot of women is in this state of mind. You're not my girlfriend, so you don't. So I'm not going above and beyond. [00:53:41] Speaker A: She's not your girl. Y' all just start talking. You're not sending her 50. [00:53:44] Speaker B: No, no, you got me up. And if that. And if that means I don't get to talk to you or whatever the case may be, then. [00:53:51] Speaker A: So how do you start it off? When you talk to a girl, you like, oh, let's go get something to eat, or like, I mean, how does that work? [00:53:57] Speaker B: I'mma text you for a little second to see if I want to talk to you anyway, and then you invite. [00:54:01] Speaker A: Them out somewhere, right? [00:54:02] Speaker B: Okay, but then like, a just like. [00:54:04] Speaker A: Off top, like, oh, here, speak it. [00:54:06] Speaker B: For one. Bro, I ain't trying. I ain't trying to seem cocky or whatever, bro. I Like women that like me. [00:54:11] Speaker A: Yeah, I like women that like me. [00:54:14] Speaker B: You know what I'm saying? If, if I got this for one bro, I ain't got to tell nobody how much cheese I got. I, I, I'm, I'm good. I'm Gucci. I'm great. [00:54:24] Speaker A: Yeah, standards. [00:54:26] Speaker C: Honestly, ladies, y' all got a question on the table. How much you sending that man for lunch? [00:54:31] Speaker B: $10? [00:54:31] Speaker A: Nah, probably like, it just depends. Like, if we first start dep. Now. [00:54:38] Speaker C: It depends. [00:54:40] Speaker A: We're women buying. [00:54:41] Speaker B: You know, we're women. [00:54:42] Speaker A: We're not supposed to do. Like, I don't feel like we supposed to match out or do more than y', all, but I will send lunch. Like, if just starting off, I probably send like 25. But if I see here type of man that eats steak and I want to send more because that's what you. When you're like, if you send you money for a $5. I mean, some people do. Some people do that, though. Some people do that. [00:55:08] Speaker B: Hey, fellas. Hey, listen, boy need to go to the gym. Hey, hey, y'. [00:55:12] Speaker A: All. [00:55:12] Speaker B: Is y' all not listening to this? Because $30 was some, you know, a bare minimum. It's really 50 that make a twerk for lunch. But she got to see you eating steak in order to buy you a steak. You see how weird that. [00:55:28] Speaker A: All right. How you supposed to know? [00:55:30] Speaker B: Eat a parmesan crust chicken. [00:55:32] Speaker A: Yeah, but you're a man. But you're a man. [00:55:40] Speaker B: I love women that do. I'm a man. I'm a man. You read the Bible, right? You read the Bible? Are you, Are you heavy in your Bible? [00:55:46] Speaker A: Yes, I am. [00:55:47] Speaker B: So how many, how many wives did John Jacob Johnson have? They had more than one, but they. That's, That's. Since the divine way had more than one wife, as long as they could take care of them. Ain't that what the Bible says? [00:56:00] Speaker A: Sake? [00:56:00] Speaker B: Because that's a man's natural nature. [00:56:02] Speaker C: And the Quran. [00:56:03] Speaker B: Oh, okay. I'm a man. [00:56:09] Speaker A: I'm so sorry. [00:56:10] Speaker B: You can't buy me a steak, cuz I'm a man. [00:56:12] Speaker A: We said we would buy steak. Most are not eating. They okay with the. [00:56:27] Speaker B: And rockabill oil. [00:56:30] Speaker C: Thank you for making the point. Most women ain't eating steak. [00:56:33] Speaker A: Yes, they are. [00:56:34] Speaker C: No, they aren't. Most women are not. Can't even agree with you when they go out to the restaurant. [00:56:47] Speaker A: I cook steak too, though. I do like, I prefer my steak actually cook versus eating out. But I do love a steak when you eat out. But I like, I Like to cook my steak too. [00:56:53] Speaker B: I lowkey. Don't even want a woman that gonna want to see steak. [00:56:56] Speaker A: Why you. [00:56:58] Speaker B: You son, you got bare like brass knuckles in when you. Or something like. [00:57:01] Speaker A: No, of course. [00:57:02] Speaker B: What you mean you on the steak? [00:57:03] Speaker A: It depends on the kind. A filet is the most tenderest steak there is. Like a sirloin is different, but a filet or like a ribeye. [00:57:10] Speaker B: Why you don't want a seafood ball? [00:57:12] Speaker A: I don't care for a seafood boy. I love a seafood boy. I don't care for that. [00:57:15] Speaker B: Don't come over here. [00:57:16] Speaker A: You want to take me out? Do not take me out for. Everybody has their own type of preferences. [00:57:22] Speaker B: You going to have to. I ain't going to lie, bro. I'll be on here just saying sometimes. [00:57:25] Speaker A: Bro, why nobody eating steak for lunch on a regular? What's wrong with y'? All? Steak is a common thing. [00:57:34] Speaker B: She said steak in the freezer. [00:57:35] Speaker C: Because we're not. We're not saying that. The whole point is not that. It's not that they don't eat steak. It's like. It's the fact you're not eating it all the time for lunch. [00:57:45] Speaker A: Not all the time. [00:57:46] Speaker C: The majority of the. [00:57:47] Speaker B: Because I want to cash you for lunch today. You want $50? Legit. Get me a steak too. If I'm about to take you out to lunch. Well, if I'm about to take you out to dinner and about to give you some money, but I'm give you $10. Go get. Go get a four for four. You don't need all them calories anyway. Yeah, I don't eat a four for four. [00:58:13] Speaker A: So I'll be like, thank you for the offer, but I don't eat a four for four. Like, what? [00:58:17] Speaker B: Listen, I love you a good steak, medium well. This is I be saying, right? You're not gonna make me eat something. [00:58:22] Speaker A: I don't eat on a regular basis. You're gon me to go get a 404. I don't. Right, like, you don't what? [00:58:26] Speaker B: That's how. That's how I be feeling. [00:58:28] Speaker A: But you gotta set the standard. Make that buy you whatever the you want. If you want lamb chop if you want steak. If you want a crab leg. If she can't do it in return, then I just bought your ass. [00:58:40] Speaker B: I'm supposed to spend money to see. [00:58:42] Speaker A: No, you. You're spending money because you like her. But she has to reciprocate that energy. And a lot of the time, if you talking to the right girl, she's gonna do it before you can do it. [00:58:50] Speaker B: Hey, gang, this why be saying camera and listen, this what I be saying, right? That's why I said that. That 21 days. Because, listen, I'mma do everything you ask. I'mma do everything you ask me to do. But if you ain't popping that, how a want that to be? Pop? I'm not spending a thing. [00:59:08] Speaker A: But do a really gotta you every day. [00:59:10] Speaker B: Listen, not every day, but she. [00:59:11] Speaker A: No, he said he can't go. He said. He said he okay for one. [00:59:16] Speaker B: You ain't got to me long. You feel me? [00:59:20] Speaker A: Like, why? [00:59:21] Speaker B: What you mean? Yeah, he don't need long, but I just need about two rounds. And I wake up in the morning to get something. We ain't got the all night. You ain't got to bounce on me all night, girl. Okay with all that. Okay with all that. Boy, them ain't them. Just started. [00:59:38] Speaker A: Getting tiring. You know what? Chick fil a every day. Oh, yeah. Not every day. No. I can't eat no chick fil a every day, bro. Chick fil a nasty as. [00:59:46] Speaker B: How you want the pop? [00:59:47] Speaker A: Yeah, okay, like, how does he want? Like, come on. Every. [00:59:52] Speaker B: Like a pop twin. You know what I'm saying? But you know, well, okay. It's just a no. Hell no. She got a girl. She got a boyfriend. So, no, ain't nothing like that. Because I ain't about to be arguing with. No, I don't. I don't. [01:00:06] Speaker A: He a quick pumper. [01:00:07] Speaker B: He a quick pumper. Okay, whatever you say. Send me one of your home girls. Just send me one. Just send me one. [01:00:16] Speaker A: Don't send him the first training program. [01:00:23] Speaker B: She gonna get the out of and everything gonna be paid for. [01:00:28] Speaker A: She's not getting crab leg boils unless the obviously eat crab legs or something. [01:00:32] Speaker B: I don't know. [01:00:32] Speaker A: It's like it's stipulations or whatever that he got. Oh, my God. No. [01:00:40] Speaker B: Damn. We got to wrap up. But this. Hey, one thing for sure. Two things for certain with ink don't deal with no broke. You feel me? Like that. Just. That's just it. A broke woman. Y' all don't like when I say. [01:00:55] Speaker A: You always saying. [01:00:56] Speaker B: But when y' all see. [01:01:00] Speaker A: We can do that, though. Exactly. What's different? [01:01:03] Speaker B: What's the difference, bro? Like, damn. [01:01:06] Speaker A: It's the same coming out of a man's life. I don't know what it is. [01:01:08] Speaker B: I can't say you a stupid. [01:01:13] Speaker A: Like that. [01:01:14] Speaker B: Well, y'. All. Y' all are wild. Hey, but this man even tuned to Another episode of Peas in the Pod podcast. You feel? We got a sad announcement. My girl Roselle won't be back next week. You feel me? She out. [01:01:28] Speaker A: I'm out. [01:01:29] Speaker B: Y' all our own show. You feel? We gonna show us some love, man. You feel me? [01:01:33] Speaker A: Y and J gonna carry for y'. [01:01:34] Speaker B: All. Yeah, we know we gonna do the damn thing. We g. We go. [01:01:37] Speaker A: And I'm gonna be in the comments just like y'. All. [01:01:43] Speaker B: But, hey, man, we out, man. I appreciate y' all for tuning in, man. We. We back again next week. We're gonna drop clips, and you've been tuning to another. Damn. Hey, that julio on me, boy. I can't get. Can't even get the words together for real. To another episode. Appeasing the pod podcast with your boy Jay would eat my girl Raz. Yaya. With the be boot. [01:02:06] Speaker A: Hold on, hold on, hold on. Fuck. [01:02:07] Speaker B: We get. Before we leave. [01:02:08] Speaker A: Before we leave. [01:02:09] Speaker B: Come on. Before we leave. Come on. Let me get out the camera. [01:02:13] Speaker A: Y' all come on my podcast Thursday. [01:02:14] Speaker B: Stand up. Hey, listen, this why y' all here. I couldn't let y' all leave. Turn around two times for him, boy. [01:02:20] Speaker A: Make sure y' all tune into the podcast Thursday. Thursday. Thursday. Okay. [01:02:23] Speaker B: You see that? That was one. [01:02:27] Speaker A: That's. That's enough. [01:02:28] Speaker B: Okay, just. Just rewind the live. The live gonna be posted. You, me, but yeah, Whole lot of ass in the building. And we back next week. Peace.