You Can't Pay Attention to the Red Box but Not the Shoes Falling Apart?

[00:00:08] Speaker A: Yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah. [00:00:09] Speaker B: Yo, what's good? [00:00:10] Speaker A: What's good? This boy Jay with the ink. Back to you with another episode Peace in the Power podcast today. I switched this up, man. You feed me. I got. There we go. Yoshi. [00:00:24] Speaker B: Yeah, yeah, yeah. [00:00:24] Speaker A: Pipe my mic up right quick. Oh, Didi, I don't even know. [00:00:28] Speaker C: Oh, my mic up do sound crazy now that you said it. [00:00:32] Speaker A: Yeah, you know, somebody would have heard it before me, but you got to know, did everything all this. But today, man, I got some very special guests today. Got my fellas with. Am I kind of going in and out? I ain't going in, but. [00:00:59] Speaker B: How you feel? [00:01:00] Speaker A: It's just a. [00:01:01] Speaker C: Well, I'm feeling freaky today. [00:01:03] Speaker A: Nah, man, not with you niggas. But yeah, man, I got my boy the cooking barber in the building. [00:01:13] Speaker C: Yep, yep, yep, yep. [00:01:15] Speaker A: About time. I got. I got that boy Jalen Page, J Page in here tonight, ladies and gentlemen. Let's give a round of applause for that. [00:01:24] Speaker D: This is first time. Glad to be here. [00:01:27] Speaker A: First podcast up and another special guest. Y'all ain't even gonna guess this one. I got that boy Prime Time Kelly in the building. If he. This is his first time on the mic, too. [00:01:42] Speaker B: What up? [00:01:44] Speaker A: A round of applause. There we go. [00:01:47] Speaker B: There we go. [00:01:48] Speaker D: There we go. Yes. [00:01:49] Speaker A: Yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, man. How y'all fellas, man? Everything smooth? [00:01:58] Speaker B: Everything good, man. Copacetic. [00:02:01] Speaker A: No, I don't like that angle right there, bro. Did it put it in the. [00:02:09] Speaker B: My mind crazy. [00:02:11] Speaker A: I want to look good. [00:02:15] Speaker B: That boy say he going to look good. [00:02:21] Speaker D: Now. My boy 20, 25 master's degree. [00:02:26] Speaker A: Okay, then. [00:02:26] Speaker B: Okay. [00:02:27] Speaker C: Word. [00:02:28] Speaker B: Congratulations. [00:02:28] Speaker A: Well, you got gold teeth, boy. [00:02:31] Speaker B: Got. [00:02:33] Speaker A: Boy J Page got gold teeth. [00:02:36] Speaker B: Damn, boy, that crazy, bro. [00:02:38] Speaker A: I remember this. Is this, this. Yeah, like, y'all don't understand. Like, I watched J Page grew up since we. Me and. Me and cuz, J page was like 6 years old. [00:02:50] Speaker B: Younger, youngie, always in the way. [00:02:54] Speaker A: Daddy, daddy, daddy, daddy. Can I break down the huddle? [00:02:58] Speaker B: He mean well, though. [00:02:59] Speaker A: Yeah, for sure. Good heart. Good heart person. [00:03:02] Speaker B: Most definitely. [00:03:02] Speaker D: Thank you. [00:03:06] Speaker A: Something like, you don't think you're gonna find love. [00:03:10] Speaker D: I did say that. You know, I did say that a couple weeks ago, man. And it's just when you done wrong and, you know, you reflect on what you've done, but also what people have done to you. You know, say you want one thing, check all the boxes. Now all of a sudden, it's a different story. So make up your mind what you want and, like, kind of Love, I offer that kind of things. I like to say I offer boring love, you know, gentle love. And everybody ain't used to that. So no need to give it to somebody who ain't gonna see the value in that kind of love. [00:03:45] Speaker A: So, yeah, that for sure. [00:03:48] Speaker C: But, bro, you felt like you learned. [00:03:51] Speaker D: That well over time, you know, coming from a household that has two parents, you see things that you do want. You know. One thing I always try to guess, you can say my non negotiable is I want the best out of life. My mom, she's the more get my hands dirty with my man to get the things that we do have, that kind of stuff. I want the best out of life. So if you're not on that same wavelength, then what's the point of us being together or even trying something? So that kind of thing. And also the things I've seen in my heart that I don't. You know, just things like I don't believe in yelling, screaming to get a point across. Some people feel like they got to raise their voice to get a point across. In actuality, people look at how you say things. So if you come off aggressive, a lot of people gonna get defensive and not listen to what you have to say. They listen. Listening to how you say it. [00:04:45] Speaker B: Yeah. [00:04:46] Speaker D: So, like, tell any woman, if I got to raise my voice at you, I don't need to be with you. Cause I'm not gonna fight the world and then come home and gotta fight you too. Not really. [00:04:56] Speaker A: Bro, sometimes you got to yell at that girl, bro. That's just the way the cookie crumble, bro. Like, sometimes you gonna have to yell at that girl, bro. [00:05:04] Speaker B: Something wrong with you. [00:05:05] Speaker A: But I did feel that, though. Cause, bro, sometimes I gotta work on. I gotta work on my approach too. You know what I'm saying? Like, I come off aggressive sometimes. We know I look, see. [00:05:15] Speaker B: Yeah, we definitely know that, though. [00:05:17] Speaker A: See what I'm saying? Hey, bro, y'all play victim? [00:05:19] Speaker B: Nah, I get on it. I'm your cousin, though. I'm gonna let you know the real. [00:05:22] Speaker A: Cause you be pushing buttons. [00:05:24] Speaker B: I like to get a rise out of people. No Diddy. [00:05:29] Speaker A: We gonna start calling this no Diddy. [00:05:31] Speaker B: No, I'm just saying, though. Hey, but look, though, don't start calling what I say, J. Like, I feel where you coming from, bro? [00:05:40] Speaker A: You gotta be mean. [00:05:41] Speaker B: But I feel like. Also, though, like, I wanna ask you how much you really love yourself. [00:05:47] Speaker A: Good question. [00:05:49] Speaker D: To be honest with you, I have this year. I've really started to accept who I am. You know, not trying to be fit in. Went through that a lot in high school. Went through a lot of it in college. Majority of it, too. I was just like, man. And like, I tell anybody I do love myself, but I'm not willing to compromise who I am for you. You know, that kind of stuff. [00:06:10] Speaker B: Yeah, I get it. But that's what I'm saying. And miss it like a. You know what you saying that, like, I kind of understand where you come from as far as, like, you know, like, just learning and pick it up. But it's like I asked you. I only asked you that because I feel like you need to give yourself a little bit more time to love yourself a little bit more so you kind of understand, like, what women kind of come with. [00:06:29] Speaker A: Yeah, yeah. [00:06:30] Speaker B: Cause, like, you know what I'm saying. [00:06:31] Speaker A: You got to be like, I ain't gonna lie, bro, at this day and time or at this day and age, like, it's more beneficial to kind of like, really, like, being in love with yourself, bro. Like, it can't nobody, like, knock you off your pivot in regards to, like, how you feel about yourself or what you feel as though you deserve, bro, that ain't gonna be. You know what I'm saying? Like, you gotta be like that. That just ain't the one for you. [00:07:01] Speaker C: I was gonna ask that too. Like, do you feel like you might have chase the wrong type of girl that make you feel this way? Because I feel like it's a lot of women that desire soft, soft love. You know what I mean? Some. Some women will play victim and ball up in the corner and cry if. Start yelling, you know what I'm saying? So I just feel like, you know how somebody. I don't know, like a good girl on a street. You see what I'm saying? You, like, you say laid back, quiet, soft love, but you want a hot girl. You want a city girl, you know what I'm saying? But that ain't your type of girl. [00:07:42] Speaker B: That. [00:07:43] Speaker C: That's what I'm asking. I guess more so. I don't know what your type is, but I was saying that to say, like, maybe it just been. You know what I mean, the different. [00:07:51] Speaker A: I know what his type is. Oh, he like them. See the girls, bro. [00:07:57] Speaker D: Yeah. I ain't gonna lie to you, man. [00:07:59] Speaker A: But you can't, like, bring nothing wrong with that. Ain't nothing wrong with, like, you like. [00:08:05] Speaker B: Who you like, you feel me? [00:08:06] Speaker A: Like, can't help that. But it's somebody who fall in that and also know how to like, love. [00:08:13] Speaker D: You the way that you want to be. [00:08:14] Speaker B: You want to be loved type, right? Cause, like, you gotta give yourself a lot of patience, man. Right? [00:08:19] Speaker A: You'll lose yourself. [00:08:20] Speaker B: Listen, you'll lose yourself. Honestly, though, on some real shit, though. Like, that's what. Like, if you really look at it, though, bro, that's what a lot of them. These, like, failed as, like, situationships and, like, relationships and feel that. Because a lot of people don't got patience with shit, right? Like, everybody come in, like, already, like, you know, I get. I understand, like, having a standard, but it's like in the mishaving a standard, you kind of, like, compromise with shit when you really like somebody. But, like, you know, we start dealing with shit, we start understanding, like, shit become repetitive. And it's like, you gotta look at it in a sense. It's like you ain't really gave a lot of shit. Patience or that person that you dealing with ain't gave patience neither. Cause like, we kinda, like, live in a, like, the way, like, dating and shit is. Like, this shit sucks. Cause ain't nobody got patience for shit, but they want shit. It's crazy, right? [00:09:09] Speaker D: I kind of describe that kind of love in today's world as more like a microwave. You know, it's real quick, it's easy, but deep down, it's still cold in the middle, so you're not really getting it. [00:09:18] Speaker B: Feel good? [00:09:19] Speaker D: Yeah, it feels good. But like I tell anybody, I think the love that I may be looking for, or a lot of people are looking for in today's world, men and women, is what I call soul food. If you ever seen your parents or anybody cook soul food, let's just say Thanksgiving. Thanksgiving on a Thursday, they don't start cooking Thursday morning. They've been cooking Monday, Tuesday, Wednesday. All right? And that's where it comes from. [00:09:43] Speaker A: Wednesday, though, I'll be cooking soul food. [00:09:46] Speaker D: But you get what I'm saying? [00:09:47] Speaker B: Nah. Cause listen, the way you broke that analogy down, like, like, listen, the way I think about the way you broke the analogy down. You broke it down in a sense, like, all right, you got patience to, like, teach some shit. You know what I'm saying? [00:09:57] Speaker A: But see, at the same time. [00:09:58] Speaker B: Oh, oh, go ahead, Go ahead. No, yeah, you go ahead, go ahead. [00:10:01] Speaker A: But I'm saying, like, you just got to, like, you can't get upset that somebody ain't. Can't meet you in the middle of that. You know what I'm saying? Like, everybody ain't raised to that extent. To a lot of people, definition of Love be fucked up. [00:10:19] Speaker B: A lot of people base their love off, like. It's like. Some people base their love on, like. Like real, like, genuine love. I'm gonna show you how to love. But a lot of people got love in a sense on, like, survival love. [00:10:29] Speaker D: Right? [00:10:30] Speaker B: You know what I'm saying? [00:10:30] Speaker A: Survival and, like, survival type, like shit. Materialistic. [00:10:34] Speaker B: Yeah, yeah. But, like, that kind of come in, like, with survival type shit a little bit. A lot of shit kind of come in hand in hand with a lot of little shit, though. [00:10:42] Speaker D: A lot of stuff is transactional. Yeah, for sure. We treating what we should be treating. Material, tangible things. We should be using those. But we use people. That's not right. People have feelings. Objects don't have feelings. [00:10:54] Speaker B: Yeah, I get it. [00:10:55] Speaker D: Yeah. So that's just kind of like. I get what y'all saying. And it's been like. [00:10:58] Speaker B: It's like learning how to control that. Listen, I'm telling you, like, look. [00:11:01] Speaker A: And there's somebody out there for you, though. There's somebody out there for everybody, bro. [00:11:05] Speaker B: But you got time, bro. You young. [00:11:07] Speaker C: That's why I told you we outnumbered for a reason. [00:11:10] Speaker A: And with you having the type of, like, energy that you trying to bring to somebody, bro, like being honest, bro, being the girl first. Good, bro, you gonna. You're gonna scare a lot of women, you know what I'm saying? Because a lot of women don't really know how it feels to be treated by a real man, bro. You know what I'm saying? Or somebody who actually care. [00:11:31] Speaker B: But, yeah, you know what I'm saying? [00:11:33] Speaker A: Yeah, for sure. [00:11:34] Speaker B: You gotta take your time with. And, like. No, kind of like. Like that. What I say is, like, when you start. Like, when come. Like becomes repetitive, bro. Like, when you start, like, dealing with, like, you say, dealing with the same type girl and the same type of little. That's happening. All right. In a sense, like. All right, if you already know that now, it's kind of like you kind of. Kind of start looking at yourself in the mirror and be like, yo, you know what? Instead of me just sitting here blaming somebody, that, like I said, you kind of know what a woman gonna come with. They're gonna come with emotions, and so you kind of gotta know how to handle it. So, like, knowing when that shit gonna come, like, knowing yourself a little bit more like, you know, shit like that ain't gonna bother you. So it's like, don't say you gonna know how to approach the situation a little bit better, you know what I'm saying? So it's like. It's like you don't want to sit there and down, start blaming people and shit like that or whatever. You don't want to say. They like, we. We kind of like get into a sense of like, that was a repair you. It's like you want to keep blaming, like, blaming the person. Blame the person. But it's like we can only blame people, but, you know, we kind of allow them to do that everything kind of like. You know what I'm saying? [00:12:37] Speaker D: Oh, reading. It's kind of like reading the same. [00:12:39] Speaker C: Book, though, and expecting a different outcome. [00:12:42] Speaker A: Ain't no ac. [00:12:45] Speaker B: Well, you hot. That boy took two shots about the. [00:12:48] Speaker A: Sweat Granny house in this. You need some fans anymore you got. [00:12:57] Speaker B: Open the door, God damn it. [00:13:03] Speaker C: Don't be the high last time I was in or something. [00:13:04] Speaker A: Hell, no. I wouldn't even come back in. [00:13:07] Speaker B: I feel good, boy. [00:13:08] Speaker A: Feel good, my ass crazy. Damn. Oh, she got it got down. You mustn't want me to come back in here. [00:13:21] Speaker C: And then you probably just need you. [00:13:22] Speaker A: A little church girl. [00:13:24] Speaker C: Yeah, and I'll be thinking about that, too. [00:13:25] Speaker A: Like church girls. [00:13:27] Speaker B: Girls. [00:13:27] Speaker A: Different girls. [00:13:28] Speaker C: Yeah, but guess what, though. They kind of like, they still got, like, patience and things are, like, subtle and real simple with them most of the time. They got another side. [00:13:40] Speaker A: Where the fans at? [00:13:42] Speaker C: And we ain't talking about them clicking ones, only the window fans. [00:13:47] Speaker B: Where the fans at? Boy, you hot for real. [00:13:50] Speaker A: Oh, my baby. I'm hot at this bitch. [00:13:52] Speaker B: Yeah, I should have had that order, though. We got to order, bro. [00:13:55] Speaker A: I out my car. [00:13:58] Speaker B: I didn't tell him you had a water in the car. [00:14:02] Speaker C: They making you hot, too, now? [00:14:03] Speaker B: No, I ain't worried, but I got. [00:14:06] Speaker C: Thirsty watching somebody else. [00:14:09] Speaker B: And I done took that shot. Oh, this almost made it. [00:14:14] Speaker C: Yo, this last. He almost jumped from the free throw line last on that steel. [00:14:18] Speaker B: Yeah, dude. Floor, right? Yeah, yeah. Hell yeah. [00:14:22] Speaker A: And we gonna switch the. [00:14:26] Speaker B: No, I mean, not. Yeah, no, go ahead. I mean, you still like, you know this. [00:14:33] Speaker C: It's other to hit, though. You know what I'm saying? We can even talk about, like, we can go back to them damn Cali fires. That shit's still crazy to me. But that ant, man, that's a man like. [00:14:44] Speaker D: Yeah, I respect mix reviews on. [00:14:47] Speaker A: Damn it. It already didn't cool down in here. What you do? [00:14:51] Speaker C: He talking about? Nothing. [00:14:53] Speaker A: God damn. Broke the hot box. Is that what you did, twin? [00:14:57] Speaker D: Now, how do y'all feel about it? Y'all are men who have children. I don't, so I don't have much of a say so. But I'm also like. I've seen mixed reviews on. All right. I can see it from yalls perspectives as dads, but I also see the perspectives from the women's side too. [00:15:14] Speaker B: As far as what we are talking. [00:15:15] Speaker D: About, how do y'all feel about it? I don't have really a. Oh, you. [00:15:18] Speaker B: Talking about with that. [00:15:18] Speaker D: I really ain't got a dog. [00:15:19] Speaker C: I feel like, yeah, the situation different, bro. When it comes to man and woman, really. [00:15:22] Speaker A: Right. And I'm gonna go first because like a lot of women, A lot of women like feeling a certain type of way because like not necessarily saying like they've been in that situation, but like, you know, they involved with deadbeat niggas, bro. But at the end of the day, that situation's so sensitive because you got a 23 year old man. Y. N a young nigga. [00:15:43] Speaker C: 200 million. [00:15:44] Speaker B: 200 million, 200 million. [00:15:47] Speaker A: This girl at 36 to 38 years. [00:15:49] Speaker C: Old, the one that got a baby for little baby too, right? [00:15:52] Speaker A: So she not. She wasn't with that boy for love. He know that too, you know what I'm saying? [00:15:57] Speaker B: Like, so he got the right anyway, like basically he definitely. [00:16:00] Speaker A: Because the baby came out of. Because if she wanted to get rid of it and he wanted to keep it, we wouldn't even be having this conversation. It just be a whole different type of vibe, you feel me? Like, and then all this be so much of a double standard. It it be like, oh, he treat a woman a certain type of way. They ain't even a woman for real. [00:16:16] Speaker B: That man had the right to say exactly what it was and then exactly how you wanted. [00:16:21] Speaker A: So you mad at me because I gave you a hundred thousand to get rid of the baby? Didn't get rid of the baby. [00:16:27] Speaker C: And that does not cost a hundred thousand. [00:16:29] Speaker A: So. So. [00:16:30] Speaker B: So you kept a lot of. That was hush money. [00:16:31] Speaker A: You kept the hundred thousand and went in, kept the baby and took me. [00:16:38] Speaker B: To court for childhood and took me to court. [00:16:39] Speaker A: So it. Okay, so since you out the money so bad, if you wasn't gonna have. [00:16:44] Speaker C: An abortion, why you took the. Why you took the money? [00:16:46] Speaker A: Don't worry about it. So now I'm just about to pay 18 years worth of this shit and now I don't wanna. [00:16:51] Speaker C: Somebody said that was fake news, man. [00:16:53] Speaker A: That ain't fake news. [00:16:55] Speaker C: I almost believe it because 5,000amonth sound too low for what he make when you break it down. [00:17:01] Speaker B: But I feel like they know this. [00:17:02] Speaker A: I feel like her income too. [00:17:03] Speaker B: And I Feel like she might be got. [00:17:05] Speaker C: She about to get 20 from Lil Baby or something. [00:17:07] Speaker A: You already getting something. [00:17:08] Speaker B: That's what I'm saying. The judge kind of know their situation. [00:17:10] Speaker C: Yeah, and then too, I made it again. I made it. I made the point. Like, bro, the Y N200 million, her body cold. She doing what she do. So 80% of men. Well, I'm say. Let me say 60. They not doing. They not going the extra mile to find that, bro. No, but let's keep it a bill. [00:17:29] Speaker A: And that's. And that's 102, bro. [00:17:31] Speaker C: But two. [00:17:31] Speaker A: Two on top of that bit, bro. A lot like when we be dealing with women and you know, we ain't for love. We just about to get this on and we going on about our business. What? Them girls ain't trying to trap you with no goddamn baby. You got the abortion money. I go drive myself. You know what I'm saying? [00:17:50] Speaker B: They be ready to get ready, baby, for you. [00:17:51] Speaker C: No, you don't. [00:17:52] Speaker A: You know who this is? He didn't sign that 200 years. Yeah, or I'm about to get something. [00:17:56] Speaker C: Yeah, y'all should. Like you say, y'all 15 years apart. Why y'all in the same circle? [00:18:00] Speaker A: So you didn't gave. You didn't gave him. So now he's. Now you done got a million dollars. She about to blow that shit. That baby ain't gonna get a goddamn. [00:18:07] Speaker C: Yeah, she'll be broke for that baby. [00:18:09] Speaker B: 5. [00:18:10] Speaker A: She ain't gonna get a Honda Accord. [00:18:12] Speaker C: I saw a new picture. She don't want to bought a box truck. I say, Lord have mercy. [00:18:16] Speaker A: Exactly box like that ass. [00:18:18] Speaker B: Listen, man, a wise woman once told me, man can only do what a woman allow him to do. [00:18:25] Speaker C: And what I guess again, like, I mean, yeah, there's so many people blaming him, right? And I'm like, bro, can't blame that man. [00:18:30] Speaker B: That man got the right a woman. [00:18:33] Speaker C: A woman know when she ovulating. [00:18:35] Speaker B: Thank you. [00:18:35] Speaker C: Raw sex don't mean I want a baby with you. No one came, okay? He tried to handle it a different way. And then again, they gotta also think he already got three kids that he do with. Why he don't want to with this one? Because it's hurt. It ain't got nothing to do with that baby. I don't want to with this cause of you. [00:18:53] Speaker A: But my thing, that's how I think about it, is putting theyself. Putting theyself in them shoes, bro. But you was dealing with that man off the strength of non materialistic shit. That Your. You went after your. Cause he was cute, not cause he had some money or he had other hoes. No money. [00:19:08] Speaker B: None. [00:19:09] Speaker A: Cause they baby daddies don't be having no damn money. And they got so much to say. [00:19:12] Speaker C: You saw me make that post. [00:19:13] Speaker A: Come on, bro. [00:19:13] Speaker C: Yeah, he ain't active. And he broke. [00:19:15] Speaker A: Come on, man. [00:19:16] Speaker B: Come on. [00:19:17] Speaker E: I think he paid off. Cause he off. He gave her. He told her he gave her a hundred thousand. No, it was like 200. [00:19:23] Speaker A: To get the abortion. [00:19:24] Speaker E: To get the abortion. He gave her 200 questions to get the abortion. Now he said, yo, hey, here you go. And then next thing you know, she come with the baby. [00:19:32] Speaker A: Well, fuck it, bitch. I don't. I don't want a baby. I don't want a baby from you. [00:19:35] Speaker C: And he like, bro, at that point, if you. [00:19:37] Speaker E: I think that if she would have approached it the first time, like she was going to keep it. And even if she would have came back off the strength, like, you know what? I. I thought I would get it. I can't do it. Here's the bread back. [00:19:48] Speaker A: That bread spent, though. [00:19:49] Speaker E: No, but I won't say we going. [00:19:51] Speaker B: To take that bread. [00:19:51] Speaker E: I'm just saying she got more out of him. Like, him being. Cause that would have shown she's a true woman. Like, she'd been like, yo, look, it ain't the money, so here go your money back. [00:19:59] Speaker A: Yeah, but you know what I'm saying? [00:20:02] Speaker E: 200. [00:20:03] Speaker B: I would have had a different respect. [00:20:04] Speaker E: And I could afford it. You know how many would do that? [00:20:06] Speaker C: If they're giving you $1 million out of 200 million, if they could afford. [00:20:09] Speaker E: To do that to pay off their baby? [00:20:12] Speaker A: You mean to tell me it's worth bringing a child into this world that you know, daddy don't want nothing to do with him. Oh, this your daddy right here. You know what I'm saying? [00:20:21] Speaker C: Women get off by talking shit about the daddy. [00:20:23] Speaker A: Come on, bro. [00:20:25] Speaker C: They glow like. [00:20:27] Speaker E: It was so much power in that, though. Like, if you think about it, she can't never say nothing about ever to anybody about him. He don't take care of his child. Bitch, you got 1.6 off the. [00:20:40] Speaker D: Off the. Just. [00:20:41] Speaker B: Yeah, just off the muscle. [00:20:42] Speaker E: If you ain't got no money by the time that baby 15, who fault it is. [00:20:46] Speaker B: Word. [00:20:47] Speaker D: This is my only thing, too. If he told you what it was. [00:20:50] Speaker E: Beforehand from the gate. [00:20:51] Speaker D: From the gate, and you were still like, all right, cool. That's like a man coming to a woman. And the man saying, you know, I do mess with other Women. And you still say, I still want to mess with you. So whatever come with it. That's what you deal with. [00:21:03] Speaker A: And see, that's what a lot of crazy. That's what a lot of women be dealing with. Because I didn't told some girls on this show. Yoshi my witness, y'all really only got side stories. Like, and you. And you sitting here acting like you was on the Emperor's new. Like you were sitting next to the emperor that just came and you and dropped some money off, but that was good enough for you, and you fell in love with that because you ain't got. You ain't got no hustle. [00:21:27] Speaker C: Yeah. [00:21:28] Speaker A: You know what I'm saying? [00:21:30] Speaker C: Like I say. And again, how we. We was just talking about a good. You don't really know what a good look like. You don't know what a good move like or you gonna on a good. [00:21:38] Speaker A: And then, bro, like a. [00:21:39] Speaker C: That phone unlocked with the screen up. [00:21:41] Speaker A: And then, see, that's. And that's what we tell Most niggas. [00:21:44] Speaker C: Got their phone in their pocket, they in the shower. [00:21:46] Speaker B: That's what we telling them. Right? [00:21:48] Speaker A: You going. You going at the. Who done had 10 suckers? So if she done had 10 suckers, bro, and you coming along not being a sucker, but you trying to be genuine, bro, that ain't enough in 20, 25, boy. Not with certain ones, not with certain caliber of women. And you could tell they mindset just by looking at what the they share on face. [00:22:05] Speaker C: I wish us men would start having standards on the same questions and stuff. They ask about how many kids you got, you go to the gym, how do you eat, how much money you make a year. [00:22:15] Speaker A: I got them standards. [00:22:16] Speaker D: Oh, this is the one. I've asked girls who you know in conversation, like, you know, what makes you feel loved. And some of them can't even tell me. [00:22:26] Speaker C: See what I'm saying? They don't know what it is. [00:22:27] Speaker D: And it bothers me because it's like, if I do something and, you know, I've been out here in the world, been in the public eye since I've been born, and out here trying to stand on my own name, how you gonna feel if we go out somewhere people wanna talk to me about this and that, and somebody who's in the public eye for the right reasons, people know them for good things. How are you gonna react? Are you gonna just be so territorial or be like, nah, I'm like, this is. I'm in the public eye. So for me, I tell anybody, it's a certain way I expect you to act if you can't come. If I may one day, I'm an aspiring head coach on the college level. All of that, they're gonna do a background check on everything that comes with me. So if you out here wilding, can't keep your clothes on, this kind of stuff, it's not gonna benefit. [00:23:12] Speaker B: Correct. [00:23:12] Speaker D: Already gonna look at a problem. [00:23:14] Speaker B: Right. [00:23:15] Speaker D: And guess what? [00:23:15] Speaker C: And attach it to you. [00:23:16] Speaker D: Yeah. [00:23:17] Speaker C: This is Jaylen's paid girlfriend. [00:23:19] Speaker D: Yeah. [00:23:19] Speaker C: Or this shit ain't got no name. [00:23:21] Speaker A: Just like with Travis Hunter, bro. [00:23:23] Speaker D: Yeah. And I just tell anybody. I don't use that to, you know, uplift myself, all of that. But I'm just saying that's what comes with me. Just the same way. Like my mom always told me, when you get married or you deal with somebody, you take them flaws and all. [00:23:35] Speaker C: Yeah. [00:23:37] Speaker B: Guess what? In the vows, they ain't never said nothing about happiness. [00:23:40] Speaker D: Because a lot of people. You know what the problem? You know what the problem is? [00:23:43] Speaker B: You didn't say nothing about happiness. [00:23:46] Speaker D: Some people listening, I want to say this. The reason a lot of marriages fail now or relationships fail now is because when you add that altar, a lot of people, when they say I do, they really mean, I'll try. [00:23:56] Speaker B: They want the marriage, bro. They don't want. They. They don't want. They don't want to be married. They don't want to be married. [00:24:01] Speaker C: They just want some of them videos. [00:24:02] Speaker E: The women be like, be married? [00:24:04] Speaker C: Yeah, yeah. Them women be saying weird at the altar, like, oh, it didn't say this or. [00:24:10] Speaker A: You know what I'm saying? Like, yo, that's the double standard of being a woman, though, bro. Because, bro, women can leave when they want to. A woman can break up a family br A. Nobody going to question nothing about it. Nothing about it, bro. Nothing about let a man leave. You left your family, scumbag. You know what I'm saying? A. A man. Let a man be going through his rough path, bro. [00:24:31] Speaker B: You. [00:24:31] Speaker A: You can't. You. You can't find your job. [00:24:34] Speaker E: You. [00:24:34] Speaker B: You. [00:24:35] Speaker A: You're struggling, but you trying, bro. We don't get that. You trying. [00:24:38] Speaker C: Word is Bo a woman. [00:24:40] Speaker A: Oh, at least she trying. She a mama to her. [00:24:42] Speaker C: I know of a little chick that left out on her cuz he got sick, bro. [00:24:46] Speaker A: Oh, I know, I know. [00:24:48] Speaker C: Oh, my God. [00:24:49] Speaker A: Okay. [00:24:49] Speaker C: I said, yo, that broke my heart. And I don't even was in that. [00:24:52] Speaker A: Situation and be chasing rich, though, you know what I'm saying? Like, but. But, bro, bro, that's Just the reality that we live in now, bro. Like, bro, if you find you some good. If you find you some good, genuine energy, bro, a girl who was raised around, like, on some. Like her mama was a wife. Cause if her mama wasn't a wife, bro, she ain't never been around the wife. Not necessarily saying her mama, grandma, auntie, just somebody, somebody, a wife, bro, or a homemaker. [00:25:21] Speaker C: If she wasn't a wife, but knew how to take care of house, we'll figure out the other out. Because every might not need as much as others. You know what I'm saying? [00:25:28] Speaker A: Me and the wife come with. Oh, I set the table. Cooking clean, baby. That's just part of that, bro. Y'all here for nurturing energy. You supposed to be my piece. [00:25:37] Speaker C: I promise you, bro. [00:25:38] Speaker A: Listen, we don't know what going. [00:25:42] Speaker C: That'd be a prize. [00:25:43] Speaker A: We don't know what going behind them closed doors with mommy and Daddy, boy, what Grandma and Granddaddy. What kind of peace Grandma bringing Granddaddy. Because apparently it's something. They've been together 50 something years. [00:25:52] Speaker C: Hey, and they probably had a rough patch, but guess what? These kids weren't involved. Not some of these single parents. Mom or dad, like the kids involved with the mess. Yeah, they telling the kid, your daddy ain't Grandma and granddad. They gonna tell the you ain't. You know what I'm saying? They gonna make sure you still respect that father or that mother in their eye. And don't disrespect them in front of them. Now, they don't give a damn. They cuss you out with a baby in their hand. [00:26:19] Speaker D: Then two people. When we say, like, the things I'm hearing, I always tell a woman, cheating is a choice. All right? Rough patches, things like that you're gonna go through in marriage. Those are the reasons you're there. Nobody said marriage was gonna be perfect. [00:26:35] Speaker B: Correct. All right, What I said, what I had said in the vows, they ain't say nothing about happiness. [00:26:40] Speaker C: That's why people write their own. [00:26:41] Speaker D: Like I tell anybody, we think cheating is a rough. Is something you got to deal with. That's a choice. A financial, like, hardship. Yeah, hardship. Those kinds of stuff. Those are things that's gonna really see what you made of. Cause like I tell anybody, whether you're in a marriage or individual, whatever you wanna accomplish, you got to go through the opposite. Like I tell anybody. Like, for me, in my life, I always say that all the time when I'm coaching, being an assistant. All right? As an assistant coach, you're not gonna always agree with what the head coach does, but guess what? I've learned to be a servant leader. Yes, I can lead, but also I'm serving. I got to follow somebody. Yeah. Cause there may be times where you wanna say something, but like my dad always told me, sometimes you can have the right thing to say, it just ain't the right time to say it. [00:27:25] Speaker B: Correct. [00:27:26] Speaker C: I was just about to say that. [00:27:27] Speaker B: That's what we allowed. [00:27:27] Speaker C: And you ain't gonna probably come for his neck in front of the kids, but if you and him watch a film together, one on one. Hey coach, look what I saw. Woo. [00:27:34] Speaker B: Ooh. [00:27:35] Speaker D: Yeah. [00:27:35] Speaker C: And I'm saying go from there. [00:27:38] Speaker E: I mean I'd have. And I encourage this from, you know, my assistants. Like I ain't got you here to not say nothing. [00:27:47] Speaker A: You know what I'm saying? [00:27:48] Speaker C: Everybody ain't open as that. That's a great thing. [00:27:49] Speaker E: So like if we doing film or whatever, I done had knock em down, drag em out arguments with my assistants and then I go, okay, you're over the defense, so we do it. If it don't work, I'm on your ass now. [00:28:01] Speaker B: Right, Right. [00:28:02] Speaker E: If shit don't work, I'm on. Like I done had to go up and down the side like hey man, hey, that shit ain't working. Let's stop that shit. [00:28:07] Speaker C: Let's switch it up. [00:28:08] Speaker B: Yeah, switch it up. [00:28:08] Speaker E: But I'm never gonna be like. Because the kids, all of them need to have a voice. So it's the same thing. In a relationship or a marriage, each individual needs to have a voice. And it's just so the kids don't. And it could be one, whoever it is, they need to just make sure they have the respect for each other, for each person it is. And so whether you together or not, the kids should never see arguing, malcontent or whatever. Whether you together or not. Because then that gives them a different ounce of respect. That's the first thing. For whichever parent they like the most. That's the first thing. First thing. [00:28:43] Speaker C: Or they get their way with oh. [00:28:44] Speaker E: Or who they can get away with. And then the second thing is. [00:28:47] Speaker B: Oh, this close. [00:28:48] Speaker E: The second thing is they see, they learn from you how to do relationships and how to deal with. My son learns from me how to deal with women. My daughter learns from me how to treat. How she should be treated. [00:29:01] Speaker B: Yep. [00:29:02] Speaker E: You know what I'm saying? [00:29:03] Speaker A: Like my daughter like, bro, that's what I'm saying, that's a pill. [00:29:05] Speaker E: But they see whatever they see that's what's gonna come out. So I can't have. I can't be. I know my daughter's mom, my second oldest, her mom Bad, taught me all. My daughter, 18 now, Bad taught me all her life. But my daughter said, no matter. My daughter said, daddy, I ain't gonna hold you to that. It's what you do right now that's gonna affect what I think of you. [00:29:33] Speaker C: And that's a beautiful thing. I know them words meant a lot. [00:29:36] Speaker E: And it did too. [00:29:37] Speaker C: Cause you thinking, like, you might be looking at me the way your Obama painted the. [00:29:40] Speaker E: And it been crazy. So to me, it's like that being the case, I know she's got a different mindset of how she. Even though her mom moved a particular way because I always never said a negative word about her mom, she treats me a different way than she feel about her mom. What my mom say can't be true because you don't act that way. You know what I'm saying? You ain't never said nothing negative about mom. [00:30:03] Speaker B: Listen, man, that's what I always tell. [00:30:05] Speaker D: Oh, go ahead. [00:30:05] Speaker B: Nah, I'm about to say. No, I was just gonna say, I'll take a dip. I'll take a woman that's gonna respect me, then love me. The end of the day, bro. [00:30:12] Speaker A: And, bro. [00:30:15] Speaker B: If you really think about it, bro, us as men, bro, just think about just us as men. That's really how we base our love. The number one thing is respect. I want a woman to respect me more than she loved me. She could respect me. I can, like, I can trust her more. [00:30:29] Speaker A: You better. You better, goddamn. [00:30:31] Speaker B: Because it's easy love, bro. [00:30:33] Speaker A: Cause like, bro, if you can find somebody that you can kind of like, bro, you know how easy it is to be like, well, this, but I get a new. You know what I'm saying, bro. But when you find somebody, bro, that you like, I just like being around you. Ain't about no sex. Ain't about no respect sex. Really be extra. Like, bro, I really like your energy. We really cool. Like, we laughing, joking. I can talk to you. You know what I'm saying? Like, you talking to me for understanding versus, like, you just telling me, like. [00:31:01] Speaker D: You know, just replying, just to reply. [00:31:03] Speaker A: I'm telling you, bro, like, hey, coming from a. [00:31:06] Speaker C: That ran the streets for a while, right? [00:31:07] Speaker A: Yeah. [00:31:08] Speaker C: Sometimes the best sex come from a toxic. The best got regular, average sex, average, average. And that's not all the time, but it's a lot of the time, like. [00:31:23] Speaker B: And granted though, I feel like Honestly and this and I feel like the reason why that sex is probably average and regular cuz we spend too much time on that toxic. Because we can train that if we want to. [00:31:34] Speaker C: Hey, you've been speaking from your own perspective real strong tonight. You got something on your chest. [00:31:38] Speaker B: Nah man, I'm just down. [00:31:39] Speaker C: I'm just open minded. I'm like, nah, I ain't say nothing about being with the toxic. [00:31:46] Speaker B: No, no, I ain't saying like coochie. [00:31:49] Speaker C: And it could be the only coochie I'm on and it cannot be that good. That's all I'm saying. [00:31:53] Speaker A: Yeah, but see and that be the problem with like a lot of be thinking like you thinking like you done put this pussy on me and I'm just so in love with this pussy. Bitch, I really fuck with you for real. Like he got that. It ain't got nothing to do with this pussy. [00:32:09] Speaker B: You know what I'm saying? All wet pussy feel the same. [00:32:12] Speaker A: It feel the fucking same. [00:32:13] Speaker C: I don't know about that. [00:32:15] Speaker A: Oh boy. It's just the reaction to that dick. [00:32:17] Speaker B: I'm telling you bro. Because women are reactors bro. [00:32:20] Speaker A: It's just the reaction you can literally feel. You can literally feel in that woman loving you. [00:32:25] Speaker B: I'm telling you bro, you don't know that way you gonna know for a fact. [00:32:28] Speaker A: You can feel that way. Telling you cuz some bitches just sit there. [00:32:32] Speaker B: Women are reactors bro. [00:32:33] Speaker C: You can tell. Hey listen, guess what. What word in that reactor Actor too. [00:32:42] Speaker A: I'm saying though, guess what? [00:32:44] Speaker B: Her act well hurt. [00:32:45] Speaker C: Guess what? You probably everybody in here probably don't feel like what a you thought love you. [00:32:49] Speaker B: Yeah and I get so that don't. [00:32:50] Speaker C: Mean cuz that was good don't mean that what it was right. [00:32:54] Speaker B: And just use react. I'mma just put mine in there and say well her actions going to show me and right. [00:33:01] Speaker C: And that's that go back to the respect and that loyalty and all that. [00:33:05] Speaker B: The way she with me going to let me know in a sense. But I definitely understand that like her just be acting around. [00:33:11] Speaker A: You think everybody who didn't been together forever or however long they've been together. Everybody got good sex in their relationship. [00:33:18] Speaker C: No, I never said that. That's what I'm saying. Yeah, it could probably be a who kind of meeting her standards. But he check off all the other boxes and vice versa. And vice versa. Exactly bro. [00:33:30] Speaker B: I was sitting there thinking here the other day though. I was like, you know what bro? I feel like a lot of times like a lot of people be with people that ain't they type. [00:33:39] Speaker C: Yeah, bro. [00:33:39] Speaker A: But they'll be the best relationship in a sense. [00:33:42] Speaker C: When I say opposite sex, but in a sense. [00:33:44] Speaker B: But it's like, it's easy for you to kind of drift away. [00:33:47] Speaker A: Nah, bro. But when you trying to grow old with somebody. When you trying to grow old with somebody, bro. And only thing you got, you got to keep rekindling that spark that died on. That's human nature, bro. It gets boring. But when y'all could keep falling in love with each other, bro, that special. [00:34:02] Speaker D: Can I say this? [00:34:03] Speaker C: So. [00:34:03] Speaker A: So when somebody ain't your type, you constantly learning something about them. So might be you didn't fell in love with some bullshit. [00:34:10] Speaker B: Like I get. [00:34:13] Speaker E: Depends on what people value too. [00:34:15] Speaker B: Yeah. [00:34:16] Speaker E: Because some people fall in love with looks. [00:34:18] Speaker B: Mm. Yeah. [00:34:19] Speaker E: And some people cause. And you can't find the value in the person that you with. And so now when a year from now, she been fine. But she don't bring nothing to your life. Like, you don't enhance your life. [00:34:32] Speaker C: She can't do nothing. She can't clean up. She can't cook. All that know how to do is get dolled up or take pictures or. [00:34:38] Speaker E: Even support whatever your grind is. Like, you know, I done had my ex wife like, shit outside. The marriage was fucked up, but she was, in a sense of like, pushing me. I wouldn't be a certified teacher if it wasn't for her. My credit score wouldn't be where it is because of her. Like, there's so much other shit she launched with you. I would not be coaching right now. I would not be the coach I am today if it was not for her. Because we were too young to be married, but she still carried out her wifely duties. We just shouldn't have been married. And so right now, we cool as, like, we friends. [00:35:14] Speaker B: Yeah. [00:35:14] Speaker E: And it's. But it's only because of my respect for her and how she backed me and everything I did. You know what I'm saying? Because I know for a fact if it wasn't for her, I wouldn't be here. But the marriage just did not work like this. [00:35:27] Speaker C: Paige. [00:35:27] Speaker E: What you was about to say she wasn't gonna work. [00:35:29] Speaker D: Sometimes, like, I look at the problem is when y'all were just talking about women. And what's the problem? Part of it is they'll have a man who's doing 40 out of 50 things, right? And being a. I was a former teacher. [00:35:42] Speaker A: 48 out of 50. [00:35:43] Speaker D: Well, I'm just using it for example like, you can be doing 40 out of the 50, and being a teacher, that's 80. So that's passing. Doing pretty good. [00:35:51] Speaker C: Damn right. [00:35:52] Speaker D: But what she'll focus on is the 10 that you not and then go leave you to go be able to do who's doing the other 10, but not doing the other 40. [00:35:59] Speaker A: But that's us too, though. [00:36:00] Speaker D: But. And yes, as men, we'll do that because the reason why men will do that because I don't drink. [00:36:08] Speaker B: Yeah, you still 12 year old, Jalen. [00:36:10] Speaker A: Man, I ain't gonna make you drink. [00:36:12] Speaker C: If he ain't drinking Orangeburg, he definitely ain't about to drink in Florence. [00:36:17] Speaker D: Orangeburg was. [00:36:18] Speaker A: The whole city was toxic out. [00:36:19] Speaker D: That whole boy homecoming week. [00:36:22] Speaker B: Shoot. [00:36:22] Speaker D: Oh, my God. The dog on freezer got bottles on top of bottles. [00:36:28] Speaker C: I swear to God. [00:36:29] Speaker D: But Club Applebee's. [00:36:33] Speaker C: Listen, that was the first time I seen a dj. DJ in the club on a Thursday, shout out to DJ Fingers. I don't know what he doing now. [00:36:41] Speaker E: But if he see this boy I. [00:36:42] Speaker C: Remember used to be in the burger over there in that corner. [00:36:45] Speaker A: Nigga, word of bone. [00:36:46] Speaker E: When I went to Claflin, I used to work at Applebee's when I worked at cla. When I went to Claflin. [00:36:51] Speaker C: Okay, so you already know. [00:36:52] Speaker E: Oh, wait, no. [00:36:53] Speaker C: What year you was out there? [00:36:55] Speaker E: Shit, 2002. 2000 to 2004. [00:36:58] Speaker C: Yeah, I came in 2004. [00:37:00] Speaker D: Hell yeah. [00:37:01] Speaker A: 2000. [00:37:01] Speaker E: 2 to 2000. [00:37:03] Speaker A: My. My next question to y'all fellas is, could you. Could you take a woman back after she cheated? [00:37:09] Speaker C: No. [00:37:09] Speaker D: No. [00:37:10] Speaker B: All right, hold on. Wait, let me say this. No, no, no, no, no, no, no, no. [00:37:15] Speaker A: Listen, listen. [00:37:16] Speaker C: I'm about to give her open. [00:37:19] Speaker B: But let me give an open perspective. [00:37:21] Speaker A: Let me give you another side of the question, too. [00:37:23] Speaker B: Let me answer that one first. Let me answer the first. [00:37:25] Speaker A: But it's two different times of cheating. I'm just saying. [00:37:27] Speaker E: Let's do the first. [00:37:28] Speaker A: The mental and the physical. [00:37:29] Speaker B: I mean, cheating is cheating. Let's do the first. [00:37:32] Speaker A: You wrong. [00:37:32] Speaker D: You wrong. [00:37:33] Speaker E: You got financial cheating. [00:37:34] Speaker B: You got like. [00:37:35] Speaker C: Yeah, see, that's marriage shit. They're financial cheating. I ain't never. [00:37:39] Speaker B: I get it. [00:37:40] Speaker C: Me up just now, like, wait a minute, right? [00:37:42] Speaker B: So it's like, all right, just gonna. [00:37:43] Speaker C: Swipe your debit card and ain't told you. [00:37:44] Speaker B: All right, as far as, like, taking her back from, like, we know, like, her cheating. Let's. All right, so let's be like some real niggas in the room right now. No, let's Be some. No, let's be some real niggas in the room right now. [00:37:54] Speaker C: I want my bitch the pound time while she my bitch. [00:37:55] Speaker B: I get it and I get it. I understand that. Listen, and I understand that. But, like, on some open perspective shit, let's be some real niggas in the room. Are we already. Are we already cheating? [00:38:07] Speaker C: What do you mean? Are we already cheating? What does that mean? [00:38:10] Speaker E: Okay. [00:38:10] Speaker B: Did she cheat on you first? [00:38:11] Speaker A: What the that got to do with it? [00:38:12] Speaker B: I'm asking. [00:38:13] Speaker C: That wasn't the question. [00:38:15] Speaker E: That's a good question. [00:38:16] Speaker B: That's real. It's relevant. [00:38:18] Speaker C: If he said it was getting back. [00:38:20] Speaker B: I'm just trying to say I don't. [00:38:22] Speaker A: Give a if she cheated on me or not. Because at the end of the day, I mean, I don't give a if she's the first or not. Because, bro, being for real, when we cheat, bro, you gonna get up, wipe that dick off, piss and go home. [00:38:33] Speaker B: I know. I understand that. [00:38:34] Speaker A: She love that nigga, bro. [00:38:35] Speaker B: I know. I get it. [00:38:36] Speaker E: I think. I think the only variable. Only variable for me is did she directly come and tell me? It's the only variable. I think that's the only thing that's maybe, possibly. [00:38:45] Speaker B: If she got a conscience. If she got a conscience and tell me, then I gotta respect that. If she don't tell me and I. [00:38:51] Speaker E: Find out, or even if she was, y'all put myself in this predicament. And even if she was about to cheat and didn't, or did, like, did this happen last night? Did I find out about it? [00:39:01] Speaker B: Yeah. [00:39:01] Speaker E: Did you come to me? [00:39:04] Speaker B: Yeah. Like, for real? Night. Yeah. If she got the conscience to tell you when you. [00:39:07] Speaker E: When you in the middle of this and decided, damn, I love my dude, and you call me. I'm just saying things that we could possibly work through. I'm not saying I'ma stay. [00:39:15] Speaker B: Right. But I got a lot of questions. [00:39:17] Speaker E: And I respect that a lot more. [00:39:19] Speaker B: Yeah, I'm gonna respect that. [00:39:22] Speaker E: But that would make me want to work. That would make me. [00:39:24] Speaker B: That'll make me want to work it out. [00:39:25] Speaker C: What you said, I agree. If we married with kids. [00:39:28] Speaker E: Yeah. And if we met, that's the next thing. [00:39:30] Speaker B: Okay. [00:39:30] Speaker E: If we marry, if we in a. [00:39:32] Speaker C: Relationship, no kids and just boyfriend and girlfriend, I'm out. [00:39:35] Speaker E: Yeah, we got kids. I'm out. I'm out. Because I can't. Because I can't. Because I can't. [00:39:46] Speaker A: If we got kids in the house, boy, God damn, we about to find. [00:39:50] Speaker E: No. If we marry. Listen, it's Difficult as hell. And I'm just telling somebody who's divorced, it's hard as to get out of that. All the you got to go through to get out of it. Like, you gotta really want out. [00:40:04] Speaker B: Yeah, they say that never go back. [00:40:06] Speaker C: You got like a year of counseling and all kind of counseling. [00:40:10] Speaker B: And y'all can't. Everything like you saying relationship, like real. [00:40:15] Speaker A: Don'T be or nothing that it's going to take to get out of that. That's what it's going to take for me to get back in that. [00:40:21] Speaker E: No, I feel what you're saying, cuz. The trust has been broken and I get it. But like I said, if in the m. If it's in the marriage. Because all I'm looking at it from is a marriage mindset. Any other cheating outside of marriage, I'm done. [00:40:35] Speaker B: Yeah, I feel like, honestly. I feel like, honestly, if you ain't married, you single. [00:40:39] Speaker C: Hey, look, what you were saying, if you cheat first. [00:40:44] Speaker B: Yeah, just leave. [00:40:45] Speaker C: Because if you get back cheap. I feel like you're evil now because you did it because of. [00:40:50] Speaker A: Right. [00:40:50] Speaker C: No, no, no. [00:40:51] Speaker E: I can't be with you for real. [00:40:53] Speaker C: Very few think about hurting this while he cheating. Why would you do that to her? That was on Julio and Gas all night. He was not thinking about hurting you because he wasn't trying to seem like you're trying to bring it home and have a new family. [00:41:08] Speaker A: Right? My thing is, bro, like, okay, bet like on some shit. Like on some shit. Like, bro, so you real life, you realize cheated on me. [00:41:20] Speaker C: Real life cheated on me. [00:41:22] Speaker A: I ain't no insecure, so I. I love when my girl go out. Like, go out with your homegirls, go have a good time, go get drunk. [00:41:29] Speaker B: But it's like, respect me while you out. [00:41:31] Speaker A: But. But no, bro, but if you cheat. [00:41:33] Speaker B: Girls, you know what I'm saying? [00:41:34] Speaker A: I'm not gonna have that same piece when it's time for you to go out. So the relationship is never going to be back the same, right? [00:41:39] Speaker B: Because guess what? We allow. [00:41:40] Speaker A: You know what I'm saying? [00:41:41] Speaker B: Because guess what we allowed to do? We allowed to make our own decisions, but guess what we can't do. Make our own consequences. [00:41:48] Speaker A: Tell you that. [00:41:49] Speaker B: Can't do that, bro. [00:41:50] Speaker A: And I just posted consequences. I just posted this on Facebook the other day. Boy, I'm the type of nigga in my life right now. I don't feel like you run across a nigga like me two times. Two times, maybe three times. Fuck, no. I might be the second time you Ran across a good. [00:42:02] Speaker C: Depends on your age, definitely. [00:42:03] Speaker A: I'm 32. [00:42:04] Speaker C: I'm talking about her. Depends on her age, like, when she knows that. [00:42:07] Speaker A: But see, it don't be them running across them, bro. You don't know what to do with them. You don't know what to do with it. So it don't matter how many you run across. [00:42:14] Speaker C: It could be true. [00:42:15] Speaker D: And then, too, I always said that's the reason why men trust this kind of. I put this. I said this today. Trust is like broken glass. You can put it all back together, but it's still gonna have cracks. I don't believe you can. As a man. You should not do it. Because think about it like, you'll never read the same book twice and expect a different ending. [00:42:37] Speaker A: I'm telling you, bro. [00:42:38] Speaker D: So my thing is, if you do take her back, it's like, you're always gonna be in the back of your head. All right. When I'm not with her, what is she doing? I swear that I tell anybody. If. You always got the. If that's always in the back of your head. [00:42:50] Speaker C: Yeah, that ain't. [00:42:52] Speaker D: It's better for you to leave, heal, and then step into something new. [00:42:56] Speaker A: You a strong ass nigga if you can take that girl back. [00:42:58] Speaker E: But even here's the thing. The only reason. [00:43:00] Speaker B: The only reason I'm thinking, yeah, you're right. [00:43:02] Speaker E: The only reason I think about it in that sense of a take back. [00:43:05] Speaker C: Depending on how she's knocking her. [00:43:12] Speaker A: Like. [00:43:12] Speaker B: He love her, any woman. [00:43:15] Speaker E: Like, you're not gonna trust the next woman, period. [00:43:19] Speaker C: Like, you're back to New York. I mean, you're gonna have trust. [00:43:24] Speaker E: You're gonna have trust issues no matter what going forward. So I'd rather. It's like the devil you know or the devil you don't. So to me, it's like, yo, you married. Is this something that we really can work through? Like, did you come to me in the middle right after? Like, what was it? And then, shoot, can we talk about it? Do we need to go to counsel? Cause at the end of the day. [00:43:44] Speaker A: I'm gonna throw up. [00:43:45] Speaker E: At the end of the day. [00:43:48] Speaker B: Word is born. [00:43:50] Speaker E: I ain't saying I ain't gonna leave the house. Y. I ain't saying I ain't gonna snap. I'm just saying when. [00:43:55] Speaker A: When it. [00:43:56] Speaker E: It ain't that, Jay. I know you saying it, cuz. [00:43:58] Speaker A: This. I. Imagine me. [00:44:02] Speaker E: It's difficult to walk. [00:44:03] Speaker A: Imagine me when I'm married, bro, having, like, stairs in my crib and, like, with the pictures Coming up. But every step I'm coming out, knocking a hole in my. [00:44:11] Speaker E: But that's the thing. Like, you're. But you're entitled to that. You're entitled to have. However you deal with your anger outside of putting your hands on her. You entitled. [00:44:19] Speaker A: I'm never gonna put my hands on. [00:44:20] Speaker E: I'm just saying. I'm just saying you're entitled to that. But what I'm saying is when you marry, when you leave, it make you think like, okay, hold on now. Like, we got all this together, this life. [00:44:32] Speaker B: You start thinking about the business, you. [00:44:33] Speaker E: Start thinking about the. [00:44:34] Speaker B: I got like half. [00:44:36] Speaker E: Like, half. [00:44:37] Speaker B: Half is crazy. [00:44:38] Speaker E: I might have to pay alimony. Sometimes it's cheaper to keep them. [00:44:42] Speaker B: That's what. [00:44:42] Speaker A: Listen, coming into this prenup up. [00:44:47] Speaker E: The prenup don't. Sometimes the prenup don't matter. [00:44:50] Speaker D: A prenup don't matter. I would tell if you cheat. [00:44:52] Speaker B: If you cheat, don't say the alimony. You got to pay the alimony. [00:44:55] Speaker A: We talking about her cheating on me. [00:44:57] Speaker D: But. [00:44:57] Speaker B: But that's what I'm saying. Like, but if you're the breadwinner, you. [00:45:00] Speaker C: Probably still responsible for. [00:45:01] Speaker A: I'm pretty sure I've been. [00:45:02] Speaker C: Financially. [00:45:03] Speaker A: I'm pretty sure I've been cheated on, bro. But I've never, like. [00:45:05] Speaker C: Like in the past 10 years. [00:45:08] Speaker B: Come on. [00:45:08] Speaker A: Past 10 years. Yes, I will. Sure. Cause I ain't gonna lie. I done went through. [00:45:13] Speaker C: I ain't been in enough relationships. [00:45:14] Speaker A: I went through a shot at the phone bro. And just see you texting the bro. I know you're willing to. [00:45:20] Speaker E: Wow. [00:45:20] Speaker D: Oh, that's also my thing too. [00:45:22] Speaker C: It depends on what you saw. Because I know some that really got homegirls, they never. Oh, they got homeboys. They never before. [00:45:28] Speaker A: Because they never had the chance to. [00:45:30] Speaker B: Because guess what, I'll tell you. [00:45:33] Speaker C: Like, as a nigga, you probably ain't fuck your homegirl. [00:45:37] Speaker A: Cause she didn't want to fuck. [00:45:38] Speaker B: Right? [00:45:39] Speaker C: Most of the time. [00:45:39] Speaker B: And I get it. And listen, I can understand that. But listen, let me take that. [00:45:43] Speaker A: Don't erase the fact that that want to. [00:45:46] Speaker B: No, I ain't even going to say that. [00:45:48] Speaker C: Women got way more control than we. [00:45:49] Speaker B: I ain't going to put it on the. Because guess what? That knew she wanted to him when she first ever met him. So I'm just put that out the way. So look, listen. So with her down, putting him at the friend zone, like, how you saying. I understand how you feel. Listen, he. He keeping her on ice, cuz. He know that she Want to him. [00:46:06] Speaker A: No, no, no, bro be staying for a long time. Just cuz he's like, it's some who just. [00:46:14] Speaker B: He gonna sit there and wait, bro. [00:46:15] Speaker A: Okay, but that ain't on no PC. [00:46:18] Speaker C: That's gonna say. [00:46:19] Speaker B: But it's gonna be. That's like that. [00:46:20] Speaker A: That's why friends sweet ass. [00:46:22] Speaker B: But that's gonna be. [00:46:23] Speaker A: That's why I'm just sit here and wait and wait and wait. I don't give a if it take me 20 years and you fat as no, that's crazy. [00:46:33] Speaker D: Y'all were talking about that with the divorce thing. You know, I'm a big history guy. I tell anybody instead of getting a prenup with all your assets, if you have that kind of money or whatever put in a trust fund. The reason I say that is because give y'all a quick, quick story. The Rockefellers, they had somebody in their family, was with a woman, drunk driving and killed her. So what they did was he instead of calling the police, he called his family, took him away, got him sobered up. They end up trying to. The girl's family was like, oh man, we really about to get some money. Because knowing who he is, kind of all his wealth. All right, I'm gonna get me a huge payoff. What they did was take all his assets, like that same day that he was sleeping, trying to get sober, put it in a trust fund. So they end up winning the case, but never got any money out of it because why all the money was in the trust fund. And they keep everything in family, so you ain't getting nothing. So actuality you feel like one of. [00:47:27] Speaker C: Them, One of them foreign niggas had everything in his mama name. The wife couldn't get nothing. [00:47:32] Speaker D: It was a soccer player. [00:47:33] Speaker C: Yeah, everything in his mama name. She couldn't get nothing, bro. [00:47:37] Speaker D: Anything had to go through his mama. [00:47:38] Speaker B: Oh, this. [00:47:39] Speaker A: Whoa. [00:47:40] Speaker C: This is walking in 225. That foot came off. [00:47:44] Speaker B: Yeah, that foot came up. [00:47:45] Speaker E: For real. [00:47:45] Speaker B: For real. [00:47:46] Speaker E: I keep one down. [00:47:47] Speaker B: Yeah. [00:47:48] Speaker A: So you can't drop the ball after you be then jump type. [00:47:51] Speaker B: I mean, you can, but he didn't drop. Maybe he. [00:47:53] Speaker E: He didn't drop it off of June 15th. [00:47:55] Speaker A: All right. So so bad. [00:47:57] Speaker B: All right. [00:47:57] Speaker A: Also like Florida. [00:47:59] Speaker B: Nah, hell no. Do on it. I hate that school out of them. [00:48:03] Speaker D: I'll say. Not only because they got the school. [00:48:06] Speaker C: Out of beat the out of school. [00:48:08] Speaker D: Y'all ain't Pete Isaiah Evansville, right? [00:48:14] Speaker B: Yeah. Nice and see. [00:48:15] Speaker A: That's nice. I like Isaiah Evans, bro. Because he ain't like 68 too. He ain't took that prep school route, bro, that stayed in. In the hometown and. [00:48:23] Speaker B: And like six, eight or something. [00:48:25] Speaker A: And bald ain't like six, eight, something like that. [00:48:28] Speaker B: Yeah. [00:48:29] Speaker D: And when I say he can come. [00:48:30] Speaker B: Off, he's coming off the bench, about. [00:48:33] Speaker A: To go in the first round. [00:48:34] Speaker B: Yeah, yeah, bro, like that's crazy. Damn. [00:48:38] Speaker C: Ain't no jump ball yet. [00:48:39] Speaker D: And then two. [00:48:40] Speaker C: He want them niggas to fight like. [00:48:41] Speaker D: With this kind of sports, with these playoffs, man. People like calling calls, all of this. I'm like, man, they gonna let them play. I'm one of them coaches who. If you gonna call the game, call it one way, the entire way. Like if we gonna be. [00:48:52] Speaker C: Let dogs be dogs. [00:48:53] Speaker D: Yeah, let's be ticky taggy the whole. [00:48:55] Speaker C: Way on both sides. [00:48:56] Speaker D: That'll also change as a coach. Also changes how aggressive. [00:49:00] Speaker A: Yeah, yeah, for sure. [00:49:01] Speaker D: That's for me. I was able to do play calling for a little while at Wilson on the JV and have some success with it. Now I'm trying to get into like learning. Why are you calling that kind of stuff? So always putting my kids in this position over. [00:49:14] Speaker B: My bad, bro. [00:49:16] Speaker C: You Auburn, you had wanted him to win. [00:49:17] Speaker B: I did want Auburn to win, bro. [00:49:19] Speaker C: Why? [00:49:19] Speaker B: Cuz you don't like Florida or what? No, I had like the. How Auburn was the whole season college basketball. I just had like how urban hood looked. [00:49:29] Speaker A: Florida people are gonna win it all. I said college basketball is building when Florida is winning. [00:49:35] Speaker B: Really? [00:49:36] Speaker A: Yes. [00:49:37] Speaker B: Why is that? [00:49:38] Speaker C: When. What kind of winning reputation do Florida have? [00:49:41] Speaker A: Joe, Kim, Noah, how many years ago. [00:49:45] Speaker B: That was that look, two years straight. [00:49:47] Speaker A: But that's what I'm saying though, brother. [00:49:49] Speaker C: So college basketball was trash when they. [00:49:50] Speaker B: Wouldn'T he hit that though. That's. [00:49:53] Speaker A: No, I'm saying it's better though. We got four number one season in the tournament. The second time that happened ever in the final four. [00:50:01] Speaker B: Then you know what that is, right though? [00:50:04] Speaker A: Oh, number ones in that. [00:50:06] Speaker D: I also say too, and it may be controversial, I will say this is probably the best era of sports we've. [00:50:12] Speaker B: Ever seen as far as era all. [00:50:15] Speaker A: The way around athletes. [00:50:17] Speaker D: Because the reason I say that is because if you look at the college scope, like whether you look at football or basketball, anybody can be beat like at any given Saturday whenever anybody can beat. [00:50:31] Speaker B: I do like the College Football playoff shit. The talent pool, they need to tweak it a little bit better though. What next year? [00:50:37] Speaker D: College football? [00:50:37] Speaker B: Yeah. Cause I don't like how they did the matchups, bro. Like. Like when they had put like who it was smu. [00:50:42] Speaker D: What's it they had SMU versus Texas. Yeah. [00:50:44] Speaker B: Come on, man. [00:50:45] Speaker A: But the thing is Texas was sorry too. [00:50:48] Speaker B: But I would rather see that SMU team play against who Notre Dame played. Texas. Can't be that first game. [00:50:54] Speaker E: No, his name got smoked. [00:50:55] Speaker D: I think. I think Texas the first game. [00:50:58] Speaker E: They got smoked. [00:50:59] Speaker B: Yeah, they got smoked. The championship. I'm trying to figure out who they play in that first round though. [00:51:02] Speaker E: I can't remember they played. They played Penn State. I think Penn State. Did they play Penn State? [00:51:06] Speaker A: They played on the weak side. [00:51:07] Speaker B: I know because it was somebody else. It was another big ass school that played somebody. Sorry. I just feel like match them up with smu. [00:51:14] Speaker D: Smu. [00:51:14] Speaker B: You know what I'm saying? [00:51:15] Speaker D: Penn State, Boise State. I think that may be talking about Boise State. [00:51:19] Speaker B: Boise State. Yeah. I would rather watch. I ain't gonna say watch, but it's like I'd rather Boise State. You know what I'm saying? [00:51:29] Speaker D: Yeah, but you also got to look at the criteria they went by to get in. Bro. You went 12 and 0. Don't get. [00:51:36] Speaker B: This is talk about Conference J. [00:51:38] Speaker D: But listen, this is the thing I tell anybody. That's your rebuttal. [00:51:42] Speaker A: Yeah. [00:51:42] Speaker D: Your schedule. [00:51:42] Speaker B: But let's go. [00:51:43] Speaker D: My thing is if I know I'm supposed to kick everybody's tail and I do it convincingly, then. This was my thing with the Heisman. I have literally the best. They're not only the best player in might have the second best or if the best college player, he's the best. Like he's my only offense. So you know when you're going into the game who's getting the ball and he's doing this. You can talk about the competition. [00:52:06] Speaker B: Talking about Gentry. [00:52:07] Speaker D: No, Genty. [00:52:08] Speaker B: Yeah, Gentry. [00:52:09] Speaker D: I said I played college ball. [00:52:10] Speaker B: I get it. [00:52:10] Speaker D: I played it at a high level. Dog. It's still like dogs everywhere. And you still putting up the yards that you had, that kind of stuff. And to lead your team to a playoff appearance where ain't nobody thought nothing about you. So I get what you're saying with the conference, right? [00:52:25] Speaker B: Cause listen, they got proved. They proved that point that first damn game. [00:52:30] Speaker D: Game. [00:52:30] Speaker C: Yeah. [00:52:31] Speaker B: Smack Boys. [00:52:34] Speaker D: SMU play. Penn State got blown out by 30. [00:52:36] Speaker B: Yeah. Got their ass. [00:52:37] Speaker D: I can understand that because it's. [00:52:38] Speaker B: You know what I'm saying? Even with Boise State. [00:52:40] Speaker D: But this is the thing. The reason they changed they went from four to eight is because the year TCU and Georgia played Georgia beat them like 65 to 7 in the championship. [00:52:50] Speaker C: So guess what knocked the socks off. [00:52:52] Speaker D: Think about how much money. And the game was competitive for like maybe a quarter. And then it was over with. So now they thinking it's money at the end of the day. Coming from like before money and then starting and was leaving when it first started happening. You see a lot of things now are money based. I'm just like, I feel like if you. And it scares me because, like, are you really playing for the love of the game? And number two, think about how much control. [00:53:20] Speaker A: You fall in love with the game, though, bro. Off the street for chasing your dream. [00:53:23] Speaker D: Right? But also say this though. Like, I guess you can say when I was starting off, all right, it wasn't no such thing as the Portal. Like, once you signed. [00:53:30] Speaker B: Yeah. [00:53:30] Speaker D: And if you wanted to transfer, you had to wait a year. [00:53:32] Speaker B: Right? [00:53:33] Speaker D: Now it's like, what I feel like kids are missing now is I ain't saying now, if you good and you just ain't getting your. No burn or no opportunity, you leave. But what you see now, kids now have been given the power to. Oh, it ain't going my way. It get hard. I can quit and I can go. [00:53:49] Speaker A: I get it. [00:53:49] Speaker B: And I understand. I understand that. I understand that. [00:53:52] Speaker A: That's the same point that goes to what you just said, though. You was just like, if. If whatever the case may be the reason why you leave, then leave. But, nigga, if you turn the ball over, my bad. They bought you here because they knew that you was able to make it, right. [00:54:09] Speaker D: Yeah, I see what you're saying. Yeah. [00:54:10] Speaker A: You ain't even willing to stick it out. So. Bro, that's a double edged sword too. [00:54:13] Speaker D: You said. Yeah, like everything, like have arguments with people. I said, you got to look at it both sides. Now, the one thing I will say, though, that I like about Nil though, is money. And this will really kind of help into my money. [00:54:27] Speaker B: For reality, you ran against guys, you. [00:54:30] Speaker D: Have no idea where they come from. And it's a child out there who. All they know is football. Ain't no. Ain't no such thing as going to class. Like, they go to class. I'm here for a class. But all I know is my mom in a bad living situation. And all I know to do it to get her out of this situation is football. So if somebody's gonna give me 30 or 40,000amonth to do this and I can do what I need to do and take care of my mama, all right, I'm that money, I'm gonna talk about it because I'm like, ain't nobody want to see their mama struggle their whole life. [00:55:00] Speaker B: I get it. [00:55:01] Speaker D: So I can understand why kids are looking at the money, that kind of stuff. But also, too, like, I tell anybody, the thing that's gonna hurt me, I feel like, is you can't really establish a culture. When I say that. When you have guys who've been in the. Been in the same program two, three, four years, all right, when they come in, you get a template. As a freshman, you follow it. This is how you become successful. This is wherever you want to be. [00:55:23] Speaker A: Think about it. Oh, shit. [00:55:26] Speaker D: When you think about it, I know, Coach, you listening is. People always said Alabama was so dominant for so long simply because you come in, you established. Saban came in, established a core, and then on top of that, then he. [00:55:40] Speaker B: Blocked that shit, though. For real. No, no, that's not a. That's not a foul. [00:55:42] Speaker D: Players. [00:55:43] Speaker B: That's not a foul. [00:55:43] Speaker D: Jeremy players got a template. [00:55:44] Speaker C: That left hand, so that's a foul. [00:55:47] Speaker B: I don't even get, like, he blocked it, though. [00:55:49] Speaker C: You're not at the park. [00:55:50] Speaker D: You get a template. All right? [00:55:51] Speaker B: He look like you blocked that the way it is. [00:55:52] Speaker C: But that left hand, the block clean on the right hand. But that left hand he had on his body on the jump. Yeah, that's the only thing I'm saying. If that hand was by his side or something, that shit look clean. [00:56:00] Speaker A: That bitch got one point to your point. [00:56:04] Speaker E: Like, you're right. Like, I think when. When a kid comes in, like, you gotta have a conversation with them instantly, like, yo, this is where we are. This is where you are. And then you gotta establish the culture in the moment. And I think that at a lot of places, sometimes the culture, first off, culture is the hardest. Is the most difficult thing to change. If you're losing, it's difficult to change losing culture. If you're undisciplined, it's difficult to change undisciplined culture. It's just difficult to do. I don't care how much you make them run crab worm, you know, I don't. If it's undisciplined, it's just what it is, right? [00:56:46] Speaker B: Cause you can say anything you want to say. You can try to. Whatever it is that you down coaching and saying to that kid, guess what that kid got to do. They got to want to. [00:56:52] Speaker E: He still got to want to do that. [00:56:53] Speaker B: They got to want to do that shit. [00:56:54] Speaker E: And I think that through that, when they come in, if they come into a culture, like, dormant, why Is dormant always so good? Well, it's not because of the resources they have. Because I would like to say that I think Wilson has the same amount of resources as any school in the state. [00:57:10] Speaker B: But it's the. [00:57:11] Speaker C: Wow. [00:57:11] Speaker E: It's the same coaches that have been in place. It's the same culture that's been in place. You are not bigger than the program. [00:57:18] Speaker D: Right. And you hear the same voice. [00:57:20] Speaker E: And you hear in the same voice consistently for more for four years, five years, six years is the consistency of this thing. You know what I'm saying? So, like, you got Keenan. Why is Keenan always so good? Zach NORRIS Been there 20 years, right? [00:57:34] Speaker B: That's what I'm saying. [00:57:38] Speaker E: If you coming in, you know you're gonna run the flex offense. [00:57:44] Speaker B: Right? And I don't give a. If you could drop 30 every night, you gonna run this coaches now. [00:57:49] Speaker E: First round draft pick, played at keenan, averaged about 10, 12 points a game. First round draft pick. [00:57:55] Speaker B: First round draft pick to okay. [00:57:57] Speaker E: To okc. [00:57:58] Speaker B: Yep. [00:57:58] Speaker E: You know what I'm saying? But he ran the flex offense, averaging. [00:58:03] Speaker B: 10 points a game. [00:58:04] Speaker E: Night out, night in, night out. You gonna run, you gonna cut, you gonna catch, we gonna be patient, we gonna win again. [00:58:10] Speaker B: That's fundamental, bro. [00:58:11] Speaker A: But at the same time, nowadays, you got to have a coach who's willing to want to be here 20 years. [00:58:16] Speaker D: And then two on top of that. I feel like I agree with what you said. I didn't mean to cut you off. [00:58:21] Speaker B: I think it's more two into though. [00:58:23] Speaker D: Is what I'm starting to realize in my last two or three years coaching is we fighting against stuff. And I want to say it's parents. That's a battle in itself to an extent. [00:58:36] Speaker E: Parents. And I would say there's two fights we have is parents in the community. [00:58:40] Speaker B: Community. Yeah. [00:58:41] Speaker D: And at Wilson, you understand the community is a big part of. [00:58:44] Speaker E: It's a big part of the school. But what I mean by what I mean by the community, I mean the street more than anything. [00:58:48] Speaker B: Yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah. [00:58:49] Speaker E: I don't mean like. Cause there's people that support that's not in the street. But I remember me as a kid coming up and when they were like, yo, you know, Yosh gonna go. He gonna go and hoop somewhere. Shoot. If they caught me at the park smoking, there was two dudes, Chad Money. Chad Money was gonna beat your ass. Was gonna beat that up. And caught you in the park doing dumb shit. Nah, nigga, you athlete. You not about to be down here with this dumb. We done graduated. We doing this like, we gonna beat your ass if we find you out here. We got. You had. You had homeboys who wasn't gonna let you do shit because you did this, that, and the third. For me, growing up, that's what it was for me. You know what I'm saying? Now it's niggas, they don't care. Fuck if you. Whoever you supposed to be, they. Oh, you wanna do this? Oh, shit. [00:59:35] Speaker D: Come on. [00:59:36] Speaker B: A lot of people. Cause it's weird as fuck. I said how the shit transferred. A lot of people wanna see somebody fuck up. And that's kind of crazy. That's scary as hell. [00:59:43] Speaker E: I told a kid. I told one kid a couple years ago, I said, you ain't your homeboy friend. He was like, what you mean, co? I said, that nigga got a capability of making millions of dollars. You sitting here smoking with this nigga. You not his friend. What you think gonna happen if he make it? What he gotta do to you? [01:00:05] Speaker D: All he gotta do is post some pictures. [01:00:06] Speaker E: He gotta cut you off. No, he gotta cut you off. [01:00:08] Speaker B: He gotta cut him off. Yeah. Cause when that money starts talking to bread, when you gotta start making executive. [01:00:13] Speaker E: Now we gotta start making not. The kid didn't end up making it, but at the time, it was a thought that he could be something. You know what I'm saying? But nobody did. The friend didn't do that, this and the third. He end up getting locked up where he could have been. This kid could have been in the NBA. He done got locked up. He done this, that, and the third, and now he at the crib. I think he worked for FedEx. [01:00:35] Speaker D: That goes back to being disciplined. [01:00:36] Speaker B: Now. [01:00:37] Speaker D: People don't realize sometimes discipline is you as a person knowing what's right and choosing to do what's right. [01:00:43] Speaker A: Nah, bro, that people around you, too. I was just about to say that shit kind of go down to parenting a lot, bro. A lot of parents are fucking friends, bro. They're not parents. So. [01:00:55] Speaker E: And then. And then they want to come. How many times I gotta have a conversation? No, your son. No, your son ain't that good. [01:01:05] Speaker A: I just posted that. I said, nigga, nobody is stopping your kid from becoming New York. Nobody is stopping your kid from becoming the next LeBron James. You're just not LeBron. [01:01:17] Speaker D: Parents are not what I call realistic. I can personally attest to this is. [01:01:24] Speaker A: I've been blessed to have definitely fucking. [01:01:26] Speaker D: Greg Oden, who was real honest from the jump. Like, I've even heard that from people who, growing up, like, man, your Dad. A real My dad. One thing I always tell anybody I. [01:01:35] Speaker B: Love about him is, hey, shout out to the gold man. [01:01:37] Speaker A: Coach Page forever. He. [01:01:39] Speaker D: What's the name, Man? People don't realize it. My dad has always been honest with me about everything, not just from a parent's perspective. Even as coach to player when I was going through high school and college, and even his pasture, being coach to coach, he's been honest. And I'm sorry. Go ahead. [01:01:57] Speaker B: No, no, you go ahead. [01:01:58] Speaker D: And when I say honest, Mike, it's too. This one recently stuck out, was we having a conversation or whatever. And he really told me. He said, man, if you was at another school, they'll fire you. And that was real because he said, yeah, I'm your dad, but I'm also your employer. So it was never to get that relationship mixed in. And even when I was playing at State, man, I went through. People don't realize, man, I didn't have. Yeah, I've had fun. But it was really. That was the. My mom told me I was on a mission when I left, and that mission was to become a different kind of person. And my dad told me. He said, I'm gonna tell you if you playing good, I'm gonna tell you if you playing bad. And it was a situation where we playing A and t, you know, 5 and 2. You win this game, you more than likely going to the MIAC championship. This is 2019. I'm going out there. This is my first year starting, having a great season. You know, I'm balling, You know, everything's going well. And first half, we. It's like 17, three, so we feeling good going in. My coach was like, all right, we're gonna get. My roommate at the time, he was like, we're gonna let him get some burns. So, you know, I'm kind of used to it. I'm like, all right, well, I know he'll get a couple drives when I'm back in. The rest ended up not even playing majority of the second half, ended up losing the game, whatever. And, like, this was the first time after a game, like, I wasn't upset that we lost, but I was upset what was going on that you couldn't. [01:03:19] Speaker B: Be a part of it. [01:03:20] Speaker D: Part of right. Go in. My dad was like, man, why you got taken out? He was. I was like, I don't know. Like, I didn't do anything. So come to find out. And this. How crazy. I kind of get my demeanor from my dad. The way where I lived at on campus, you could see who was coming in and out of the building. It's crazy. That whole day, I never saw him come to Orangeburg, in the building, none of that whatnot. And the one thing he was like, my dad, is, if you give me some ammo, I can back you up. Goes to my coach. [01:03:50] Speaker B: Like a lawyer. [01:03:51] Speaker D: Yeah. So goes to my coach, my position coach. I'm not gonna disclose any names. Like, coach, why'd you take my son out? He wasn't playing bad. He was doing his thing, have time, all of this stuff. Coach goes in reply says, oh, I just wanted to create a spark on the offense. My dad goes. And he kind of laughed. Is coach, you're not dealing with somebody who's a parent. I do this for a living. You don't take no offensive lineman out to spark offense. You do that with the skill players. If you don't know what skill players are, receivers, DBs, et cetera. Ever since then, I never got that rest of the season. I never got taken out the game. You turn around that off season, we have recruits come and they had a meeting. They were like, I wasn't in the meeting, but somebody was telling me this. He said, you know, who do we want to bring to the dinner to represent our office align group? I was the first person he named. Everybody in the meeting stopped and looked. Somebody was like, oh, the hell you giving that kid? That goes to show you. [01:04:48] Speaker B: He was like, he gave you hell for a reason. [01:04:49] Speaker D: For a reason. I tell anybody, man. Like, when I was in there, I used to like, coach, you're not dealing with somebody who don't know football. I've literally sat down with my dad and discussed what plays were. What do I have to do just to prepare. And I'm just like, coaching now. You're talking to a form of future culture. Like, I can talk to you football. [01:05:06] Speaker B: Exes and O's, all of that. [01:05:08] Speaker D: Realize when coaches realize you're a player's coach, they gonna give you a lot of cussing out, that kind of stuff. I've been cussed out in practice by my head coach. Everybody like, man, you good. I'm like, bro, y'all couldn't even go play at my high school back in the day, right? I'm talking about, I done seen Pop OG done cut somebody out the whole practice stop. Even the trainer. And guess what dudes go out there and do next play. The play work. That's just my story. [01:05:34] Speaker A: I didn't watch. I don't watch. I can kind of sum up me and listen, bro, like, coach Page, the type of person that came into my life, bro. [01:05:44] Speaker D: Bro, My. [01:05:44] Speaker A: My daddy could die. Like my biological daddy. I probably wouldn't cry, bro. Coach Page probably be a baby around this. But, like, no cap like, bro, Even down to, like, when I went to jail, bro, that. That man never gave up on me, bro. Coach Page at the time I hit write me letters like, all type of bro. Just like, it just be like that. Be like more than football for real. You feel what I'm saying? Like, he one of them coaches. Like, that could really look in your soul, tell you about yourself, but also tell you I love you, too. You know what I'm saying? [01:06:19] Speaker B: Like, he's like an exit A. He's an ex's X's and O's guy, motivator and, like, players coach as well. [01:06:27] Speaker A: And he funny as Coach Payton said. Some of the wildest ever. [01:06:32] Speaker D: He bro, y'all and people be like. [01:06:34] Speaker A: Coach Page says, I'm like, yeah, bro. [01:06:36] Speaker D: He is like this. [01:06:36] Speaker A: Nah. [01:06:38] Speaker B: One time I can definitely see we. [01:06:41] Speaker A: Had the Brandon King, but Brandon King with biggest since he was in sixth grade, you know. [01:06:47] Speaker C: Sixth grade. [01:06:48] Speaker A: No, I'm saying he been big as. [01:06:49] Speaker C: Fuck since he said damn. [01:06:51] Speaker A: So he was probably about to bench probably like 400 and some change, bro. Mind you, this probably like, it's going into his 11th grade year, too. So was a man, he getting ready under the. Under the bar, bro, Getting ready for the benches. Coach man say, boy, Brandon, you lift this, I'll be happier than the packet in the dick tree. He had a analogy for everything. Like, we didn't. We didn't lost one time, bro. We around and lost. We come to the hustle at the other end. Other goal post after we say, can what y'all got y'all heads down for? Y'all got y'all heads down like some in the bathroom. Pick your damn head up. [01:07:41] Speaker C: You're like, bro, where the hell you came up with that, bro? [01:07:44] Speaker D: He is like that, man. [01:07:48] Speaker B: It always made sense. Like, damn, bro. Why you said that, though? [01:07:51] Speaker D: It was crazy. Like, when y'all were talking about, like, Aaron, that kind of stuff that translates to me coaching, man. And this past year when I was at Wilson, I started working with the jv. And what really brought an attachment to, like, this team and wanting to be there is the simple fact, man. You see kids from, like I tell any of the kids, man, I don't. It's a lot of stuff. How y'all grow up, I don't know, but I've taken some of them home. You Know like I would go after practice if I had to. All right, man, come on. I'll go out there, I do the extra stuff, cleaning the locker room up, that kind of stuff. People don't realize, man, kids today, man, a lot of them just need some need somebody to show them that they care. Like I've even going out to like when I'm taking kids home, like I'll stay late, like making sure my dad's straight, that kind of stuff he can and get itself together. I've taken kids home, man, and I would take em to go get it. Like I get stopped by the store, I give my kids a $10 bill to get yourself something to drink. I ain't gonna drink in front of you. And you not drink or just kids be like, coach, man, I need a few dollars to get something to eat. Even if I ain't got it, I'm gonna make it happen. [01:08:58] Speaker B: You kinda know they did. [01:08:59] Speaker D: Kids realize that kids will go out there and really try to go ball fee. [01:09:05] Speaker A: You know what? Kind of put it in perspective for me, bro. I fuck around the first time I went to the alternative school to speak. So where was a little in that, bro? He walking in that bro. Shoes falling apart, bro. I'm talking about from the toe part too. So like he can't even really lift his right foot. I'm thinking like the leg up, but his shoe talking, you know what I'm saying? So I go to P at Cosmic Soul, you know what I'm saying? Me and this go half on the pair of horses. He really gave me a pair of horses for half off, bro. And it was a supreme portion, some white, some. Some low tops. So you know, it got that little red supreme box at the back of this. So take the little, the shoes, you know what I'm saying? Like he take the shoes. Very, very appreciative, you know what I'm saying? He didn't even know his shoe size, bro. Like that wasn't even his correct size shoe he was wearing. So, bro, probably like a couple days later, teacher called me, the principal that made this take the shoes off, bro. Talking about it violate dress code because of the red box at the back. That little ass red box. So you mean to tell me you could pay attention to that little ass red box, but you can't see this little shoes falling apart. That's why these kids don't give a. [01:10:17] Speaker C: What school he was at the alternative school. That's crazy. [01:10:20] Speaker A: That's why these kids don't give a bro. [01:10:21] Speaker C: You want about A little red box on some shoes. [01:10:23] Speaker A: But the shoes was literally his feet. [01:10:26] Speaker C: Ain'T hurting no more. And he probably coming to school a little with a different energy and attitude. [01:10:32] Speaker A: Cause he got some clean shoes. [01:10:33] Speaker C: But now you think he banging off a red. [01:10:35] Speaker B: Come on. [01:10:37] Speaker C: If you knew this situation, you should have knew them. [01:10:39] Speaker A: She supposed to gift. Anyway, I gave that principal so much hell. I was like, how the you pay attention? How the you pay that to the principal? [01:10:48] Speaker B: Yeah, you're a crazy ass dude. [01:10:51] Speaker D: And then you see, you see, you see him every day. That's the thing. [01:10:55] Speaker A: How the you paying attention to his, his, his that little ass red box. But you ain't paying attention to his shoes falling apart. And then that's one, two, bro. Oh man, I around the first time I go throw them a pizza party, somebody else came behind me, you know, so well, he came the same day with me and buy like a 50 piece of chicken tenders from Z or one of them little was in that trying to steal chicken tenders, bro. Like putting them in his pocket, bro, that down there made me cry. [01:11:24] Speaker D: Boy. [01:11:27] Speaker A: You don't never know what these kids going through out this was like. And I'll be feeling like people so selfish for keep bringing kids into the world that you can't take care of, bro. [01:11:37] Speaker B: Yeah, you're right. Yeah. As far as like when they get. [01:11:38] Speaker A: You know what I'm saying? Like, bro, come on, bro, you selfish as a boy. [01:11:42] Speaker D: Like, learn how to be grateful, man. Cause like, yeah, like I had a personal experience like I was teaching a couple years ago. And you know, this was before, you know, the money kick in, that kind of stuff. All right. And so, you know, I'm sitting there in the car, I was waiting, I think to get something from my dad. Sitting there just like, God, I need some more money. I need to make some money. You know, when God like get your attention, it's something like, you know, you can't do nothing about. Like I just felt something just said, look to your right, look to my right. Homeless woman digging in a trash can. I tried like outside of like a building stuff. I remember I turned back around, face forward and said, God, you right. I'll be grateful. [01:12:27] Speaker B: Yeah. [01:12:27] Speaker D: And it's little stuff like that. [01:12:28] Speaker C: I want it. [01:12:29] Speaker D: I want, not need. [01:12:30] Speaker C: And like you said, it depends on what you want to do. [01:12:33] Speaker B: You could use either word. [01:12:34] Speaker C: Interchangeable. [01:12:34] Speaker A: It ain't been times, bro, that like, nigga, I'm like, damn, I want more. Damn, I ain't doing enough. Or I didn't pray to get to where I'm at now. So, like, bro, you just got to be appreciative of, like, your journey and your. [01:12:49] Speaker B: That's why I tell you one thing about prayer, bro. It worked. It definitely worked. Cause guess what? It looks like, you know, when you had said. [01:12:55] Speaker C: They said prayer without work, though, it's dead. You can't pray and put that work in and not put that work in and go get what you're going. [01:13:01] Speaker B: You gonna sit there and pray for, like, what you think if you pray for them, you know, God damn make you a better person and shit like that? You think God gonna make you a better person? He's gonna throw that shit at you. He gonna throw things at you that's gonna make you a bad person. He just want to know how you're gonna react to it. [01:13:15] Speaker C: Listen, I saw somebody say that, bro. [01:13:16] Speaker B: He gonna test you, bro. [01:13:17] Speaker C: They gonna put you in a situation. [01:13:20] Speaker A: He ain't gonna give you what you pray for. He's gonna put you in positions to know if you're ready for what you. [01:13:26] Speaker B: Yeah. Whatever it is that you're asking for. I want to see if you really. Oh, go ahead. [01:13:29] Speaker A: But. Yeah, man. Hey, man, I appreciate y'all fellas today. You feel what I'm saying? We got. We're definitely gonna do this again, but this is another episode of Peas in the Pie, man. See y'all boys again next week. [01:13:40] Speaker B: It. [01:14:06] Speaker D: Sa.