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[00:00:00] Speaker A: Foreign. [00:00:09] Speaker B: What's happening? Good Tuesday, you back with another episode of Peas in the Pie with your boy Jay with the ink. I got two special guests here today. You know, I had to bring my boy J. Page back, man. My boy J. Page been consistent. He be doing good. I I with JP appreciate that. And we got Ms. Vibes Allure in here. [00:00:29] Speaker C: Hey, hey, hey. [00:00:30] Speaker B: AKA Shaquanta Harry, y'all. Oh, my bad. [00:00:36] Speaker C: You gotta talk to them like, oh, Parry show. [00:00:39] Speaker B: You can put on that headphone. You can hear yourself better. But. Yeah, man. Mr. Paris, what is one dating green flag and one red flag? You swear by. Oh, we starting off hot. [00:00:57] Speaker D: I like it. [00:00:57] Speaker B: Okay, then. Okay. All right. Who want to go first? Y'all want me to go first? [00:01:03] Speaker D: Yeah, that's fine. [00:01:05] Speaker B: The question is, what is one dating green flag and one red flag? [00:01:11] Speaker D: You swear by. [00:01:15] Speaker B: Angle? That's a lot of red flags that make me be like, well, this. I swear to God, bro. Cause, like, I don't think people understand, right? But, like, as a man, I kind of, like, fall in love with the pattern. You know what I'm saying? Like, your availability, your. You know what I'm saying? Like, whatever you was doing in the beginning to get me to where you got me to, you got to keep that up. Cause once that shit start. [00:01:43] Speaker D: Yeah, you like consistency. [00:01:46] Speaker B: Yeah, it got to be. Cause I got to be a consistent nigga to keep you. [00:01:49] Speaker C: Right? [00:01:49] Speaker B: You know what I'm saying? So. But red flags. Well, it's a lot of red flags. Green flag. I'm gonna just go to positive flags, man. [00:02:01] Speaker A: You gotta. [00:02:01] Speaker B: Yeah, I'm gonna just do the positive. Yeah, green flags. I like, I like affection, bro. I like. I like a woman that kind of let me be a man, right? You know what I'm saying? I like a woman that's, like, nurturing. You feel me? Like, you kind of like, trying to understand. Cause I don't. Some women that kind of lost that touch. You feel what I'm saying? Cause, like, I don't know, it just ain't like maybe you ain't seen nobody do it. But real women, though, they love, like, that nurturing shit, bro, just come rub the sides of my face and goddamn, you know what I'm saying? Just be simple. Let the nigga know. Like, damn, you look good, Bab. You smell good. You know what I'm saying? Like, you can't keep your hands out. Like, I like, like that. You feel me? Like, you letting me know that I'm appreciative. And you know what I'm saying, you really rocking with a. [00:02:55] Speaker D: Like, you still want that first. The beginning of, like, a relationship that we. [00:03:00] Speaker B: We. We grown our gang. So, like, bro, you got to keep falling in love with your people, right? Or, you know, that shit just gonna go by the wayside. I don't know about y'all. I'm kind of tired of that shit. [00:03:11] Speaker C: Me too. [00:03:12] Speaker B: Well, I know. I know for a fact I can walk around and get whoever I want, right? Especially you. Let me talk to you. You let me talk to you. Pick your brain for a little minute. Oh, you fuck. But that shit is tiring, right? You feel me? Like, I want that same energy. Like, but it's kind of scary feeling like you fucking with somebody more than they fucking with you. [00:03:33] Speaker C: Yeah, yeah, yeah. [00:03:36] Speaker B: You feel me? Like, like, that's a scary feeling, dog. [00:03:38] Speaker C: It is. [00:03:39] Speaker D: It is. I feel like you overextending yourself. [00:03:42] Speaker B: Yeah. And people don't understand that. You know what I'm saying? Like, you can't meet me in the middle. And once I get the feeling, like, well, damn, if I don't put in the most effort. And I notice and you ain't putting in the effort, oh, like, let's go ahead and kill it, because ain't no way in hell you think we're gonna work if I got to like you the most, Right? Just. That's honest. [00:04:01] Speaker D: I feel like two people don't realize you need to be with people or be with somebody who has the same, like, mutual interest. Like, we want the same thing. Cause I feel like that's important. What we missing out is people always chasing somebody. And I always tell somebody, if you like somebody on the same level, that person likes you, you're naturally gonna chase each other. It's mutual. It's never gonna be. We're never gonna look at a gift or anything like, oh, she got me this. Oh, nah, I'm gonna get a bigger gift, you know, looking out for each other. Doing things for each other, too. So. [00:04:34] Speaker B: Nah. Cause like, bro, in a. In a real relationship, bro, you kinda like you kind of catching joy off of making your partner feel special. [00:04:42] Speaker C: Yes. [00:04:43] Speaker B: You know what I'm saying? [00:04:44] Speaker D: Like, that's how I know I. [00:04:45] Speaker B: Once we lose that bro, and the small shit starting to become, like, chores, and it feel like just small shit. Just so hard to do, bro. Yeah, I'm kind of cool on that shit, but that shit be. We too grown for that, man. Like, if you ain't with this shit, don't be with this twin, right? I took a shot to that Paris. [00:05:09] Speaker D: What'S your green flag or. [00:05:13] Speaker C: My green flags have changed. I'm a. I'm a little bit different now. What kind of is that? Boy, what you asked for. [00:05:22] Speaker B: That bit kind of spicy, though. [00:05:25] Speaker C: My green flag would be, first of all, respect off the gate. And when I mean respect, I'm talking about down to I don't touch any doors. Okay. Type of. Type of gentleman. I like them a little bit different now. I got out of that thug era I was seeing. [00:05:47] Speaker B: You can't hear them. They said they can't hear them. [00:05:53] Speaker A: Everybody should be up. [00:05:56] Speaker B: Let me know if y'all can hear. [00:05:59] Speaker A: Unless they gotta speak up. I might have to turn their volume up. [00:06:02] Speaker B: Turn their volume up. Did you say you done grew out the thug twin? You sure? [00:06:08] Speaker C: Yeah, definitely. Up out of there. But don't push it. [00:06:11] Speaker B: Like, so what's the difference? [00:06:15] Speaker C: The treatment, I feel like so a. [00:06:18] Speaker B: Thug nigga don't be treating you different. [00:06:20] Speaker C: It's a difference between dating a man and dating a. I don't want no more niggas. [00:06:24] Speaker B: Okay. [00:06:25] Speaker C: I'm done with it. [00:06:26] Speaker B: Okay. [00:06:26] Speaker C: I want a man, cuz. I'm looking for longevity. I'm ready. I'm at the point now where I want to build stuff. I ain't want to have to keep starting over with people trying to build and get to where I'm trying to get to as a, you know, whole or leaving my legacy out here. There's just too much. I'm getting older now. Time is flying. [00:06:45] Speaker B: Yeah. [00:06:45] Speaker C: And I got a child, and I don't want my child. Nah. [00:06:48] Speaker B: Yeah. That real, though. That real. What about you, jpeg? [00:06:54] Speaker D: Well, my green. One of my green flags is in a relationship is when you can celebrate each other's success. I feel like people don't understand in a relationship you have two lives outside of each other. And so I'm pursuing to be one day a big time college head coach. And a woman could be pursuing something else. So it's my job as a man or woman is to support my person. Because like I tell anybody, there's a difference when you have support from your family, but also when you have support from your spouse. Your spouse is when your spouse sees the behind the scenes stuff for you. Late night staying up. And when you have, you know, you're on that stage where you won something, you see a person just as happy as you are. That's a green flag for me because I know in coaching and the things I'm doing in life. All right, you need that support because it can get a little Rocky. And sometimes your help mate is the only person right there beside you. So it's nice when that person's encouraging you, talking to you, you know, and just showing that affection and love. Like, even if I didn't know you, I would still cheer for you. [00:08:03] Speaker A: J. Tracy said accept her request. [00:08:07] Speaker B: Oh, Lord. We ain't accept the request yet, twin. Give me a couple seconds. [00:08:11] Speaker D: I would say the red flag for me would be, I would just say when a woman's not too much masculine energy, you know, like, I understand you've gone through things and, you know, experiences. Experiences have happened. But when you don't allow me to be a man, like, take care of stuff, like, I went out on a date a little while. Like, a few months ago, the girl wanted to pay for her own ticket to the movie. I'm like, I can afford to pay your ticket. That kind of stuff. So I felt like it's too masculine energies. You used to just doing stuff by yourself. And when there's a man who's willing and wants to do, you don't know how to accept that. So I would just say, just being a woman, like, let me. Allow me to do some stuff, you know, I know we're partners with help mates, but allow me to. [00:08:57] Speaker C: I had. I had a hard time with it. I had a hard time with it because I got. Hold on, hold on. [00:09:03] Speaker B: Okay, we're gonna come right back. Hell no. I need all that content. [00:09:11] Speaker D: I'm gonna do is number one. I'm gonna go get a life insurance policy on all of them. All right? Just in case something happens to me, I. All right, you got something. [00:09:20] Speaker A: All right. [00:09:21] Speaker D: My next thing would be is it's just one way to build a child's credit, is I will put, like, a small bill in their name that I pay every year. So for 18 years, guess what? Everybody's thinking, my child is paying it, but it's really me. So when they leave out my house or move out or do whatever, you have good credit. You've been. I'm building you. So when you leave, all right, you got stuff. You know, that's my form of building. Cause I'm always thinking selfless, all right, Being considerate of my wife, my children, you know, before I make any decision. And to me, that goes to a green flag of shared decision making. Don't. Don't make just a move on something. On personally, how you feel. You got to consult your. Your partner, because your partner may look at things differently than you do. [00:10:03] Speaker B: So, yeah, hell yeah. But, yeah, man, that b no, it is what it is, man. My advice is, like. Like, I don't get caught up in, like, no. No situation I feel like ain't for me. You feel me? Like. Cause, like, especially, bro, if I'm going outside my way to kind of like, I don't know. Know what I'm saying? Make effort. This, that, and the third, like, being considerate, whatever the case may be, bro, And I don't get that back, I'm kind of like, you done with it for sure. [00:10:39] Speaker A: We ready for the next question. [00:10:41] Speaker D: Tracy, what's the next guest questions? [00:10:44] Speaker B: Come on, let me get that. [00:10:45] Speaker D: At this point, you might well make your way down to Florence. [00:10:49] Speaker B: Tracy, be on the. [00:10:51] Speaker C: Yeah, I need to say this. [00:10:54] Speaker B: Y'all hurry up, man. Don't just come over here looking on me, looking at me. I know I look how y'all girls do it. [00:11:00] Speaker D: Hey, hey, cool, cool. Look, he finally got a little beard to connect. [00:11:04] Speaker C: Now leave him alone. [00:11:07] Speaker B: Now I'm about to get on his ass. Listen, not that you just. That got hit on his face, but it everywhere else, too. Chest back. [00:11:15] Speaker D: Oh, yeah. [00:11:16] Speaker B: I got to play. Whack him. I had to send this home one time. He come get a chest tattoo with all that hair. I'm like, jp, what the. [00:11:22] Speaker C: You want me to got? I'mma shave this. [00:11:26] Speaker B: Hell no, boy. You put some clippers on that and come back. [00:11:31] Speaker D: Hey, L. My. Every time I put on the shirt. [00:11:35] Speaker B: Listen, this. [00:11:36] Speaker A: This Tracy says you need to let her join J. [00:11:39] Speaker B: Hold on, hold on, hold on, man. [00:11:40] Speaker A: Man, I think she just want to have her voice heard. [00:11:44] Speaker D: Yeah, don't we all? [00:11:45] Speaker A: She want to have a voice wrong with it. [00:11:50] Speaker B: I just sent you a request, man. Hurry up, hurry up. Tracy. [00:11:54] Speaker A: What was her girl name from last week? [00:11:56] Speaker D: I don't know, but she been arguing from. [00:11:59] Speaker B: She got the background set up and all. She was already ready. What's happening? What's your question? [00:12:11] Speaker E: So my next question is, what's the unspoken pressure that y'all think black men face in dating? [00:12:19] Speaker D: That's a good question. [00:12:21] Speaker B: Hey, listen, I got a list. I got a list. We got to make $10,000 a second. We got to have a dick 40ft long. [00:12:32] Speaker C: What kind of women. [00:12:34] Speaker B: You can't. Shit, girl, please. She can't. She can't. She. She. You got to come in and handle every responsibility she got. [00:12:46] Speaker C: Dang. [00:12:46] Speaker B: All this in exchange for some pussy, too. You feel what I'm saying? Like, it don't be a lot that you get back. You feel what I'm saying? But motherfuckers be Having a list of shit for you to do as a man now. You feel me? Like, and. And for real, though, like, I don't know about most niggas, but if I'm pursuing somebody, boy, it's a lot of effort in that. Like, I don't know, bro. You got to talk to me back, though. You got to pursue me too. You ain't pursuing me. Guess what? Okay, clock that. [00:13:20] Speaker D: Yeah, I guess you would say social media is social media because, man, social. [00:13:26] Speaker B: Media has fucking ruined dating, bro. [00:13:28] Speaker D: Because people don't realize social media was initially created for word break from reality, and now we're starting to make what we see on our phones reality. Like, I tell anybody, Like, a lot of the. Like everybody. Paris. And you probably can attest to it. You've heard a bunch of people say, oh, there's no good men out here, but there's an average. There's an average 9 to 5 guy right there walking past you every day, right? And you can't hear nobody just because it just sound. [00:13:56] Speaker B: No, hold on. [00:13:57] Speaker E: I'm about to put my headset, you. [00:13:58] Speaker D: Know, he's not where he's supposed to be. That might be what you need to do right now is it's like, oh, I can't deal with him. And my thing is, it's like we're rushed. We're dealing with not only social media, but also problems in our own society. Not just the black community, but the world. All right, how would you feel? I tell any woman, like, we all face men and women face different things, but I tell somebody, how would you feel? As you are a black man, you wake up, the world is against you every day, and then people in your own community are against you. [00:14:27] Speaker B: And I'm gonna go ahead and call out some bullshit, too. A lot of black people be feeling victimized, bro. The only thing you gotta do is get ass up and go get your ass up. Real talk. Like, bro, this ain't falling out the sky. Yeah. Out this trapping and got to steal lunch and dinner. You know what I'm saying? Like, even if that man do come drop 50, 000 bricks on your ass, you ain't gonna have that man money in time, you know what I'm saying? Like, bro, that don't be for everybody. Like, bro, this be a waste. A lot of bro is preventable, bro. Like, you have to get up and work. I don't give a. What you do. I don't give a. Like, bro, I. It be so many people, bro, I ain't gonna lie. Just call Me Hollywood, bro, the other day, bro, like, now you Hollywood. You Hollywood. You ain't talk. You don't even talk to me no more. The. I need to be talking to you for. For one. I ain't trying to come at you like that. [00:15:12] Speaker C: But me and you ain't happy. [00:15:14] Speaker D: Right? [00:15:15] Speaker B: You know what I'm saying? [00:15:16] Speaker C: Like, why I need to be the circle change. [00:15:18] Speaker B: I'm not understanding, like, the company you. [00:15:20] Speaker D: Keep on change if we not. If our paths don't align. [00:15:23] Speaker C: Why I need to talk. [00:15:24] Speaker B: Cause don't realize, like, what people been through to get the way they at. [00:15:29] Speaker D: Right? [00:15:29] Speaker C: Right. [00:15:29] Speaker D: That's why I never hate them. [00:15:30] Speaker C: And what I'm trying. What I got to do tonight, backtrack at all Real Talk. [00:15:34] Speaker B: And that come with a mindset. People you used to deal with. You know what I'm saying? It's a lot of. You got to cut off in order to get the way you got to go to. Like, I can't. I don't. I don't really give a bro. [00:15:44] Speaker D: Like, sometimes I believe people suffer from who eventually make it. Whether it's big time in life or whatever. You have survivor's remorse, you always want to bring people with you, and you can't do that. [00:15:54] Speaker B: I don't want to bring nobody with me. [00:15:57] Speaker D: Anytime you try to just like a snake. When you trying to. When a snake sheds its skin, it just grows to become a bigger snake. Just like in life, in order to get to a new level, you got to shed something. It may feel uncomfortable at the time, but guess what? What you gonna get, what you're gonna. Who you're gonna become on the inside is way better than what anything the world could ever tell you. Cause I feel like people don't. That goes into, like, success, man. People. The world just judges success by the things we have. Tangible stuff. Success is really, man, that fulfillment you. You feel when it's doing a tattoo or me coaching, pushing kids to do better, that's. That's the fulfillment. That's real success. [00:16:34] Speaker C: It is. I was getting my nails done today, and the Chinese. I don't know where they be. Chinese, Korean, whatever. [00:16:40] Speaker B: We ain't gonna do that. No. [00:16:42] Speaker A: You could put Asian. You could say Asian. [00:16:44] Speaker C: Maybe they Asian, but they were so cool. They so cool. I'm. But I was getting my nails done. He said he. Even though he feel like he don't have as much money as he used to, the best thing that he ever had was happiness. He said he lost his family chasing money. He lost a lot. Like, a lot of Stuff came behind, chasing money. [00:17:07] Speaker B: I feel that, though, you know what I'm saying? That shit kind of come from just being at the bottom and not knowing how to get the fuck up. So once you done find the step, especially as a man, why I done been on my dick for two, three years. That's a long time, you know what I'm saying? To be barely making it, then you finally find your step to where you feel like you getting ahead in life. Why you getting off this train? I don't give a fuck who go. [00:17:34] Speaker C: I don't want to feel that again to go back. [00:17:36] Speaker A: And that's. And that's. I think that's the part of it that people don't understand. [00:17:39] Speaker B: Word, bro. Like, where people be like. [00:17:42] Speaker C: Like, damn. [00:17:43] Speaker B: Finally, people be like, if everybody could do it, bro, everybody would be doing it. [00:17:47] Speaker A: I'm gonna tell you what's crazy. So, like, just talked about this on my podcast the other day. [00:17:52] Speaker B: Like, we got, like, another question, though. [00:17:55] Speaker A: Yeah, yeah, yeah. So it was like, I can't deal with certain people, and certain people can't deal with me because I'm busy. You know, If I ain't doing my main job, I'm doing this podcasting thing. And podcasting for me ain't just recording my podcast is recording the other 25 podcasts that we have in the company that I got to do, and then I got to edit, then I got to post, then I got. Then I got travel stuff I got to do. So my business. My other business also takes me traveling. So the person and the reason why I'm doing all of these things is there was a day in my life where I was homeless. I'm never going back to that listen. Ever. [00:18:33] Speaker B: Listen, doggy. [00:18:34] Speaker A: And so working for me, as soon as I feel like I become stagnant, I either have a nightmare about being homeless. I wake up, I, like, I'll be in sleep, and I'm dreaming. Like, I'm back on that Damn. Riding that damn 2 train in the middle of the night because I ain't got no place to go. [00:18:48] Speaker B: Hey, listen. [00:18:49] Speaker A: You know what I'm saying? And I'm never going back to that. And I have to make sure that I'm with a woman that can deal with that, because most women can't. They think it's. They think it's some. Oh, you don't have time for me? No, I don't got time. I don't. No, I don't. So now, however you fit into my life and the stuff I got going on, however you fit, and I'm okay. If I don't ever find that person, I'm good, bro. [00:19:12] Speaker B: And I understand that when I had first started. [00:19:16] Speaker A: There's time there. [00:19:17] Speaker B: Yeah. [00:19:18] Speaker A: But it might not. It might not align with your time. So we might have to plan ahead. We might have to plan out the time, but that's two people planning it out. I've had people want to, hey, I want to take a trip next week. No, you. I'm. I'm a single father who actually have my boys in my house. [00:19:32] Speaker B: I can't do that, do that. You can't do that. [00:19:35] Speaker A: I just can't do that. And I say it ain't got nothing to do with the money. I got my business. I got to be a parent. So I need to plan this out. [00:19:42] Speaker B: If you. [00:19:43] Speaker A: If we meet, if we gonna say every other weekend, we gonna do something, I'mma make that happen. I'mma make sure I don't do nothing every other weekend. [00:19:50] Speaker B: And women be wanting. [00:19:52] Speaker C: That's easy to do. [00:19:53] Speaker A: You say most women can't do. [00:19:55] Speaker B: And listen, that's what I'm saying. Women be wanting that productive ass, man. Well, it's a lot come with a being productive. You feel what I'm saying? [00:20:03] Speaker C: Like, you think you're gonna be getting. [00:20:04] Speaker B: Like, boy, hey, listen, when I first started doing tattoos, bro, I used to tell my mama, I want to do tattoos. No shade on my mama. I love my mama to death. I remember my mama picked me up from my shift at Hardee's, bro. And I'm telling her, like, hey, I'm about to start doing tattoos. My mom was like, well, you ain't got enough people wanting to get no tattoo from you where you can quit your job, bro. I'm making 325 every two weeks. You know what I'm saying? Like, and that kind of discouraged me a little bit. But that just go to show you, bro. Everybody don't. Everybody ain't gonna see your vision. Everybody ain't gonna. That walk that you got to walk, bro, to get the way you got to get to, bro. You got to see the end of that. Well, that ain't for everybody else. And like, I said, that should be turtle speed, bro. Like, this ain't just happen in the course of, like, some years. For one. For one, I got lucky, bro, because I'm doing something that I not only do, I love to do, but I'm getting paid to do it. So the grind part, I kind of skipped because, bro, this shit was peaceful. Me, I just like to draw you know what I'm saying? So the grind part of it, bro. I was skipping, bro, because I'm getting paid couple of dollars just to. You know what I'm saying? [00:21:07] Speaker D: Do some. [00:21:07] Speaker B: Do some artwork, bro, like what I love to do. And then I wake up, bro. Now it's a thousand people, you feel me? Like, so for your race is your race. And I think like the Internet make this shit so complicated, bro. Like, you could compare races, bro, and crashing up real talk, bro. You got to go through that journey. You got to walk that walk like it ain't gonna be. It ain't gonna be worth it if it just fall out the sky, bro. You gonna run through that and be right back to square zero. And if you ain't no hustler, you ain't got that in you, bro. You gonna be flat as two points A can give you a hundred thousand dollars right now. You will blow that in six months if you don't. [00:21:42] Speaker C: If you ain't already, you gonna be. [00:21:44] Speaker B: Out here buying everything you ever wanted. You gonna be out this bitch. Goddamn. [00:21:47] Speaker C: You ain't never had money before. If you ain't never. If you don't have any financial, like, no, that goes intelligence at all. But if you do, you're gonna do what it supposed to do with that. [00:21:58] Speaker B: That's struggle. [00:21:59] Speaker C: I'm waiting to get a hundred thousand. All right. [00:22:01] Speaker B: That struggle, that struggle definitely be a character. [00:22:03] Speaker C: I know what to do with it. [00:22:05] Speaker B: That's why I be telling, like, bro, I love. I. I love the struggle I went through. Not saying I want to go back, bro, but I will. You know what I'm saying? Like, knowing what I know now and knowing what I got to do, bro, I go right back through that. Like, bro, don't give a. [00:22:16] Speaker C: Like, it'll be different too, if you know what you know now. [00:22:18] Speaker B: I'm telling you. [00:22:19] Speaker D: So like God, one thing I learned about it, two things to what you said. The first one is real quick. God, God is never going to give you a dream or a vision that matches your bank account. God ain't gonna never give you a dream or a vision that does not that matches your bank account. I've sat here, I told my dad, I was like, dad, I'm gonna coach big time college football. My own mama didn't believe me till she came to a game and saw me win one. All right? Number two is reason. God don't give you what you want. Cause he knows exactly you gonna mess it up. Cause you're not ready. Why you think I tell anybody Sometimes God don't bless you. The devil will, because he know the devil will bless you because he'll give you exactly what you asked for. And guess what? Guess what the devil will do. He'll walk away because he knows I ain't even got to do nothing. You gonna mess it up yourself. So that's why I tell anybody, when you struggling, God is just trying to see, number one, what you made of, and number two, he's gonna put you in a place where you can't thank nobody but him. [00:23:17] Speaker B: That's how you. [00:23:18] Speaker D: It ain't based off your own ability, no other human's ability. We know it's a higher power that's giving you what you want, what you asked for. So that's why I tell anybody. Don't get upset because you're not where you want to be. Cause guess what? God is. All he's doing is trying to see what you made of. If you really gonna give me the glory for giving you this blessing, well. [00:23:36] Speaker C: No question is in test, too. [00:23:40] Speaker E: My next question is. It's probably a typical question. I got plenty, though. [00:23:45] Speaker A: We don't want no typical questions. [00:23:47] Speaker B: We don't want no typical. [00:23:48] Speaker E: My next question is, do y'all feel like two people can truly, like, do the friends with benefits relationship type of thing? [00:23:56] Speaker B: What you mean? [00:23:58] Speaker D: Please explain. [00:23:59] Speaker E: Like, okay. Like, can people really, like, hold that Persona without, you know, gaining feelings? [00:24:06] Speaker B: Yeah. [00:24:09] Speaker A: Yes. [00:24:09] Speaker C: But do you want to? I ain't want that no more. I ain't. [00:24:11] Speaker A: No, I mean, the question. See, now, this is. This is. This is not what you want. This is the question asked. The question asked. Can people do it? [00:24:20] Speaker B: No. No, they can't, bro. I do it. [00:24:21] Speaker C: I know I can do it. [00:24:23] Speaker B: You probably. [00:24:23] Speaker C: Without catching any feelings. [00:24:25] Speaker A: Nope. [00:24:25] Speaker B: None. [00:24:25] Speaker C: None. [00:24:26] Speaker A: Because. No, but I think what I think. No, because what it comes down to is whatever you come to me as, that's what we're gonna be. We're not gonna be no more. In my mind, we're not gonna be no more. No, we're not gonna Netflix and chill. It's no chill. [00:24:43] Speaker C: So it's just said, what is friends? That's the only way. Friends with benefits is friends. But the benefits, we could talk on the phone or anything. Y'all friends. So you're saying if you're friends with this person on a consistent basis, meaning y'all can't sit and watch a movie? Because I watch a movie with my friends. [00:24:58] Speaker A: But. [00:24:58] Speaker B: But you know, that's what Bill gonna never. [00:25:00] Speaker C: Yeah. [00:25:03] Speaker A: Spending the night ain't no spending you don't spend nights with your friends. [00:25:06] Speaker C: No, I do spend the night with my. With my friends that you. [00:25:09] Speaker A: That you. That you having sex with. No, no, exactly. [00:25:12] Speaker C: I mean, I don't have friends. I don't have. If I'm having sex with him, we more than we're. We're not friends with. [00:25:19] Speaker A: Exactly my point. [00:25:20] Speaker C: Something else. [00:25:20] Speaker A: So I think that whatever. Whatever you come to me, whatever you come to me as, especially you get. [00:25:25] Speaker B: In that thing and hit that love button, boy. What? [00:25:27] Speaker C: Man, that girl ain't want you to. [00:25:29] Speaker B: Be her own girl. Nothing. [00:25:31] Speaker A: No, I'm just. I'm just saying like it's. It's is possible to do. I. I just think the people that try to do it can't handle it. People that try to. And they don't know how to navigate. Stay tonight. [00:25:43] Speaker C: I can't handle that. [00:25:44] Speaker A: No, you got to have rules. We're not staying tonight. Nope. And you might have to have your own thing because you know what makes you fall for somebody, right? [00:25:50] Speaker C: Yeah. [00:25:51] Speaker A: So you might have to put stuff in place. Like I'm not calling you today after we have sex. I'm just not calling you. [00:25:55] Speaker B: I'm telling you some. [00:25:56] Speaker A: Some stuff will happen. [00:25:57] Speaker C: So what's the fun? So what's the point? [00:25:59] Speaker A: I'm just saying for you. I'm just saying for a person we. [00:26:02] Speaker B: Be telling y about, about me and. [00:26:03] Speaker C: The women, y'all really can't somebody. Cuz there's plenty of good dick out here. So why I'mma just if. If we just got to be friends and benefits. Why I just can't be in a relationship, wait and mess with the dude that I know I'm going to really deal with versus just having sex with. [00:26:18] Speaker A: That's what I'm saying for you. [00:26:20] Speaker D: You. [00:26:20] Speaker A: You're like, no, I can't do that. I think that there are people. I know I can. There are people out there. [00:26:26] Speaker B: A lot of women. [00:26:27] Speaker A: I think a lot of women can't. [00:26:28] Speaker B: Right? I think a lot of women can't. [00:26:34] Speaker A: Hey, listen, once them heels in the air, that changed a lot of stuff. Boy. That man, that's it. [00:26:46] Speaker B: Like smoke and being for real, for one. But I don't. And they ain't gonna take no coochie. So if I eat some coochie, I love you straight up on. Jesus Christ. I'm not putting my mouth on nobody random coochie as you should. Like if it. If it ain't just me in that, why you tripping? But I'm not eating that. As soon as I feel like something. I don't want to eat it. I'm cool. Yeah, I poke that. But sticking my tongue in that bit. Hell no. [00:27:16] Speaker D: But then too, though, I feel like friends with benefits is pointless because I feel like too, a lot of people are not attracted to a person. They're attracted to what us attached to that person. [00:27:26] Speaker B: That's a lie. [00:27:28] Speaker D: So how so? So, so, like, like, as a man. [00:27:34] Speaker B: Like, if you must be talking about the attachments is the titties in the ass. Cause that's all you want. [00:27:40] Speaker D: We ain't got to. I ain't got to like you to say. [00:27:41] Speaker A: I know, but the whole point is, like, why if. If women or whoever it is knows what they want, they know whether they want a relationship or not. Don't put yourself in a situation if you know, you know you don't want that. You don't want that. Like, you know that's what we want. [00:27:57] Speaker B: It going to be a up situation if you sitting there waiting on that woman to give you the green light. [00:28:01] Speaker D: True on. [00:28:02] Speaker B: Whatever. [00:28:02] Speaker D: Yeah. [00:28:03] Speaker B: If you ain't the leader in this situation, you. If you going to sit here and deal with this girl and let her tell you when she ready to be your. Or she ready to commit to you or she ready to do this. That the third way you hit? Yeah, you hit. [00:28:17] Speaker C: It go both ways. What you mean it go both ways? Cuz I done met some. I done met. [00:28:22] Speaker B: It don't matter about you meeting, though, because it's cool. I think. I think women kind of. Right. Women. Women kind of get it misconstrued, bro. Like, it's cool that y'all meet. It's cool that want to be all up on y'all or they think y'all so pretty, bro. But y'all can't really decipher between a good and a. That just want to you or a. That just wanna. [00:28:44] Speaker C: I definitely. [00:28:45] Speaker D: Moms. Oh, my God. [00:28:49] Speaker B: Listen, the right. Come the. The right person. [00:28:53] Speaker C: I can't now. Cause first of all, you ain't. We ain't getting no way quick. So over time, your character gonna show. [00:28:59] Speaker B: What you mean? We ain't getting away quick. Like, you ain't just coming off no coochie or something. [00:29:03] Speaker C: That and like, certain emotional levels. We ain't gonna get that quick. Hey, so I'm gonna learn you over time anyway, so I'm gonna be able to see that before it gets to a certain point. [00:29:13] Speaker B: That high school, though. What, like making wait. [00:29:17] Speaker C: I'm not making you wait. I'm waiting to win. The time is right. And the time is not going to be right if I don't know you like that. [00:29:23] Speaker B: Yeah, for sure, for sure. I don't even want no coochie like that anyway. I don't just want no coochie, you know what I'm saying? [00:29:29] Speaker C: No. [00:29:29] Speaker B: Well, you running from me, bro. Go ahead, boo. You know what I'm saying? Like, you gotta keep protecting your innocence. You like you protecting your innocence. Ain't nobody else touch you like I'm about to be touching the car with zero miles, like you just anointed before. God damn. Pussy up, number one line. [00:29:44] Speaker E: I ain't had sex in six months. [00:29:46] Speaker B: Oh, and listen, but listen, you make me wait on some that ain't worth waiting on, you got a whole nother problem. [00:29:52] Speaker C: See, that why I think y'all be scared of people. I. I don't be scared. That is scary, though. [00:29:58] Speaker B: I ain't heard a girl yet, her sex ain't what it is. That regular as. [00:30:04] Speaker D: Hey, like you said on Facebook, one day what's. What you what your coochie do that the next girl don't do nothing that. [00:30:12] Speaker B: Either spray pee or white. [00:30:14] Speaker C: It depends on the person. Sex feel different. If you how. It depends on how you feel about that person feel different. I done had sex with a man, and while we was together, it was like the best thing ever. But after we broke up and I spun that block, it was like, I know damn well I know you done felt like that before. Yeah, exactly. So coochie can feel different. It depends on how you feel. [00:30:36] Speaker B: No, coochie only feel different than me when the feelings. [00:30:40] Speaker C: The feelings make the sex feel different. [00:30:43] Speaker A: They don't make the sex don't treat. [00:30:44] Speaker B: That like no prayer. [00:30:45] Speaker A: It make the. It make the person. [00:30:47] Speaker B: Yeah. Cause y'all like to do that person. [00:30:48] Speaker A: It makes the person. Y'all love what they do. [00:30:50] Speaker B: Oh, babe, you shouldn't have the feelings make the person. [00:30:55] Speaker E: Christmas, birthdays, holidays. [00:30:58] Speaker A: Yeah. [00:30:59] Speaker B: Gucci again, babe. Oh, you sitting here. My God. Damn. [00:31:05] Speaker A: Yeah, don't, don't, don't. [00:31:07] Speaker B: You just gonna keep slamming this on me like a bad guy and I'm be cool. [00:31:11] Speaker C: Instead of bad guy, you say. Don't use it as a phrase. Yeah, it's the gift for everything. [00:31:16] Speaker B: But listen, though, a lot of women don't realize, like, bro, that's especially when we get older. Like a who. Who's already. Because a lot of times, bro, y'all don't be knowing, like, bro, these really just started feeling attractive. These really just started getting women at 30, so. Or 25 plus, you know what I'm saying. So a who already used the women, bro, not out here chasing no ass all day long. I know I ain't, I ain't got time for that. And I don't got time to be dealing with all them personalities. [00:31:47] Speaker A: Hey, what's up? Nothing. [00:31:48] Speaker B: Okay, for one, one girl got four personalities, so you dealing with four, and that's four times four is what's true. 16. [00:31:57] Speaker C: That's true. No, man, I don't see how y'all do it too. [00:32:02] Speaker D: That's a weak minded dude. For real. [00:32:04] Speaker B: Listen, bro. Cause I'm grown now, so I'm on. I'm on like one fine shit at a time right now. So if me and fine shit don't work out, move on to the cool, you feel me? Like, but as far as like having a hundred different women in my phone, bro, that don't, that don't validate me no more. That used to. That, that little boy, you know what I'm saying? Like, and that, that even goes down to like, it's a lot of little boy shit. That going. [00:32:28] Speaker A: Well, let me, let me, let me. I don't know, I think it is, but it is till you under. Till you know, because I'm about to. [00:32:35] Speaker B: Get you off here. You ain't saying that. [00:32:36] Speaker A: She ain't saying that. [00:32:37] Speaker D: I love you. [00:32:37] Speaker A: She just on it. [00:32:38] Speaker B: I mean, y'all talking. [00:32:39] Speaker E: I'm listening. [00:32:40] Speaker A: She just. [00:32:40] Speaker B: I, I with you though. [00:32:42] Speaker A: But it's like, I. Oh, she's gonna talk now. Okay, go ahead. N. Go ahead. It's on you. You the guest. [00:32:50] Speaker B: You time to shine. Shine on like show time at the Apollo. [00:32:54] Speaker E: Listen, okay, so my next question is. [00:32:58] Speaker B: Oh, man, I thought she jump. [00:33:00] Speaker E: Validation, you said what is cheating about? Sex or validation? Why do people choose? [00:33:07] Speaker A: It depends on the situation. [00:33:09] Speaker B: First of all, like I say, y'all treat coochie like a prison. You know what I'm saying? So if all I'm getting is coochie and tonight you tired, who you think you playing with that tired? I'm cheating. I don't give a. That tired. That tired is out the window, I. [00:33:26] Speaker A: Think, I think cheating, like the nigga trying to humble. Cheating is about. [00:33:30] Speaker B: That's a. [00:33:30] Speaker A: Cheating is about the gap. [00:33:31] Speaker C: Why you gotta cheat? [00:33:32] Speaker A: Cheating is about the gap. [00:33:33] Speaker B: Okay, I ain't gonna say necessarily cheating, but like, bro, because this other. As a man, as a man, as a man, as a, as a real man, but this is what I'm getting into. [00:33:46] Speaker A: Going ghost. [00:33:47] Speaker C: Like, going ghost. [00:33:48] Speaker B: That's still cheating. [00:33:49] Speaker C: That's not cheating. [00:33:50] Speaker B: So you just going ghost and not. [00:33:51] Speaker C: Talking to nobody's, like, saying, but, you know, proper communication to let them know. I feel like we need a little space because this ain't. This ain't going right. And when she feel how it feels to not to have your presence there, that hurt me worse than a man going out and cheating. [00:34:04] Speaker D: Let me tell you something. Listen, bro, but all that space, she gonna end up with another nigga. [00:34:09] Speaker C: No, I ain't saying, like, space. But that is true. That is true. Now, I ain't talking about space. Like, I'm saying over time. [00:34:18] Speaker B: Of course, as a real man, though, if that man, if that man real life handling what he supposed to handle, everybody's situation different. So regardless, if the nigga going 50, 50, the going 75, 25, 100, 0. If that handling his business and what's best for y'all, bro. And you're not making that man feel desired, right? You're not making him feel like, oh, my eyes only. Like, I can't. I can't. You my man, period, bro. Like, nah, not every want that, but then be the that. Like, I say, they be on little boy timing, right? As a grown man, you want your woman to kind of like, validate you and let you know, like, bro, you're doing a great job. I love what you do for us, right? I love how you do this. I love how you do that, bro. That not hard. [00:35:04] Speaker C: No, it's. [00:35:05] Speaker B: You feel what I'm saying? [00:35:06] Speaker D: So a little like, that'll make that man go 10 times harder for me. [00:35:09] Speaker B: I swear to God. You go rub that, man. You go. You go. If that. That might be. Had the worst day of his life. He's not gonna tell you. He's not gonna tell you that the day was. So it's not our job to tell y'all. [00:35:21] Speaker A: Hold on, Jay. I'll tell you. I'll tell you another one. [00:35:23] Speaker E: I always act how the day it was. [00:35:25] Speaker A: If. If I'd have been battling. If I'd have been fighting the world all day. [00:35:30] Speaker D: I just told you. [00:35:31] Speaker A: I said, if I've been battling the world all day, and I can't even get a. How was your day? Yeah, I can't even get that walking in the door, bro. [00:35:41] Speaker B: Man, that basic, bro. A don't want no how was. [00:35:48] Speaker A: I'm saying as when you touch me, I need to feel that the majority of no. When I walk in the door. How was your day? Is a hug, kiss, whatever it is some form of affection. The holiday is just a. Is just A like, I want to hear that. I don't want to. I do not want to hear. I do not want to hear the trash wasn't taken out. I don't want to hear this. I don't want to hear that. I don't want to hear the nagging. I don't want to hear how bad your day was. You ain't even asked about my damn day. You already 10. 10 minutes into your soliloquy. I don't even know. I. I forgot about my real talk. [00:36:17] Speaker B: And that was bro just said is not validation. It's not bro. You feel me? Like, I'd rather you come in. I'd rather me come in the house, bro. I like I say I'm the type of bro I didn't learn how to like, not necessarily bother in but just deal with on my own bro versus like. You know what I'm saying? Like, so I'm not gonna tell you, bro. I just had the worst day of my life. [00:36:38] Speaker C: Right? [00:36:39] Speaker B: I'm going through this. I got this on my mind. This on my mind. This on my mind. Not saying you supposed to be a mind reader at all. Please. But that's just the affection part of a woman. Like you might just notice my pattern off. Damn. This ain't saying that. [00:36:50] Speaker C: 30 minutes exactly. [00:36:51] Speaker B: This ain't said you could tell a gonna appreciate you coming up and just giving him a simple ass hug rub on the shoulders. You sit on his lap. And bro, he didn't forgot about the whole day. Especially when you really provide him peace. But bro, that'd be the point that. [00:37:07] Speaker A: People but you know. But you know who providing him peace. That other woman provided peace. [00:37:16] Speaker D: I always said this. Y'all intuition can always tell them can always tell you when a man cheating. Why can't that same intuition can't tell you when that man not not having a good day or he's not the same kind of person he is that you used to seeing. Why can't your intuition do that and listen every time? Every time he's not an argument. [00:37:33] Speaker B: That goddamn women intuition. That shit only work for cheating. Yeah, I ain't seen that. Y'all wake up with no map to the lucky charm treasure or no winning lottery ticket numbers yet. So I don't believe in that. Just cause you had a bad dream, cause you went to sleep, you probably ate a piece of pork chop. You ain't supposed to eat pork chop. [00:37:50] Speaker C: Just having a bad and you had a bad dream. [00:37:52] Speaker B: Now you wake up like Martin Luther King and not something more you could. [00:37:55] Speaker C: Feel you could feel. It's deep. It's deeper than that. You could definitely. [00:37:59] Speaker B: I don't respect that. Cause, bitch, I'm sorry. I got to stop doing that. [00:38:03] Speaker C: You do. [00:38:04] Speaker B: Okay, but that's just how I do that. Just how I talk. [00:38:06] Speaker C: No, you don't. Cause you ain't go tired of a woman like that. No, but I'm just talking, so that ain't how you. [00:38:11] Speaker B: Why y'all act like that? Word just get on y'all like it is. [00:38:14] Speaker C: It just sounds so disrespectful, you know? Other words. [00:38:17] Speaker B: I'm a respectful ass. I don't care about me saying no. If I ain't calling you directly to your face A, you'll know what I'm being disrespectful with. That working. I be in there like, you know. [00:38:32] Speaker D: All he going have to. All you going hear is. [00:38:37] Speaker B: Like, you feel me? Like, I just talking. Like I ain't. You know what I'm saying? Like, y'all know some, right? I ain't directing it necessarily. Like, is that the case, bro? I don't want y'all saying no more. And you. [00:38:51] Speaker C: I'm practicing that. But I'm practicing it. [00:38:54] Speaker B: You and nobody else. [00:38:57] Speaker C: No, that's where people. [00:38:59] Speaker A: I be around now. [00:39:00] Speaker C: Practice that I had. I'm quick. Change yourself. [00:39:03] Speaker E: But I'm not in no disrespectful way. I call everybody. Everybody. [00:39:07] Speaker B: See that? [00:39:08] Speaker C: Well, see, so. [00:39:10] Speaker B: So. So my thing is, I look at it different. I understand you look at it different. La Paris just cuz you just got on your healing journey. [00:39:18] Speaker C: Yeah. [00:39:19] Speaker B: And you coming together. [00:39:21] Speaker C: I feel like I'm finally thinking clearly. Girl, please, maturely. Cuz I wouldn't like that. [00:39:28] Speaker E: I love that for her. [00:39:29] Speaker C: I wouldn't like that for her. She should love that for. It took me a long time to get that. [00:39:35] Speaker D: Somebod about. They call their friends all the time. Look, be in the club. [00:39:42] Speaker B: No. I be like, you better tighten up. You talking about like. But when y'all walk up each other, what the difference? [00:39:50] Speaker D: Like that a term. [00:39:52] Speaker C: So when you go up to your homeboy, you'll call him A. You be like, what up? [00:39:55] Speaker B: I be like, what's up, ass? [00:39:56] Speaker C: I talk to J. I didn't heard that before. Y'all do talk like that. [00:40:00] Speaker B: I don't know female friends, as you said. What? [00:40:03] Speaker D: You lying. [00:40:04] Speaker E: I said I don't refer to my female friends as though. [00:40:07] Speaker B: What? So, okay. [00:40:09] Speaker C: I'm just saying so you know what? [00:40:12] Speaker A: Look, okay, that's okay. [00:40:15] Speaker E: I'm just saying, like, I don't do that. [00:40:17] Speaker B: But, I mean, not cool and dandy, but I just like saying everybody got. If Future say, if Future walk up on your ass and say, come here. Chris Brown walk up on you and say, come here, you just go ignore that. [00:40:41] Speaker C: Cause he got money. [00:40:42] Speaker B: Yeah. [00:40:43] Speaker C: Got that little bitty, itty bitty mind. No. [00:40:45] Speaker B: Walk right over there. [00:40:46] Speaker C: Too many people with money. [00:40:49] Speaker B: Not like that. If you got a choice between me and that celebrity, you better take your ass over there, girl. [00:40:57] Speaker C: Why? You're gonna have pot. You're gonna have them problems. [00:40:59] Speaker B: What kind of problem? [00:41:00] Speaker C: With a celebrity, man, comes a lot more issues than you would have. [00:41:05] Speaker D: Guess what? But y'all know that's what you want, though. We ain't talking about necessarily what if they come up. So if you want something, you. If you tell me you want something, that means you're willing to take everything that come with it, right? [00:41:17] Speaker C: If I want that, I. So I won't. I want. [00:41:21] Speaker B: So you wouldn't want what? [00:41:22] Speaker C: Even if I was celebrity, I would want a regular man, but now I'm saying a regular man that bought his business, but I wouldn't want another person, another celebrity. [00:41:32] Speaker B: Paris, please. [00:41:33] Speaker C: I wouldn't tell you something, cuz. I like a little. I like too much. [00:41:36] Speaker B: Hey, Tracy, I love y'all. Holl at you later. [00:41:38] Speaker C: I like too much time. I like. I like. I like too much. I need my man there, and a celebrity going to be just as busy as me. [00:41:48] Speaker D: That goes just back to what he just. [00:41:50] Speaker C: Exactly. That's why I knew what he was talking about. [00:41:53] Speaker B: Yeah, but listen, I like, a lot of times, though, a lot of times, I don't be trying to, like. I just know how it is being a nigga. Like, y'all might get the nigga of y'all dreams, bro, but y'all don't be knowing that. [00:42:04] Speaker C: Go for me knowing what to do with him. [00:42:06] Speaker D: Yeah, I agree with that. [00:42:07] Speaker C: I'm in the. I'm in the midst of that. Right, right. [00:42:09] Speaker B: You don't even be knowing what to do with that, nigga. [00:42:11] Speaker D: I can attest to that myself. Like, word. [00:42:13] Speaker B: Sometimes you could be the right person for the wrong person. [00:42:17] Speaker D: You could be the full package and be at the wrong address. Who talk to me like, that happened to me. I was in college, my 20, 19. I was playing ball, you know, starting everything. Like, everything's going good. Had a woman. She was older. I was like, 21. She was like, 21, bro. [00:42:32] Speaker B: I ain't gonna lie. Hold on. [00:42:34] Speaker D: And what happened was Paris, like, she was like everything you could Ask for, you know, everything was good. And this motherfucker I'm telling about, I socially cheated. You know, I wasn't used to. I've been splitting top of your game. Things going good, so you feel like the man and realizing that, shoot, you gotta start playing right there beside you. And to this day, I tell anybody that dealing with that woman changed me for the better. Cause now I know when I have something good, right? And listen, Nick, she has some nagging stuff about her and some stuff that I wish she would clean up. Cause she wasn't very confident woman. She wasn't used to. She would come to Florence, and we go out. People talking to my family, they know me. That kind of stuff. So she always felt like it was always somebody against her. And I'm just like, nah, that's just who we are. That kind of stuff. But I also had to learn, too, was she would. One of the things that I hated was she always kept constantly asking questions about our relationship. That kind of stuff. It would get aggravating. Cause I'm like, our relationship been a good place. But I had to realize, like, older women, y'all need to know, being a younger man, where are you trying to lead us, right? And understanding that every time a girl opens her mouth, she ain't bitching. Sometimes she just wanna talk to, you know, pick your brain, know what you got going on. [00:43:48] Speaker C: Exactly. [00:43:49] Speaker D: And I had to mature in that level to understand, like, oh, when I got something good. All right, stay with it. That kind of stuff. [00:43:57] Speaker B: So I just say, I be scared when it's going too good. I ain't lying. [00:44:01] Speaker A: But it's something I gotta want. [00:44:02] Speaker C: Me too. [00:44:02] Speaker B: I be like. [00:44:03] Speaker C: I be like, it's something. [00:44:06] Speaker B: Well, I mean, hey, listen, bro, it gotta be something. [00:44:08] Speaker A: It gotta be. But that's the thing that I always struggle with people, is why does it have to be something? That part is what pushes me to something. You know what I'm saying? It got to be something. My homeboy was like, oh, Lord. [00:44:23] Speaker C: My homeboy was like, I better stop doing that. They know. [00:44:27] Speaker A: My homeboy said. He said. He said. [00:44:29] Speaker C: Pushing the song. [00:44:30] Speaker A: This random girl he used to mess with. Random girl like he used to mess with, like, 10, 11 years ago. Hit him, like. And just text him. And he did not text back nothing. So some. I think his. The. [00:44:46] Speaker B: The. [00:44:46] Speaker A: The woman's wife. The woman's husband hit him up, sort of takes. Hey, man, hey, I saw she text you, but I also saw you didn't respond. So tell me about her. You know what I'M saying, what? You know, how has she hit you up before? He's like, yo, you got her phone? You going through it? Apparently, as you can see, I didn't text her back. As you can see, I didn't text her for her to send me the text. There's no history or anything. He was like, so what it is? And he was like, I would. He said. He said I would tell my girl. He said, but I already know the plethora of questions and nonsense I'm gonna go through. And I did, right? And he's like, and if I'm gonna go through that, I might as well have fucked her, because everything I'm gonna go through and I'm bringing her like, yo, this girl texted me. As you can see, I didn't text her back. I didn't. Just that. And the third, he was like, if I'm gonna get accused of cheating, I might as well have done it. And a lot of times that's what women do. Like, you could be the, the straightest arrow in the bunch. You doing everything you're supposed to do, and you still getting doubted. And it ain't because of you. It's because of whatever scarred shit she done been through. [00:45:49] Speaker B: And now, meanwhile, she's still cheating. [00:45:51] Speaker A: But she don't have to be cheating. Listen. [00:45:53] Speaker B: But it'd be different ways of cheating, though. [00:45:55] Speaker A: No, it's different ways of cheating because. [00:45:56] Speaker B: Once you give up your attention a little bit, you cheating as a woman. I ain't want my bitch smiling no face. [00:46:04] Speaker C: I'm telling you, you need to have a stiff ass. [00:46:06] Speaker B: You need to have a stiff ass attitude. You tried that with the wrong nigga, though. [00:46:09] Speaker C: I'm talking about. I tried that. Like, you know, now I, I. Let me see. Let me rephrase that. Cause this is a podcast, okay? I done tried that before. And being in the same. In the energy with another man, like, I could tell the difference. When I go back to the person that I'm really dealing with, I could tell my energy off a little bit. So I know he could tell. I'm like, nah, you could definitely. [00:46:32] Speaker A: No, you could tell when they're. I don't know if you could tell. I think you can tell when somebody is not happy more so than anything else. [00:46:39] Speaker B: If you can't tell when your person, you can't tell when your. If you can't tell when you're personally. [00:46:44] Speaker A: Happy, bro, that means the energy, I. [00:46:46] Speaker C: Don'T have to be not happy. [00:46:48] Speaker A: Cause like, for me, for me, when I'm not happy, some Stuff just not going right. And I'm trying to figure some shit out. I get quiet. I don't talk a lot, you know what I'm saying? And I'm sitting there and it ain't got nothing to do with you. It just got to do with me trying to figure out what's the move I gotta make, what's next, what I gotta do. Ain't got nothing to do with you. But you now in your feelings, because I'm not talking to you. But that ain't got nothing to do with nothing. Because I'm just in my head trying to figure out what's next. Like, I gotta figure this out. I got an issue. And sometimes I ain't got to bring that up with you. [00:47:22] Speaker B: Sometimes I just want women to come in her mind. [00:47:24] Speaker C: She wondering why you won't vocalize that. [00:47:27] Speaker B: Because this ain't. That ain't easy. [00:47:29] Speaker C: I mean, but if it'll ease the situation between. In the household. [00:47:32] Speaker B: But it'll ease the situation for you. [00:47:34] Speaker C: For him, too. [00:47:35] Speaker A: No, but for me. [00:47:36] Speaker C: Because it won't give him a headache from her. [00:47:38] Speaker A: But if that's how I deal, like, if you've been dealing with me and you know that that's how I deal, because I've expressed to you that this is how I deal now, the first time, maybe, yeah, I get it. But if you know that this is my process, you could just go, hey, I see you going through something. All right, cool. You want me to stay? You want me to go. What you need? That's. [00:47:55] Speaker B: I. [00:47:56] Speaker A: And now that I could deal with, because you could stay, I might just not want to talk to you about this. Let's watch a show or something like that. Anything to do get your mind off it, right? [00:48:04] Speaker C: Okay. [00:48:05] Speaker A: You know what I'm saying? [00:48:06] Speaker D: That's called knowing your partner, too. [00:48:08] Speaker A: Put my pants down and give me some head, you know? Like, you know, you don't know what's. [00:48:11] Speaker B: Going on that's gonna be fixing for me. [00:48:14] Speaker A: Hey. [00:48:19] Speaker B: Okay, okay. But that's what I'm saying. Some. [00:48:26] Speaker C: What is that? [00:48:30] Speaker A: No, if I'm. If I'm trying to deal and figure with something. Hold on. [00:48:33] Speaker C: I'm turned off. [00:48:34] Speaker A: You're missing. I think you're missing a lot of. It's not. The fact of this is just some random broad I'm dealing with. This is my woman that I'm dealing with. [00:48:42] Speaker C: All right? [00:48:42] Speaker A: You know what I'm saying? [00:48:43] Speaker B: Well, you can just come up with. [00:48:44] Speaker A: Me and she's doing something to try to make me feel better. Now, whether I engage or not, it's like, damn, this woman really trying to let me. Okay, you ain't got to do that. Whatever it is. You know what I'm saying? [00:48:53] Speaker B: Cause listen, bro, if you around, I'm going through some shit and you trying to suck my dick, bro, that shit gonna stay flat. It ain't gonna do nothing. [00:49:01] Speaker C: Exactly. [00:49:02] Speaker A: So, I don't know. [00:49:03] Speaker C: I mean, bro, but like I said, I guess. [00:49:05] Speaker A: No, you could say. [00:49:06] Speaker B: You can say that. [00:49:07] Speaker A: You can say that all you want. I've been getting for a very long time. [00:49:10] Speaker B: I look a lot better than you. [00:49:11] Speaker A: You can say what you want, I guess. And you probably do. [00:49:14] Speaker B: I do. [00:49:15] Speaker A: You probably. [00:49:15] Speaker B: I'm a sexy. [00:49:16] Speaker A: You probably in your own mind. Hey, but when I. When I. When I tell you. [00:49:26] Speaker B: I'm Already know. And listen, if Kim James Crawford ain't do nothing else, she made a hanso fly ass. You know what I'm saying? She ain't do nothing else in her lifetime. [00:49:41] Speaker C: She did that ain't it. [00:49:42] Speaker B: She did that. Look, she just drove a line, too. Look, if she ain't do nothing else, she made. You know what I'm saying? She made the king, man. You feel me? Like, how much time we got left? [00:49:52] Speaker A: Five minutes. [00:49:53] Speaker C: No, it ain't for real, but that. [00:49:55] Speaker B: Should be sliding, bro. [00:49:56] Speaker D: Yeah, especially if it's good conversation. [00:49:58] Speaker B: Yeah, that was great conversation. We had fun. [00:50:02] Speaker D: Your mama talked about leave me out of it. [00:50:05] Speaker C: That was. She said, leave her out of it. Cause you. Cause your son be doing the most sometimes what I be doing, talk to me, and we gonna leave her out of it. [00:50:18] Speaker D: Like, my mama say, I'm gonna do nothing but pray for you. [00:50:21] Speaker C: My mama be acting like she ain't talking like that. Or your mama on this live. [00:50:25] Speaker B: She just got on here. Talking like what? She wasn't know him. She wasn't know him while I was doing that. But, see, I ain't one of them neither. And then you know how I be sending my. I be sending my mama money. My mama can't say I ain't respectful. I pay for lunch. All type of. You know what I'm saying? Like, these. These niggas just be trying to impress y'all. [00:50:46] Speaker D: Yeah. [00:50:46] Speaker B: I don't even trick off on them. [00:50:48] Speaker D: And the thing is that, like, no disrespect to no woman, but that. Y'all be regular. [00:50:51] Speaker C: I don't regular that no more, boy. [00:50:53] Speaker B: Regular. I'm talking about motherfuckers be so regular and got. Oh, I need you. I ain't doing 50. 50, bitch, you shake like you need to be doing 50. 50. I'm sorry. Cause if I'm paying 100% of the bills, oh, you got to look like something. [00:51:10] Speaker D: Yeah. [00:51:10] Speaker B: This ain't just no love, baby. I don't know what y'all get. That's a bad. That's a real bad bitch. Like, energy. I got the one to come and see you when I get off of work. Oh, yeah, you looking like. How you supposed to look? [00:51:27] Speaker A: All the. [00:51:28] Speaker B: All that shit you in here playing my thermometer all day. Other than that, get your ass up and go to work. [00:51:35] Speaker D: Man, I work at the clubs, man. And I be like, you know, I'm like. I see these same girls I follow on Facebook or whatever, and I be looking like, nah, baby, ain't no way you 300 likes, 400 likes. [00:51:47] Speaker C: You know, I do see that. [00:51:50] Speaker B: I fuck around and seeing a girl, girl, bro, comment on some shit, Comment on some. And was like, oh, yeah, y'all ain't never had a. With no money. This, this, that, and the third. That's why y'all so low maintenance, Why I went on this girl page. Ain't no way you getting a. With no money. And then there's no way in hell a. A With the funds come through and drop a bag on you and you look the way you look. No, them be the ones lying. [00:52:18] Speaker C: They willing to do whatever that man tell them to do. [00:52:20] Speaker B: And guess what? That man ain't giving up no money for that. [00:52:22] Speaker D: And then on top of that, what do y'all consider real money? Cuz some of y'all think $25,000 or 30. [00:52:28] Speaker C: No, and I used to. I used to think that, baby, not with what I'm trying to do, baby, that ain't nothing. [00:52:34] Speaker B: But listen, though, you can't say that ain't no real money if you ain't got 25,000 yourself. [00:52:38] Speaker D: But you know what? I'm just saying, Like. [00:52:40] Speaker C: Like to say, like, cuz that really. [00:52:42] Speaker D: Life changing money, regardless, I could do something with it. Like real deal. [00:52:47] Speaker C: But saying that no, what don't be. [00:52:49] Speaker B: No money is when them get their ass on that Internet with that 1500. Oh, yeah, y'all selling drugs and showing $3,000. Boy, please. You know what I'm saying? But bill money. But y'all need. Don't even have no bills, I'm telling you. But don't be that. Why I don't even get into the money conversations with people, bro. Cause that money be on some different. [00:53:12] Speaker D: Yeah. [00:53:13] Speaker B: Cause I'm the type of bro, I ain't no who gonna get on them people Internet trying to show you no money to look attractive. I can talk to you, right? I have a mind, you know what I'm saying? Like showing money on the Internet. But that just be like a girl who show her ass all day. You just want that. That's your way of feeling it. Because you know you can't just walk up on her right, looking ugly as. You know what I'm saying? You can't dress none of this. Whoop the whoop. You stank you. You know what I'm saying? You smell like weed all day, bro. That's the only way y'all some are attractive, right? Oh, I got. I got to do this. Oh, y'all ain't got no money. Y'all ain't having. Bro, you ain't about your child nothing all year, but you spending money on. [00:53:53] Speaker C: All these in the club every weekend. [00:53:55] Speaker B: Talk to me. But I don't respect like that. I don't give a damn about none of these poet who won't take care of their responsibility, bro. You can spend your money on these trifling ass hoes all you want to that ain't got that, ain't got the Honda Accord, but you feel the need to go do this, this, that, and the third because she got a fat ass. Well, I that every piece of ain't for me. So if you come at me and tell me, oh, you don't spend enough money, you don't do this, you don't do this. I don't want to deal with you. It's just not for me. That's cool. You just found some suckers. I ain't no sucker ass. And I ain't got to show you that I got some money. That's just me. I don't have to show you I got some money. If you don't believe I got money, cool. [00:54:34] Speaker D: That's you. [00:54:35] Speaker C: All right. [00:54:35] Speaker B: Real talk. Because what I eat don't make you. [00:54:37] Speaker D: Exactly. [00:54:38] Speaker B: Because half the time the who got themselves, bro, they ain't got no money either. They got how you got what, what make. What make a have money. And bro, we grown also. Like, if can't nobody depend on you and you got. You supposed to have money. Emotional. You ain't doing right. You're not doing. Bro, we grown, bro. Yeah, you could go buy some Jordans. [00:54:59] Speaker D: Cool. [00:55:00] Speaker B: You could go buy some. You could be fresh. [00:55:02] Speaker D: Cool. [00:55:02] Speaker B: You could buy a little jewelry. [00:55:04] Speaker D: Cool. [00:55:05] Speaker B: So what your kids don't be looking like you look, you ain't take your baby. You ain't make sure your kid get a haircut every two weeks. But you will go send that some money. [00:55:17] Speaker D: And then she don't even like you for real. [00:55:18] Speaker B: She don't like you unless you spending some money right. And then this be my thing. You think if she only attracting rich after rich or with money? With money, with money. I don't know about these. If I'm giving you money, I don't feel the need to use no condom either. So you went from this, this, this, this, this, this, and everybody using robbers. Girl, please get the. I'm up here. [00:55:43] Speaker D: And on top of that, I've actually. [00:55:44] Speaker B: Seen that big ass. [00:55:45] Speaker D: I'd have been to it, man. I done been to like, you know, I'm like, okay, I don't want the girls houses. And I'd be like, damn, that's how you living behind social media. And I'd be like, nah, baby, I can't even associate myself with you. And I'm not saying, you know, just like down looking down on somebody. But I'm like, I always say you don't even want better for your own self. So I knew you ain't gonna want better with me. [00:56:08] Speaker B: And listen, bro, and I'm the type of nigga I be knowing, you know, like not trying to. I don't be in people business, but I know your business just being around people who be in people business. You feel me? Like it's certain niggas. I won't touch a bitch after her, after him. [00:56:22] Speaker D: Yes, Lord. [00:56:23] Speaker B: Cause all that's all you do, bro. All you want to do is your ass ain't been to the doctor in. [00:56:29] Speaker D: Five years and probably got all kind of pops. Everything that damn my chart light up like a damn Krispy Kreme hot sign. [00:56:39] Speaker B: Real talk, bro. But bro, them be the that they love, bro. What they attracted to my cabra. I be seeing these girl like, like with some of you cornet. I don't want you. I'm cool. I'm. I already know I'm gonna be too good to you. I already know. Like once you get hold to a like me who really holds substance come in this, I'm bringing something out on the table. I'm gonna talk to you like somebody and we gonna build. I'ma you up. [00:57:07] Speaker C: Yeah. [00:57:07] Speaker B: And I ain't got to sell drugs to do it. And I ain't got. I ain't got no ops. It's a lot of come with them with money and them girls don't be. And then it'd be out here taking penitentiary chances. It'd be taking penitentiary chances. You spending money or you trying to impress these girls. As soon as your ass get locked up for the dumb you doing, that girl out. [00:57:26] Speaker C: Okay. [00:57:26] Speaker B: And on to the next. That girl ain't writing no letter. She ain't putting 25. It only cost 25 a week to talk to the girl. You know what I'm saying? [00:57:36] Speaker C: I still be your friend, but I ain't doing no more business like in a relationship. Hell. [00:57:40] Speaker B: Word. I'm telling you, bro. So. But that be real. Imagine the them be the. That go behind the wall and get stupid too. Cause niggas be thinking this sweet. Y'all be out here taking these penitentiary chances. I'ma buy this. This I'm about this. This I'm about to bring. None of them girls got your back. It'd be like that for me. Like it. [00:58:00] Speaker C: It depends. Not this my man. [00:58:02] Speaker B: Man. This one La Paris. [00:58:03] Speaker C: You always be trying to put yourself this my man. Bro. [00:58:06] Speaker B: I'm talking from a man point of view. I'm speaking on the man point of view. And. And if you dealing with a rich a lot of times that don't just be your man. Talk to me. You're quiet now. [00:58:17] Speaker D: What'd you say? [00:58:17] Speaker C: Clock that, T. Clock that T. I ain't quiet. Cause I said that was one of the reasons why I said earlier. I wouldn't want a celebrity nigga. I would want a regular man. [00:58:25] Speaker B: Man, them regular niggas be cheating just as bad. [00:58:27] Speaker C: That's how you gotta get a regular man. Not a regular nigga. [00:58:29] Speaker A: A regular boy. [00:58:30] Speaker B: A regular man could cheat too. [00:58:32] Speaker C: Yeah, but it depends on who you dealing with. [00:58:35] Speaker A: Yeah, it depends on like some dudes just ain't got. They've risen above. [00:58:40] Speaker C: A regular woman could cheat. Anybody could cheat. It just depends on the person my cheating days over with. I didn't cheat enough. [00:58:49] Speaker B: I'm not. I'm not doing. Bro. [00:58:51] Speaker C: I'm not. [00:58:52] Speaker B: I'm not going through. I'm not going through no phone shoddy. No. [00:58:56] Speaker C: I'm scared of that. No. [00:58:57] Speaker B: Oh, we. Cause you ain't gonna have me. I'm already in the gym. I ain't got to get. I ain't trying to lose weight like that. [00:59:02] Speaker C: Look like you got you on a pedestal. And I look in that phone and see I've been fooled. Oh, Lord. [00:59:09] Speaker B: Girl, I might want to pull water on your ass the out you. But I don't hit women me. You know what I'm saying? So I'mma just dump some water on your stupid ass while you sleep. Like and get up. [00:59:22] Speaker C: Oh, you talking more than that now. Who you. [00:59:25] Speaker B: No, I ain't, bro. [00:59:26] Speaker C: You look through that phone, you see. So you. You going to do more to say, get out. [00:59:30] Speaker B: I'mma get. I might get up. I might leave you in the. You, where you at? You gone? Yeah. Hey, you was tuned in to another episode of Peas in the Pie. I'd like to thank my guests, you already. [00:59:45] Speaker D: Know what I'm saying, Paige. [00:59:47] Speaker B: Yeah. We got to do this again next week. My boy Yoshi was on point. Yo, she got a lot of compliments today, man. [00:59:54] Speaker D: It might be the Miami fit, too, now. [00:59:57] Speaker B: It might be the Miami fit, you know what I'm saying? [00:59:59] Speaker D: I have to bring him another. Some more food because he was talking. [01:00:03] Speaker B: Yeah, yeah, yeah. But you know what I'm saying? And listen the fuck. Episode release Thursday. Well, Wednesday at midnight going into Thursday, y'all can tap in this Peas in the Pie, man. We outside. [01:00:16] Speaker D: Peace.